If you pair well with “alpha” men

[Anonymous]

Be careful what you wish for. Real-life alphas often get their asses kicked.

I boxed in high school and college because I had a horrible temper, and it was a great way to let off steam. Now, I present myself as calm and easygoing because if I get too angry, it gets rough. I also do not drink, as it can make staying in control much harder.

At a neighborhood party recently, one of the neighbors (a man who tells people he is an alpha) found out I used to box and started teasing me (e.g., pretending to swing at me, etc.) I tried to walk away, but he was tipsy and did not like that I ignored him. He took a swing, and I bruised three of his ribs. It could have gone much worse for him.

I have never come close to harming anyone in my family, and I will never do so. However, I suggest that women keep an eye on their alpha men. Many men who appear beta may be doing so that they avoid confrontations that would hurt others.

[Anonymous]

Alpha to me means that the optics and machinations of relationships, family life, major decisions, and social networking- friends,etc., flow through the alpha guy, instead of the other way around. He has a big bro culture- and everything that goes with it. Now, if it is through the female, she may be an alpha, but not necessarily. She may just be picking up the stick that was left. With a guy, he seeks that role.

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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

DCUM ladies, listen to this woman.

Well said. That’s what an “alpha” dominant male does. He isn’t a pushover. He takes the lead. He is trustworthy. His woman feel comfortable following him. He protects her, takes care of her. He initiates and dominates her in bed.

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[Anonymous]

My friend who married more of an alpha type is very easy going. She is down to earth, not spoiled, a genuinely nice person and fun to be around. My friends and I are all more spoiled than she is. We’re nice people but she is inherently kinder and probably nicer to her husband.

Honestly, most women I know aren’t married to alphas. They’re married to men who let them call most of the shots.

[Anonymous]

The alphas who make good partners IMO are covert alphas.

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My husband has the good alpha traits. But he is not alpha to excess…..Thank God! He is very ambitious and take charge but he’s a great listener, problem solver and supportive. My sister calls him her favorite unicorn.

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

Say the cat lady. Stay with your cats. Lol

Aw honey, did I hurt your alpha feelings? Since I don’t agree, I must be a cat lady? lol, thanks for showing us your true colors . . .

It doesn’t matter to me if I’m just a prop ti him. What matters is how he makes ME feel. Thus to me it’s about ME, not him. Dominant men are the most giving in bedroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be careful what you wish for. Real-life alphas often get their asses kicked.

I boxed in high school and college because I had a horrible temper, and it was a great way to let off steam. Now, I present myself as calm and easygoing because if I get too angry, it gets rough. I also do not drink, as it can make staying in control much harder.

At a neighborhood party recently, one of the neighbors (a man who tells people he is an alpha) found out I used to box and started teasing me (e.g., pretending to swing at me, etc.) I tried to walk away, but he was tipsy and did not like that I ignored him. He took a swing, and I bruised three of his ribs. It could have gone much worse for him.

I have never come close to harming anyone in my family, and I will never do so. However, I suggest that women keep an eye on their alpha men. Many men who appear beta may be doing so that they avoid confrontations that would hurt others.

I dated both beta snd alphas. I found that 90% betas had hidden vices and were actually pretty difficult to deal with socially ti me as a woman. Hysterical at times, lack of self control etc. When a man suppressed his natural masculinity it may result in unexpected “side effects” that are much worse than being openly dominant alpha who simply gives sexy orders that’s very simple to accept for a loving submissive woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen alpha men want women they can dominate. And that means your wishes and needs are always secondary to theirs. So they pair well with dishrags.

lolol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be careful what you wish for. Real-life alphas often get their asses kicked.

I boxed in high school and college because I had a horrible temper, and it was a great way to let off steam. Now, I present myself as calm and easygoing because if I get too angry, it gets rough. I also do not drink, as it can make staying in control much harder.

At a neighborhood party recently, one of the neighbors (a man who tells people he is an alpha) found out I used to box and started teasing me (e.g., pretending to swing at me, etc.) I tried to walk away, but he was tipsy and did not like that I ignored him. He took a swing, and I bruised three of his ribs. It could have gone much worse for him.

I have never come close to harming anyone in my family, and I will never do so. However, I suggest that women keep an eye on their alpha men. Many men who appear beta may be doing so that they avoid confrontations that would hurt others.

Emotional dysregulation bottled up at work or in public, can make for verbal or emotional abuse, or physical abuse at home behinds closed doors. By “nice guy” betas or alphas or other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend who married more of an alpha type is very easy going. She is down to earth, not spoiled, a genuinely nice person and fun to be around. My friends and I are all more spoiled than she is. We’re nice people but she is inherently kinder and probably nicer to her husband.

Honestly, most women I know aren’t married to alphas. They’re married to men who let them call most of the shots.

That’s passive, reactive, lazy. To “let” your wife do everything.

Alphas have too much pride in things to do that. They’ll plan a party and tell the wife to show up and enjoy it! They’ll take the kid to batting practice twice a week without being told. They’ll see a little dent in your car and whisk it to the body shop over lunch for you.

What they won’t do is ignore things that need addressing. They are proactive. They can probably even start and hold discussions with you on matters of the house or kids or schedules.

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

No. Grow up.

That’s only if they are demanding you wear their selected outfit all the time.

Thinking of you in the sexy orange dress for your last Hawaii trip and saying Wear That!, is thoughtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is an alpha man? A jerk?

I think popular press has made alpha woman or alpha man have bad connotations.

But it really means being proactive vs passive in most aspects of life - career, dating, kids, house, sports, health & fitness.

And being proactive and active requires self discipline, which many people don’t have.

[Anonymous]

No one who ever impressed me as a person has ever used the tem "alpha male" serioualy.

[Anonymous]

OP used the wrong term. “Alpha” denotes some kind of James Bond type. We live in a world where women are more than just props for male achievement. OP, describe the kind of man you want - he doesn’t have to be “alpha”; he can be a kind, loving partner who is successful and considerate - and that’s fine. Doesn’t make him less of a man because he’s not showing up the rest of the “betas” at the cocktail party…