If you pair well with “alpha” men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

And this is why men are going abroad for wives, this is the quintessential modern American woman mentality.

It’s a good option for low status men who can’t attract a desirable partner at home.

[Anonymous]

The issue is -- what is an alpha male. I think it is a guy that is a leader, gets stuff done, confident, could be smart. The kind of person people would go to or listen to in a crisis. That's all. No one is great at everything. But are there things that you DH does where you say --- yeah he has that or can handle that.

It does not mean dominant in a realtionship or in bed. It could. And there is a level of confidence there. It does not mean toxic masculinity. It does not mean they skip the childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

Sounds hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m just using the term because it’s popular now. I’m referring to men who like to take on the traditional male gender role….ambitious, stoic, dominant, are some adjectives that come to mind.

My husband is ambitious and stoic but no way dominant in our relationship. I’m ambitious but maybe not as stoic but we get along very well because we understand each others strengths and how we complement each other.

[Anonymous]

My DH is very alpha. But he would never refer to himself that way or think of himself that way.

He is extremely ambitious, puts family first, stoic to extent but still a smiling personality in group settings. Both appropriately and "inappropriately" dominant. Not misogynistic at all. Dresses extremely well. Very defined fit body, but not a gym rat or diet freak. No bs or fluff you know exactly how feels about everything.

I don't think there is one size fits all of definition of alpha. The book doesn't always match the cover and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is shocking to be honest. I am confused as to what women want. They are contradicting themselves. If you look at their positions regarding gender roles in other threads versus their positions here it's schizophrenic

It's almost as if all women are different

[Anonymous]

You can have many opinions without feeling compelled to always express them. Just relax and observe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can have many opinions without feeling compelled to always express them. Just relax and observe.

Exactly. It’s very natural for many women to be submissive, as receiving partners. How that can be even a question