If you pair well with “alpha” men

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Yes - you get it. There is nothing worse to hear from a man. It's a pure rejection. A real alpha will pick the dress, put it on you and will rip it off when you are back home. Right there on the floor as you bend to take off your shoes. I've had such relationships - these men are the best. And they are actually true equal partners in long term relationships, appreciating your contribution as a woman, whether economical or emotional

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

He in only your boyfriend but already 'head of your household'?

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

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I am STILL waiting for a day or weekend when my husband says, “Hey, I’m going to go fix the ABC for a couple hours but then I heard about a cool festival we should go to at XYZ for lunch and then music? Sound good?!”

For a dominant alpha male it's in his blood. He and his woman deserve the BEST of experiences. He would devote special time before going out to surprise you, and it will be always an experience for both. If a bar - it will have a view. If flowers - it will be ikebana bouquet he assembled for you. And so on. I can keep going, what else they do, and how sexy it is but it will be sensored.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

He in only your boyfriend but already 'head of your household'?

I’m sure her children and their father love that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

He in only your boyfriend but already 'head of your household'?

I’m sure her children and their father love that

I don't know, if this man really wanted to be 'head of the household', wouldn't he seal the deal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

+1

I am STILL waiting for a day or weekend when my husband says, “Hey, I’m going to go fix the ABC for a couple hours but then I heard about a cool festival we should go to at XYZ for lunch and then music? Sound good?!”

For a dominant alpha male it's in his blood. He and his woman deserve the BEST of experiences. He would devote special time before going out to surprise you, and it will be always an experience for both. If a bar - it will have a view. If flowers - it will be ikebana bouquet he assembled for you. And so on. I can keep going, what else they do, and how sexy it is but it will be sensored.

My husband doesn’t hold doors or pick up luggage- I’ve totally got that down. I also hate this type “help” because I don’t need it (yet at least)

He does plan dates, plan all of our vacation spots, print out menus for me to choose which restaurants to eat at on vacation. If he says hey lets go here I can easily say, not thinks and he has no problem with switching and believe me he has back ups.

If I want to buy something, he pulls up reviews and will figure out the best one.

He is not an alpha. But he does take good care of me and I do love that.

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I love that we can eat whatever food I am in the mood for and my DH always goes along happy. It’s one of his best qualities. I can’t imagine finding someone who makes all my choices sexy- sounds too controlling and high maintenance to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

[Anonymous]

My DH is very masculine: stoic, dominant, high earner, strong. He is also a decade older, so when we started dating in my early 20s, the relationship dynamic has always been a little power imbalanced.

The pros: I don’t pay for anything. I work part time and my paycheck is mine. He also buys me whatever I want. He takes care of all the bills.
We have several children and I stayed home with them for as long as I wanted.
He is very attracted to me and is very affectionate. He definitely loves me.
He is very protective of me and the children and will not let anyone speak ill of me or hit on me without consequence.
He is very hardworking.
The cons: He doesn’t care very much how people feel. He won’t lie ever, even to protect my feelings.
He won’t let me do things he deems “unsafe” (like driving far at night).
He never takes vacations.
He won’t do anything he really doesn’t want to do.

I love my DH very much, but I definitely think you have to have a very easygoing personality to deal with men like him.

[Anonymous]

What is an alpha man? A jerk?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

Say the cat lady. Stay with your cats. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im a professionally successful woman, I was married for a decade to a “beta male”. I was in charge and he followed along. Clearly that didn’t work as we are no longer married. The professional environment in which I thrive is not the same in which I thrive personally.

I am now dating a man who you probably consider “alpha”. He just makes sure stuff gets done. He is as liberal politically as I am, and doesnt see me as a second class citizen at all. But he views it as his job to make sure Im good. Im safe. Im taken care of. Same with my kids, his kids, his parents and younger siblings, etc. He does things for me that I could do myself. He makes my life easier. To use the tik tok parlance that “alpha male” comes from, I am a passenger princess. He holds doors and carries heavy things and pushes the cart in the grocery store. I can go out with him without a purse and be fine (lack of makeup for a touchup aside) because he can take care of whatever I need. He is the head of the household and takes that responsibility very seriously. And he absolutely dominates me in bed, in a very consensual, safe manner.

10/10, highly recommend men who are “men”.

I am you. Also divorcing beta (or is there lower than that) male (his affair). I am so sick of carrying all the decisions and strength in our relationship and never having an initiator or protector. I pray I’ll find a good man and am so achievers in my career and life now that I crave to take the secondary role. Where do high moral alpha females go to find similar alpha males?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 2. DH is an 8. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Attractive men sometimes get off more with less attractive women. See, e.g., Schwarzenegger.

That’s the typical affair down thing some of them do. An ugly chick is thankful they are banging them and gives the narc all the breadcrumbs and smoke blowing up his butt. Though they marry and have kids with the woman that makes them look good- hot, successful, intelligent and for breeding-genetics of their kids.

[Anonymous]

Most cheat and drink and womanize. Women like the bad alpha boys.

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Anonymous wrote:I need someone who is more alpha than me. I am pretty ambitious myself, but also want to feel like the woman.

Can you talk a little more about what this looks like in your relationships? What makes you feel like a woman?

Someone who is as successful professionally as I am (both money and prestige-wise). Someone who stands up for himself and doesn’t let others walk all over him in general. Someone not afraid to go after what he wants in life, and exhibits confidence.

However, I also want to feel like the woman dating and sexually. I love chivalry… things like the guy holding the door or carrying my luggage. I like the guy perusing me… him being the one asking for my number and asking me out, picking the restaurant, etc. Once in a relationship, I don’t mind taking the traditional female tasks and him the male (me taking the lead in the kitchen, him helping me get my car fixed if it breaks down, etc…). I realize everyone won’t agree with this, but it works for me.

You are the dream woman.
Most men like women like you.

No, most men like women like that but don’t put an effort sufficient to be dominant enough in a true masculine way.
Just like a PP I LOVE when my man makes decisions for me like a restaurant we go to, the dress I wear to a party etc. By far not all men “get” how sexy it is. How it shows me that he cares and wants me!

This has to be sarcasm right?

Absolutely not - “honey, wear whatever you want “ sounds like a total turn off to me.

Aka I don’t care. I don’t even care to take a look. I also don’t care to think about an outfit I liked before. I. Don’t. Care. About. You.

Picking out the outfit is not about you. It’s about their control, their desire. You are just a prop.

Say the cat lady. Stay with your cats. Lol

Aw honey, did I hurt your alpha feelings? Since I don’t agree, I must be a cat lady? lol, thanks for showing us your true colors . . .