Leaving Ashburn, done with this crap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

I live in North Arlington, trust me when I tell you this happens here, too. If you're not cute and white and blonde, you're not part of the bus stop crew. Your kid might be invited to the bus stop end of year party, but you will be largely ignored.

Surprising, Arlington seems pretty international.

[Anonymous]

I live in Arlington - we have it here, too. But, I have found my people.

Go to Burke, or Fairfax - you're more likely to find less snobbery and more down-to-earth people.

[Anonymous]

We have friends in Ashburn who used to live inside the beltway and when we get together their Ashburn fried a are very nice and chatty. However there are a few that despite being nice and chatty are very into looking affluent, drive g wagons etc seem that the savings living our there can get you other things and it does seem snobby but they are very nice and maybe it's because they know we are in high level exec jobs and have money as well but we don't flash it. We are what people think are attractive and well put together in a Caucasian way despite one spouse being half , so I could imagine the select few would be less friendly if we were ugly or not affluent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking to escape crap, cattyness, and meanness, you really need to relocate outside the DMV.

Wisest post of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking to escape crap, cattyness, and meanness, you really need to relocate outside the DMV.

Wisest post of the day.

As someone who left the DMV this is 1000% true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

I live in North Arlington, trust me when I tell you this happens here, too. If you're not cute and white and blonde, you're not part of the bus stop crew. Your kid might be invited to the bus stop end of year party, but you will be largely ignored.

This makes me a lot happier about my community. All of the moms are mostly Indian and most of them group together, but we still smile at each other and talk from time to time. I don’t think they’re gossiping about me or other moms! There are a few other non Indian moms (three or so) and we also chat from time to time but we aren’t friends. I try to suggest group activities so our kids can go to same camp, sport. That’s basically all we talk about. Me and one other mom who is European are the only white moms. I guess living in an immigrant community has its perks. Being super close to the neighbors can get very awkward if there is a clash. We live in townhouses so we are all super close to each other.

Where do you live? Where I live the Indian moms are definitely gossiping, it's just that you don't know it because they are talking in their mother tongues. They are also terribly snobby about leaving about American borns like me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

I live in North Arlington, trust me when I tell you this happens here, too. If you're not cute and white and blonde, you're not part of the bus stop crew. Your kid might be invited to the bus stop end of year party, but you will be largely ignored.

Surprising, Arlington seems pretty international.

This really depends on where in Arlington you live. I am one of two non-white moms on our street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Burke! Move to Burke

Yes to Burke or Springfield.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

Read below and profit thereby!

"A man moved to a new town. He asked a local resident whether the people there were friendly or not.

The resident asked the man, “What were people like where you used to live?”

The newcomer scowled and said, “They were really an unfriendly and rude bunch, and I couldn’t wait to get away from that place.”

The resident said, “Well, I’m afraid you’ll find the people here are pretty much the same. A week later,another man came to town. He happened to meet the same resident and asked him the same question. The local asked this second newcomer the same question: “What were the people like in the town where you used to live?”

This newcomer smiled and said, “Oh, that town was the friendliest place you could ever imagine.”

The local returned the smile and said, “Well, I’m glad to hear it, I think you’ll find people here are very friendly too.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

Read below and profit thereby!

"A man moved to a new town. He asked a local resident whether the people there were friendly or not.

The resident asked the man, “What were people like where you used to live?”

The newcomer scowled and said, “They were really an unfriendly and rude bunch, and I couldn’t wait to get away from that place.”

The resident said, “Well, I’m afraid you’ll find the people here are pretty much the same. A week later,another man came to town. He happened to meet the same resident and asked him the same question. The local asked this second newcomer the same question: “What were the people like in the town where you used to live?”

This newcomer smiled and said, “Oh, that town was the friendliest place you could ever imagine.”

The local returned the smile and said, “Well, I’m glad to hear it, I think you’ll find people here are very friendly too.”

Cute story but still doesn't get around the fact that people in dc are a$$holes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

Read below and profit thereby!

"A man moved to a new town. He asked a local resident whether the people there were friendly or not.

The resident asked the man, “What were people like where you used to live?”

The newcomer scowled and said, “They were really an unfriendly and rude bunch, and I couldn’t wait to get away from that place.”

The resident said, “Well, I’m afraid you’ll find the people here are pretty much the same. A week later,another man came to town. He happened to meet the same resident and asked him the same question. The local asked this second newcomer the same question: “What were the people like in the town where you used to live?”

This newcomer smiled and said, “Oh, that town was the friendliest place you could ever imagine.”

The local returned the smile and said, “Well, I’m glad to hear it, I think you’ll find people here are very friendly too.”

Cute story but still doesn't get around the fact that people in dc are a$$holes.

Including you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone moves to Alexandria for the schools.

What?? Alexandria has terrible schools!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking to escape crap, cattyness, and meanness, you really need to relocate outside the DMV.

TBH, this is true all over the country in UMC circles. I have friends complaining about this cattiness in Michigan, Southern California, Florida, nice suburbs of Dallas Texas, and definitely in NW DC, Bethesda, Potomac, and Northern VA. It's a thing UMC women do to jockey with one another for status. It's exhausting and such a "luxury" pastime. Oh, and be sure to tag everyone in your IG story!

My kids go to a public in DC with lots of international families, OOB kids, and vast majority of families are dual income. There's less of this mom-led cliquey'ness than in the suburban schools, IMHO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you will find this phenomenon in any upwardly mobile, majority white suburb. I'm in one myself and I consider it a suburban hellscape. I often keep to myself, befriend the more normal minority/immigrants, avoid the gossip, and am nice but not overly social. It gets better as the kids get older and you don't need to socialize as much. I can't wait to leave when the kids go off to college.

So how do we find friends who are not just superficial friends but still live in a nice area. Are the two incompatible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many fake people and relationships. The mothers at the bustop talk so much crap and are so catty and mean. I need to be around positive influences, looking at moving to Arlington, Alexandria or Potomac.

Read below and profit thereby!

"A man moved to a new town. He asked a local resident whether the people there were friendly or not.

The resident asked the man, “What were people like where you used to live?”

The newcomer scowled and said, “They were really an unfriendly and rude bunch, and I couldn’t wait to get away from that place.”

The resident said, “Well, I’m afraid you’ll find the people here are pretty much the same. A week later,another man came to town. He happened to meet the same resident and asked him the same question. The local asked this second newcomer the same question: “What were the people like in the town where you used to live?”

This newcomer smiled and said, “Oh, that town was the friendliest place you could ever imagine.”

The local returned the smile and said, “Well, I’m glad to hear it, I think you’ll find people here are very friendly too.”

I love this and think it's so true.