Do women ever look better after 40?

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Anonymous wrote:I do. I had a glow up, as my teen tells me. But it's all relative. I certainly don't look 25 or even 35. But I look fit, happy, and healthy at 50. In better shape, with better style, than 10 years ago.

I think it also matters what your starting point was. If you were overweight, bad skin, not healthy or had a lot of baby weight you didn’t lose, of course you may look better in your forties and fifties if you are better put together.

If you are an attractive woman in her twenties, it is unlikely you look better in your forties than in your forties.

Someone like JLo is the exception. I thought she looked trashy and not my style when she was a fly girl. She was gorgeous and classy in her forties. She is obviously the exception and she is JLo.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of my friends oook amazing at 50?+. Mostly black women.

I’m not saying women can’t look good into their fifties but do they ever look better after 40 than when they were younger in their twenties or thirties. No one looks better as an older lady.

That isn't true and what about old men? Most old men are fugly but no let's trash older women!

Op boo!

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Anonymous wrote:I think I look *comparatively* better at 40 than when I was younger. That is, I’m a much better looking 40 year old than I was a 20 year old.

OP here. I was very attractive in my twenties. I am well maintained and probably look better than most women in our mid- late forties. However, there is no way I look better now than when I was 25. I used to walk into clubs and get guys hitting on me constantly daily on the street, elevator, grocery store. That does not happen to me now.

Happens to me at 46. Did not happen in my 20s. I think it is confidence level. And I was too skinny.

Women who were skinny in their twenties often have some nice curves in their forties. And men are simple creatures. They notice the curves.

Like pp you can't imagine that women only want to look good for men, not themselves.

[Anonymous]

I do believe that at 52 I look darn good compared to my peers but no way as good as when I was 25. Bo woman does unless she had paid surgeons and others big bucks. And, they usually look fake. A 52 year old woman with large firm boobs doesn’t get them naturally.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of my friends oook amazing at 50?+. Mostly black women.

I’m not saying women can’t look good into their fifties but do they ever look better after 40 than when they were younger in their twenties or thirties. No one looks better as an older lady.

That isn't true and what about old men? Most old men are fugly but no let's trash older women!

Op boo!

The internalized misogyny is strong

[Anonymous]

I definitely looked my best from around 26-33. Lost weight put on in college from partying and worked out a lot. Then worked a shitty job lots of hours less working out and then o had a kid and recovered from that and looked good again at 40. Now it’s been a slow slide fighting weight gain and at 49 I look ok for my age but that’s it. I really have to watch what I eat or I get a belly. Thanks perimenopause. My face is ok I stayed out of the sun and get Botox now. But I do not look better than my peak no way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think I look *comparatively* better at 40 than when I was younger. That is, I’m a much better looking 40 year old than I was a 20 year old.

OP here. I was very attractive in my twenties. I am well maintained and probably look better than most women in our mid- late forties. However, there is no way I look better now than when I was 25. I used to walk into clubs and get guys hitting on me constantly daily on the street, elevator, grocery store. That does not happen to me now.

PP here. What I meant was that I stack up better against my fellow 40 somethings than I did against my fellow 20 somethings, I think. I suspect it’s because apparently (according to people guessing my age over the years) I have looked 35 for the past 20 years. Not fun when I was younger, but now that I am older I feel I have finally aged into my looks, so to speak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I definitely looked my best from around 26-33. Lost weight put on in college from partying and worked out a lot. Then worked a shitty job lots of hours less working out and then o had a kid and recovered from that and looked good again at 40. Now it’s been a slow slide fighting weight gain and at 49 I look ok for my age but that’s it. I really have to watch what I eat or I get a belly. Thanks perimenopause. My face is ok I stayed out of the sun and get Botox now. But I do not look better than my peak no way.

Op here. I am also in a slow slide downhill right now. I am working out more and eating healthier than before but that isn’t enough. I was able to drop down to my pre pregnancy weight so I was the same weight at 30 and 40. Now I’m +10 pounds. I know gaining 10 pounds in 15 years after birthing 3 children isn’t bad but it feels bad after being thin my whole life.

[Anonymous]

59yo male here. My partner (who I will be with forever) is 61. We've been together for years.

My answer is that women can and often do get hotter as they age.

Just yesterday we had some afternoon delight that was nothing short of mind blowing for us both. I have never in my life been as attracted to someone as I am to her, and I have definitely had some great relationships.

We are both in good, but not near perfect, shape, healthy, and average looking, but happy and self confident. She has survived cancer and had a double mastectomy. So why do I find her hot?

She is enthusiastic and open in the bedroom, often initiates, and is incredibly smart (I want to hear what she has to say about any subject). She has a very positive attitude about life and that alone is very attractive.

So yes, women in their 40's and beyond are still hot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think I look *comparatively* better at 40 than when I was younger. That is, I’m a much better looking 40 year old than I was a 20 year old.

OP here. I was very attractive in my twenties. I am well maintained and probably look better than most women in our mid- late forties. However, there is no way I look better now than when I was 25. I used to walk into clubs and get guys hitting on me constantly daily on the street, elevator, grocery store. That does not happen to me now.

PP here. What I meant was that I stack up better against my fellow 40 somethings than I did against my fellow 20 somethings, I think. I suspect it’s because apparently (according to people guessing my age over the years) I have looked 35 for the past 20 years. Not fun when I was younger, but now that I am older I feel I have finally aged into my looks, so to speak.

I may probably be the same relative to my age group. I lived in NYC in my twenties. I was attractive in NYC. Now I doubt I would be considered attractive in NYC in my mid forties. I do look good relative to other women in the DMV in my mid forties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I definitely looked my best from around 26-33. Lost weight put on in college from partying and worked out a lot. Then worked a shitty job lots of hours less working out and then o had a kid and recovered from that and looked good again at 40. Now it’s been a slow slide fighting weight gain and at 49 I look ok for my age but that’s it. I really have to watch what I eat or I get a belly. Thanks perimenopause. My face is ok I stayed out of the sun and get Botox now. But I do not look better than my peak no way.

Op here. I am also in a slow slide downhill right now. I am working out more and eating healthier than before but that isn’t enough. I was able to drop down to my pre pregnancy weight so I was the same weight at 30 and 40. Now I’m +10 pounds. I know gaining 10 pounds in 15 years after birthing 3 children isn’t bad but it feels bad after being thin my whole life.

It’s actually REALLY good for your bones to have 10 extra pounds now, especially if you are within normal BMI range.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I definitely looked my best from around 26-33. Lost weight put on in college from partying and worked out a lot. Then worked a shitty job lots of hours less working out and then o had a kid and recovered from that and looked good again at 40. Now it’s been a slow slide fighting weight gain and at 49 I look ok for my age but that’s it. I really have to watch what I eat or I get a belly. Thanks perimenopause. My face is ok I stayed out of the sun and get Botox now. But I do not look better than my peak no way.

Op here. I am also in a slow slide downhill right now. I am working out more and eating healthier than before but that isn’t enough. I was able to drop down to my pre pregnancy weight so I was the same weight at 30 and 40. Now I’m +10 pounds. I know gaining 10 pounds in 15 years after birthing 3 children isn’t bad but it feels bad after being thin my whole life.

It’s actually REALLY good for your bones to have 10 extra pounds now, especially if you are within normal BMI range.

Not being rail thin is making my face chubbier so I have less/no wrinkles. People always say I have good skin. I feel like my face looks bloated but I am hard on myself. I am really annoyed I can’t get back to my pre pregnancy weight. I’m just trying to get back to 125 and I can’t seem to get there either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:59yo male here. My partner (who I will be with forever) is 61. We've been together for years.

My answer is that women can and often do get hotter as they age.

Just yesterday we had some afternoon delight that was nothing short of mind blowing for us both. I have never in my life been as attracted to someone as I am to her, and I have definitely had some great relationships.

We are both in good, but not near perfect, shape, healthy, and average looking, but happy and self confident. She has survived cancer and had a double mastectomy. So why do I find her hot?

She is enthusiastic and open in the bedroom, often initiates, and is incredibly smart (I want to hear what she has to say about any subject). She has a very positive attitude about life and that alone is very attractive.

So yes, women in their 40's and beyond are still hot.

I’m love this for her— and you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:59yo male here. My partner (who I will be with forever) is 61. We've been together for years.

My answer is that women can and often do get hotter as they age.

Just yesterday we had some afternoon delight that was nothing short of mind blowing for us both. I have never in my life been as attracted to someone as I am to her, and I have definitely had some great relationships.

We are both in good, but not near perfect, shape, healthy, and average looking, but happy and self confident. She has survived cancer and had a double mastectomy. So why do I find her hot?

She is enthusiastic and open in the bedroom, often initiates, and is incredibly smart (I want to hear what she has to say about any subject). She has a very positive attitude about life and that alone is very attractive.

So yes, women in their 40's and beyond are still hot.

I’m love this for her— and you!

Was too happy to correct typo before submitting. Wishing you both many more happy years!

[Anonymous]

By far, I looked best from 40 - 55. I went down hill pretty quickly after that, but I had a good run!