To the guy sitting by my side on the metro today: I'M REALLY REALLY SORRY...

[Anonymous]

I Feel Sorry For Your Kids! Hope you don't pass your issues on to them!

can you pass your issues on through breast feeding? !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how much milk are we talking? Are you SURE he noticed?

Maybe we need a breast-milk splash threshold rule for reporting to your neighbor. E.g. more than a thimble = definitely apologize on-the-spot; less than a thimble = latent DCUrbanMom anonymous apology is acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

OP here.
I guess YOU don't know what OS is all about.
I'm having a severe case. FYI, besides feeding my infant on demand I freeze around 20oz of BM every day not even to mention the fact that I have to change breast pads at least 5 times a day!
I get a fever in the morning if I don't wake up several times to pump (baby sleeps 4 hours and I have to pump in between) and just changing clothes or touching my nipples brings milk in and the whole cycle starts - nipples get hard, stand out, let down pain and the gush! It's not fun. The pediatrician advised me to block feed. (5 hours )intervals in each breast)

Like a PP said, I'm not sure if the guy noticed but I was so conscious about this that I assumed he did. It was not a gush that would make his shirt wet but a little spray...
Anyway, I should definitely have apologized but I didn't. I'm sorry I didn't and I promise I learned my lesson.

[Anonymous]

OP--I am sorry you felt so uncomfortable. It is okay and you'll laugh about this later. I had lots of oversupply and squirting issues in the early BF stages with my children. You got caught in an uncomfortable situation, I don't know if I would have reacted differently.

I really cannot understand why people are so outraged by your post or why they would think you are a trollerina. Good for you working so hard at BFing. It can be so tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

OP here.
I guess YOU don't know what OS is all about.
I'm having a severe case. FYI, besides feeding my infant on demand I freeze around 20oz of BM every day not even to mention the fact that I have to change breast pads at least 5 times a day!
I get a fever in the morning if I don't wake up several times to pump (baby sleeps 4 hours and I have to pump in between) and just changing clothes or touching my nipples brings milk in and the whole cycle starts - nipples get hard, stand out, let down pain and the gush! It's not fun. The pediatrician advised me to block feed. (5 hours )intervals in each breast)

Like a PP said, I'm not sure if the guy noticed but I was so conscious about this that I assumed he did. It was not a gush that would make his shirt wet but a little spray...
Anyway, I should definitely have apologized but I didn't. I'm sorry I didn't and I promise I learned my lesson.

OP, in your first post you wrote the following:


By the way, I did notice you felt disgusted but didn't wiped it out.

and now you say you are not sure if the guy noticed. I don't like calling BS since I get really annoyed when posters decide to do that just because but you have clearly contradicted yourself here. Care to explain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

OP here.
I guess YOU don't know what OS is all about.
I'm having a severe case. FYI, besides feeding my infant on demand I freeze around 20oz of BM every day not even to mention the fact that I have to change breast pads at least 5 times a day!
I get a fever in the morning if I don't wake up several times to pump (baby sleeps 4 hours and I have to pump in between) and just changing clothes or touching my nipples brings milk in and the whole cycle starts - nipples get hard, stand out, let down pain and the gush! It's not fun. The pediatrician advised me to block feed. (5 hours )intervals in each breast)

Like a PP said, I'm not sure if the guy noticed but I was so conscious about this that I assumed he did. It was not a gush that would make his shirt wet but a little spray...
Anyway, I should definitely have apologized but I didn't. I'm sorry I didn't and I promise I learned my lesson.

OP, in your first post you wrote the following:


By the way, I did notice you felt disgusted but didn't wiped it out.

and now you say you are not sure if the guy noticed. I don't like calling BS since I get really annoyed when posters decide to do that just because but you have clearly contradicted yourself here. Care to explain?

OP again.
I talked to DH about it and, like the PP I mentioned, he thinks I'm over thinking this and he bets the guy didn't even notice.
DH says I have the habit to worry too much about others and what they'll think and probably this is all in my head.
Honestly, the need to BF in public has been a great exercise for me to learn to care a bit less about what others think.
Anyway it doesn't excuse me from being polite and I failed. Next time I'll do it right.


Feel free to keep commenting, I've explained enough. I don't think I'll come back to this thread...

[Anonymous]

OP - don't worry about it, these posters are reacting much more than the guy on the train probably did. I find it bizzzare how strongly posters are reacting.. I wouldn't be surprised if it's a sock puppet trying to stir things up.

Don't cry over squirted milk!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

If the OP left work and picked up the baby at daycare before getting on the train why not breast feed at the daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

If the OP left work and picked up the baby at daycare before getting on the train why not breast feed at the daycare?

The baby is five weeks old (OP explained) When my baby was that age, she fed sometimes every 10 minutes.

Do people on this board think you can schedule a tiny baby's breastfeeding for your own convenience? This is why breastfeeding is hard work, people...this is why women give up breastfeeding...because it's damn hard work to have a tiny baby needing to feed every 5-40 minutes, on its own schedule. It's not convenient, it's not easy, it's not nice and neat, and it's not modest.

Your comments are probably discouraging pregnant women and women trying to conceive from trying to breastfeed because...oh the horror...they might have to breastfeed on the Metro and sprinkle a few drops on someone. And what a life-changing event that will be (NOT).

All of you need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously

It sure as heck can just squirt out. When I had oversupply I had 4 or 5 streams of milk that would shoot 3 feet on letdown. It was insane and it was miserable and painful and caused my kid to have feeding refusal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I am a BF mom and you can pass communicable diseases (like HIV) via BM. I BF everywhere (trains, planes and automobiles, middle of the mall, sitting in restaurants) but I always use a nursing cover, for my comfort as well as those around me.

First off, passing communicable diseases via breastmilk is very rare even by drinking it in large quantities, so it's ridiculous to say this can happen if someone gets a little on their arm. I also nursed and pumped in ALL of the locations you mentioned for 1 year with each of my 2 DC. I went back to work at 9 weeks with both and traveled with work and NEVER used an actual nursing cover. I used a blanket when pumping and once in a while with the babies when they were little. After that, they were nothing but a nuisance. If you used them for your comfort than that's great, but it's not necessary for the comfort of others. Done discretely there is nothing that should make other uncomfortable.

The mothers of 12 year old boys. They can't keep their eyes off you and I can't tie his neck to a post and tell him to look straight ahead.

[Anonymous]

you can certainly educate them about human nutrition and reprodution, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I am a BF mom and you can pass communicable diseases (like HIV) via BM. I BF everywhere (trains, planes and automobiles, middle of the mall, sitting in restaurants) but I always use a nursing cover, for my comfort as well as those around me.

First off, passing communicable diseases via breastmilk is very rare even by drinking it in large quantities, so it's ridiculous to say this can happen if someone gets a little on their arm. I also nursed and pumped in ALL of the locations you mentioned for 1 year with each of my 2 DC. I went back to work at 9 weeks with both and traveled with work and NEVER used an actual nursing cover. I used a blanket when pumping and once in a while with the babies when they were little. After that, they were nothing but a nuisance. If you used them for your comfort than that's great, but it's not necessary for the comfort of others. Done discretely there is nothing that should make other uncomfortable.

The mothers of 12 year old boys. They can't keep their eyes off you and I can't tie his neck to a post and tell him to look straight ahead.

Maybe he'll learn what they're really for in the process. =p

[Anonymous]

I don't know of a daycare that takes babies at 5 weeks old. Just sayin'.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

This has nothing to do with feminism or politics. A woman should have the right to breastfeed mostly anywhere, but that does not relieve her of the obligation to show basic consideration for those around her. This OP knew that she had oversupply issues and that this could happen. Why are her rights more important than this man's right to ride the metro without being subject to someone else's bodily fluids?

You can identify OP's kid in a few years because he will be the one tearing around a nice restaurant or kicking the back of your airplane seat.

PP here - are you for real? If you told me to follow your little list of #1-4 when I was breastfeeding I would have told you to F%CK yourself.

We have a right to breastfeed MOSTLY anywhere? Where, oh wise one, are the places we shouldn't have a right to breastfeed?

I was subjected to someone's bodily fluids when their sweaty arm touched mine when riding on the metro. I was a little grossed out but didn't think he purposefully imposed on my rights.

New poster here. I can't believe how insanely angry you sound!

Scary.

Sorry, I scared you...boo! Did I do it again? You scare pretty easy.

Did you actually READ the list of "rules" pp listed? #1 is actually laughable. She either NEVER breastfed, didn't breastfeed for long, and/or was a SAHM. I stand by my "F%CK YOU" if someone really told me I should abide by these suggestions. They're ludicrous. #2 - I didn't buy a lot of baby 'gadgets' and this was one of them A simple blanket worked when they were really little and after that I didn't need anything for the remainder of the year I breastfed both my kids. Don't tell me what I should buy! #3 - This is where my "F%CK YOU" sentiment kicks in. I think I am a fairly conscientious person and polite to those around me, but this is just absolutely ridiculous. I never felt the need, nor would I have the nerve to say to another breastfeeding mom, to go sit in a corner so to speak because while you should be able to breastfeed in MOST places but the train is not one according to pp. The benches are just, if not more, crowded than the trains. And who exactly do you think was going to give up one of those spaces on the benches for you to have enough room to breastfeed? #4 - I just assume was a smart-ass comment.

Only one person on this website scares me, and I think that YOU are her.

I'm the one who posted the four suggestions. I think you've misunderstood. The PP had asked what the OP should have done and I was answering that question. I certainly never said these were "rules" that all BFing moms should follow! But this OP in particular knew that she had oversupply issues and that this type of thing could easily happen. So in that case, yes, I do think she should have taken some measures to consider the rights of those around her. I BF'd for 22 months (between 2 kids), often in strange places, and I never used it as an excuse to disregard the rights of those around me.

Also when I said women should have the right to breastfeed "mostly" everywhere, I just meant anywhere that it would be appropriate to bring a baby.

There are a couple of other ways in which you totally misunderstood but you're kind of crazy and these were the most egregious, so I'll leave it at that.