To the guy sitting by my side on the metro today: I'M REALLY REALLY SORRY...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

Get off at the next stop and find a bench! Seriously, what is it between stops, two minutes? Sorry, I am a SAHM, breastfed my daughter for 18 months and a big fan of breastfeeding overall but I never did it on a moving train full of passengers. For one thing, it's not really safe for the baby if you've got two arms holding him/her in position and the train bolts. Just because it's your right to breastfeed doesn't mean you can't be decent about it. I'm calling bulls%it on this post anyway. I had serious oversupply issues, too, but I would have had to have my boob completely uncovered in order for the milk hose to hit someone else.

You are probably right. The disgusting part is how many people actually seem to think it was OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gross! You definitely should've apologized! My own breast milk grosses me out (esp when people say to taste it to see if it's gone off) so I can't imagine having someone else's squirted on me. Not that it would've been the end of the world but still...

How sad for you that a natural bodily function is "gross." Bet you don't like pooping either.
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[b]I Feel Sorry For Your Kids! Hope you don't pass your issues on to them!

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I can't figure out why you feel sorry for her kids? Not liking your own breast milk is harmful to your kids? Please explain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

And when she sits on that bench, that oh-so-crowded bench -- here we go again.

[Anonymous]

Good for you nursing on the metro!

But what about the no drinking rule???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it's gross, but not NEARLY as gross as the guy squirting semen on women. So...yeah. I can't imagine nursing on Metro, not judging you for doing it, but that was just never going to be even close to within my comfort zone.

Well, as nearly all men love a glimpse of breast, no matter how they get to glimpse, he probably was thrilled. As for a man squirting semen, well, he would be arrested.

As a woman, however, I do have to say some things should be done in private and BFing is one of them--definitely not on Metro, in a restaurant, or in the theatre.

Wow. If the train was unsteady and the baby jostled and had teeth.........nasty bite on the nip. Breast feeding on the metro is gross. The OP should have given the guy $20 for drycleaning.

[Anonymous]

If it were me that received a spraying of breast milk, I would have brought it to the OP's attention if she didn't acknowledge the incident by apologizing. It's just downright rude to pretend like it didn't happen. I wouldn't care that she was nursing and I wouldn't care about the spraying just so long as she was polite enough to acknowledge it. I get that babies need to eat when they are hungry, I really do, but I think that the OP could have prepared better by having a cover and the OP could have at least offered the man a tissue to clean himself up. Sometimes I wonder how people get by in life with the flippant attitude that the OP seems to have. She seems like she thinks that the incident was cute and quirky and unfortunately there are some postrs in this thread who are co-signing for her.

[Anonymous]

The poor guy was probably horrified. I know I was the first time my boob starting spraying all over the place. I didn't even know it could do that.

[Anonymous]

Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

I used to breastfeed on the metrobus home. Sat in the back corner. I had many friendlies on the bus since I rode it for years, before the baby and now since.

OP: You should have apologized. Get some different clothes or a nursing bib for the future.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to go throw up now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why but I call BS... I have been riding metro daily for many, many, many years and I have never seen a person breastfeeding on the train.

Not saying it doesn't happen, but there's something weird about this post.

One of my favorite stories: Years ago, morning commute - I was sitting on the Metro facing backward - woman and a couple of kids in the little compartment in the back of a car facing forward. Kids are running up and down the aisle talking to each other. Suddenly, the little boy says something like, "Mom, I'm hungry," jumps up on his mother's lap, lifts her shirt and starts nursing! All of my backward facing compatriots and I were left with our mouths hanging open. The kid had to be 4 or so. It was unbelievable but it really happened.

[Anonymous]

OP here.
Let me try to address the facts you pointed out in one post...
First of all I didn't think it was cute. I was MORTIFIED! I felt so awkward and I didn't want to offer the burp cloth I had on me since it was already wet from previous leaks. I only had an extra diaper and a few baby wipes in my purse since I'm trying not to over pack when we go out without the stroller.
Second, I was nursing baby in the Ergo and his head was partially covered. Nobody can see a thing unless they peak under the head cover. The baby chocked and started gagging and arched his back that's when he popped out of the breast and the spray happened. It was all so fast. I'm still getting used the whole thing, DS is only 5 weeks old.
Third, I don't think it's necessary to leave the train to feed an infant. I was doing it as privately as possible and I bet people would be more annoyed if the baby started screaming hungry in the train. God forbid bringing a stroller in the train, right?
Anyway, inside the train we have AC, in the station we don't and I'm so not sitting in the heat for 20 minutes while the baby eats and we all cook waiting for the next train...
and for the "no drinking rule" the board says "no food or drink allowed in the train" so what's your opinion? should I leave my boobs home?

[Anonymous]

OP, if you were truly mortified and if you truly felt bad about it, then you would have made an effort to show the guy that you sprayed some kindness and at least given him a baby wipe. You could have at least done that much. Stop trying to act like you were mortified by what happened. Your initial post paints a different picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: As for the notion that HIV can be transmitted via breastmilk, I have never, once, heard of a mom with HIV breastfeeding her child. Have you? Nor have I ever heard of someone being infected via a stranger's breastmilk. That's absolutely ludicrous. It's just not something I would ever worry about.

I believe the point was that bodily fluids can transmit infection... duh.

Doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Also, consider BFing moms who don't know that they have HIV.

[Anonymous]

OP, you should have apologized to the man and offered him something to clean up with even a baby wipe, no matter how bad you felt. Or better still, offer to pay for him to dry clean his jacket. I am a STRONG supporter of BFing everywhere but that doesn't give us the right to ignore other people's rights. I couldn'tcare less if someone is bothered by seeing a woman BFing in public BUT when body fluids are spraying other people that does cross the line IMO. If someone with a iv catheter was near you and it accidentally sprayed blood onto you through no fault of his own think how you would feel.