To the guy sitting by my side on the metro today: I'M REALLY REALLY SORRY...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not 11:47 (definitely would not equate breastmilk with poo) but wonder if the mom who is grossed out by it is grossed out by cow's milk as well? At least breastmilk is a HUMAN lactational fluid..

I'm the poster who's grossed out by it; I still feed breast milk to my kid, but doesn't mean I want to drink it myself and I'm certainly not stopping anyone else from breastfeeding their kids. To 11:47, no need to feel sorry for my kids, but it doesn't bother me if you do. Anyone's poop grosses me out, but I happily poop several times a day. And yes, cow's milk kind of grosses me out. I'm a vegetarian who thinks it's odd that we're the only species that drinks someone/thing else's milk.

11:47 here. The whole "I feel sorry for your kids" was a joke. Hence the whole "putting it in bold & underlining it" thing. Thought people would get that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should have apologized to the man and offered him something to clean up with even a baby wipe, no matter how bad you felt. Or better still, offer to pay for him to dry clean his jacket. I am a STRONG supporter of BFing everywhere but that doesn't give us the right to ignore other people's rights. I couldn'tcare less if someone is bothered by seeing a woman BFing in public BUT when body fluids are spraying other people that does cross the line IMO. If someone with a iv catheter was near you and it accidentally sprayed blood onto you through no fault of his own think how you would feel.

This is a good post. OP should read it and really try hard to grasp the notion that her "embarrassment" doesn't make it OK for her to be so disrespectful to the man who she sprayed her bodily fluids on.

I'm sure that the rider didn't care that she was nursing in front of him, but I'd bet that he wasn't cool with not only getting covered in breast milk, but also in being disrespected as well.

[Anonymous]

This is so MUD! (made up drama)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why but I call BS... I have been riding metro daily for many, many, many years and I have never seen a person breastfeeding on the train.

Not saying it doesn't happen, but there's something weird about this post.

I nursed on the metro many, many times. You may not have seen it but it does happen.

[Anonymous]

I thought there was no eating on the metro train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I am a BF mom and you can pass communicable diseases (like HIV) via BM. I BF everywhere (trains, planes and automobiles, middle of the mall, sitting in restaurants) but I always use a nursing cover, for my comfort as well as those around me.

First off, passing communicable diseases via breastmilk is very rare even by drinking it in large quantities, so it's ridiculous to say this can happen if someone gets a little on their arm. I also nursed and pumped in ALL of the locations you mentioned for 1 year with each of my 2 DC. I went back to work at 9 weeks with both and traveled with work and NEVER used an actual nursing cover. I used a blanket when pumping and once in a while with the babies when they were little. After that, they were nothing but a nuisance. If you used them for your comfort than that's great, but it's not necessary for the comfort of others. Done discretely there is nothing that should make other uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

OP, how much milk are we talking? Are you SURE he noticed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, it's gross, but not NEARLY as gross as the guy squirting semen on women. So...yeah. I can't imagine nursing on Metro, not judging you for doing it, but that was just never going to be even close to within my comfort zone.

Well, as nearly all men love a glimpse of breast, no matter how they get to glimpse, he probably was thrilled. As for a man squirting semen, well, he would be arrested.

As a woman, however, I do have to say some things should be done in private and BFing is one of them--definitely not on Metro, in a restaurant, or in the theatre.

I guess I shouldn't have left the house, ever, until my kids were over 1 yo. You are JOKING right? Has to be JOKE! Stupidest post I've ever read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

Get off at the next stop and find a bench! Seriously, what is it between stops, two minutes? Sorry, I am a SAHM, breastfed my daughter for 18 months and a big fan of breastfeeding overall but I never did it on a moving train full of passengers. For one thing, it's not really safe for the baby if you've got two arms holding him/her in position and the train bolts. Just because it's your right to breastfeed doesn't mean you can't be decent about it. I'm calling bulls%it on this post anyway. I had serious oversupply issues, too, but I would have had to have my boob completely uncovered in order for the milk hose to hit someone else.

Well, as a SAHM you can NOT speak for all moms. As a SAHM you have more flexibility in when you run errands and are out and about with your DC. As a f/t WOHM I was not going to let breastfeeding stop me from going where ever I choose when ever I wanted/needed to. If I was on a moving train during feeding time that is where I fed my babies.

What is the difference between the bench at the next stop and the train? You would have more people passing by you sitting on a bench in a crowded station than on a train. This is just silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

This has nothing to do with feminism or politics. A woman should have the right to breastfeed mostly anywhere, but that does not relieve her of the obligation to show basic consideration for those around her. This OP knew that she had oversupply issues and that this could happen. Why are her rights more important than this man's right to ride the metro without being subject to someone else's bodily fluids?

You can identify OP's kid in a few years because he will be the one tearing around a nice restaurant or kicking the back of your airplane seat.

PP here - are you for real? If you told me to follow your little list of #1-4 when I was breastfeeding I would have told you to F%CK yourself.

We have a right to breastfeed MOSTLY anywhere? Where, oh wise one, are the places we shouldn't have a right to breastfeed?

I was subjected to someone's bodily fluids when their sweaty arm touched mine when riding on the metro. I was a little grossed out but didn't think he purposefully imposed on my rights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it were me that received a spraying of breast milk, I would have brought it to the OP's attention if she didn't acknowledge the incident by apologizing. It's just downright rude to pretend like it didn't happen. I wouldn't care that she was nursing and I wouldn't care about the spraying just so long as she was polite enough to acknowledge it. I get that babies need to eat when they are hungry, I really do, but I think that the OP could have prepared better by having a cover and the OP could have at least offered the man a tissue to clean himself up. Sometimes I wonder how people get by in life with the flippant attitude that the OP seems to have. She seems like she thinks that the incident was cute and quirky and unfortunately there are some postrs in this thread who are co-signing for her.

I see it differently. I think, like so many of the posters here, woman are made to feel embarrassed by breastfeeding in public and she was embarrassed to say anything to the man. Just like someone mentioning it would be like sneezing on someone even with the best intentions of covering your nose or bumping up against someone while sweaty, you can easily apologize because there is a common belief that these are natural bodily functions. However, breastfeeding is still considered by most as a shameful act that shouldn't be done in public, so when there is an incident, it's hard to apologize and acknowledge what just happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

This has nothing to do with feminism or politics. A woman should have the right to breastfeed mostly anywhere, but that does not relieve her of the obligation to show basic consideration for those around her. This OP knew that she had oversupply issues and that this could happen. Why are her rights more important than this man's right to ride the metro without being subject to someone else's bodily fluids?

You can identify OP's kid in a few years because he will be the one tearing around a nice restaurant or kicking the back of your airplane seat.

PP here - are you for real? If you told me to follow your little list of #1-4 when I was breastfeeding I would have told you to F%CK yourself.

We have a right to breastfeed MOSTLY anywhere? Where, oh wise one, are the places we shouldn't have a right to breastfeed?

I was subjected to someone's bodily fluids when their sweaty arm touched mine when riding on the metro. I was a little grossed out but didn't think he purposefully imposed on my rights.

New poster here. I can't believe how insanely angry you sound!

Scary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

This has nothing to do with feminism or politics. A woman should have the right to breastfeed mostly anywhere, but that does not relieve her of the obligation to show basic consideration for those around her. This OP knew that she had oversupply issues and that this could happen. Why are her rights more important than this man's right to ride the metro without being subject to someone else's bodily fluids?

You can identify OP's kid in a few years because he will be the one tearing around a nice restaurant or kicking the back of your airplane seat.

PP here - are you for real? If you told me to follow your little list of #1-4 when I was breastfeeding I would have told you to F%CK yourself.

We have a right to breastfeed MOSTLY anywhere? Where, oh wise one, are the places we shouldn't have a right to breastfeed?

I was subjected to someone's bodily fluids when their sweaty arm touched mine when riding on the metro. I was a little grossed out but didn't think he purposefully imposed on my rights.

New poster here. I can't believe how insanely angry you sound!

Scary.

Sorry, I scared you...boo! Did I do it again? You scare pretty easy.

Did you actually READ the list of "rules" pp listed? #1 is actually laughable. She either NEVER breastfed, didn't breastfeed for long, and/or was a SAHM. I stand by my "F%CK YOU" if someone really told me I should abide by these suggestions. They're ludicrous. #2 - I didn't buy a lot of baby 'gadgets' and this was one of them A simple blanket worked when they were really little and after that I didn't need anything for the remainder of the year I breastfed both my kids. Don't tell me what I should buy! #3 - This is where my "F%CK YOU" sentiment kicks in. I think I am a fairly conscientious person and polite to those around me, but this is just absolutely ridiculous. I never felt the need, nor would I have the nerve to say to another breastfeeding mom, to go sit in a corner so to speak because while you should be able to breastfeed in MOST places but the train is not one according to pp. The benches are just, if not more, crowded than the trains. And who exactly do you think was going to give up one of those spaces on the benches for you to have enough room to breastfeed? #4 - I just assume was a smart-ass comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the only thing OP did wrong was not to apologize. Like someone said earlier...stuff does happen. I think many of the BF cheerleaders are being really hypocritical to put this woman down. If her milk was coming out and the baby was hungry -- what was she supposed to do?

1. Have some idea of when your baby is going to be hungry and arrange your schedule so you're not on the train at that time.
2. Use a nursing cover.
3. Get off at the next stop and sit on one of those benches in the station.
4. WARN the people around her that they are in the line of fire for her bodily fluids.

This has nothing to do with feminism or politics. A woman should have the right to breastfeed mostly anywhere, but that does not relieve her of the obligation to show basic consideration for those around her. This OP knew that she had oversupply issues and that this could happen. Why are her rights more important than this man's right to ride the metro without being subject to someone else's bodily fluids?

You can identify OP's kid in a few years because he will be the one tearing around a nice restaurant or kicking the back of your airplane seat.

PP here - are you for real? If you told me to follow your little list of #1-4 when I was breastfeeding I would have told you to F%CK yourself.

We have a right to breastfeed MOSTLY anywhere? Where, oh wise one, are the places we shouldn't have a right to breastfeed?

I was subjected to someone's bodily fluids when their sweaty arm touched mine when riding on the metro. I was a little grossed out but didn't think he purposefully imposed on my rights.

New poster here. I can't believe how insanely angry you sound!

Scary.

Sorry, I scared you...boo! Did I do it again? You scare pretty easy.

Did you actually READ the list of "rules" pp listed? #1 is actually laughable. She either NEVER breastfed, didn't breastfeed for long, and/or was a SAHM. I stand by my "F%CK YOU" if someone really told me I should abide by these suggestions. They're ludicrous. #2 - I didn't buy a lot of baby 'gadgets' and this was one of them A simple blanket worked when they were really little and after that I didn't need anything for the remainder of the year I breastfed both my kids. Don't tell me what I should buy! #3 - This is where my "F%CK YOU" sentiment kicks in. I think I am a fairly conscientious person and polite to those around me, but this is just absolutely ridiculous. I never felt the need, nor would I have the nerve to say to another breastfeeding mom, to go sit in a corner so to speak because while you should be able to breastfeed in MOST places but the train is not one according to pp. The benches are just, if not more, crowded than the trains. And who exactly do you think was going to give up one of those spaces on the benches for you to have enough room to breastfeed? #4 - I just assume was a smart-ass comment.

Only one person on this website scares me, and I think that YOU are her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you got a squirt of my breast milk on your arm.
The baby unlatched quickly because she chocked so it just squirted all over... Oversupply issues here so you know: engorgement, forceful let down... not fun..

This thread was started by a fake poster.
Breast milk does not just squirt out. Oversupply issues?
It does not happen the way that you describe. but it is funny how people take this thing so seriously