Young Parent-Do you pass judgement?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly no one cares.

Well, they do care to the extent that she generally would not connect with people who are decades older.

What are you connecting on with other parents at your kids’ high school? You both have kids the same age at the same school. That’s about all the connecting necessary. No one will care, OP.

I guess you're one of the parents who signs the check and walks away? Plenty of parents are involved at the high school level. They're not setting up playdates and meeting at the park, but depending on the school there can be many parent groups and parent organized activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly no one cares.

Well, they do care to the extent that she generally would not connect with people who are decades older.

What are you connecting on with other parents at your kids’ high school? You both have kids the same age at the same school. That’s about all the connecting necessary. No one will care, OP.

I guess you're one of the parents who signs the check and walks away? Plenty of parents are involved at the high school level. They're not setting up playdates and meeting at the park, but depending on the school there can be many parent groups and parent organized activities.

Not all of us need to be seen to be publicly supporting our children. Just because we aren’t involved in school affiliated parent groups, it doesn’t mean we aren’t engaged parents. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - As shown clearly on this thread already, you will be judged. I am considered a young parent by many, but remind myself that this is my child’s experience - not mine. I don’t need a new circle of friends and won’t “step in” to this nonsense unless it ever impacts my child.

You are providing a private school education for your child. Let them experience and benefit from it while ignoring the snobbery and judgement.

OP here: We haven't been impacted in public school and I certainly don't want to put him in a position where it impacts him. It's very clear to me after reading this thread that regardless of how much diversity our school has, there will be judgement. I agree with you- absorb the good and discard the bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - As shown clearly on this thread already, you will be judged. I am considered a young parent by many, but remind myself that this is my child’s experience - not mine. I don’t need a new circle of friends and won’t “step in” to this nonsense unless it ever impacts my child.

You are providing a private school education for your child. Let them experience and benefit from it while ignoring the snobbery and judgement.

OP here: We haven't been impacted in public school and I certainly don't want to put him in a position where it impacts him. It's very clear to me after reading this thread that regardless of how much diversity our school has, there will be judgement. I agree with you- absorb the good and discard the bad.

PP here - if it helps, none of what has been expressed in this thread has impacted my child’s experience. Our kids are more accepting and tolerant, as they should be. While I remain aware of these potential issues, I don’t share that worry with them. I am incredibly impressed by all you have overcome and what you are providing for your son. Good luck to you both.

[Anonymous]

Op, I’m 47, my kids are 11 and 14 in public. I’d say you’re winning. What's the downside? You’re young, you’re rich and your kids are well educated.

[Anonymous]

Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

Terrible life choices of being young, hot, and rich. No jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Most moms will be jealous of how good (and you g) OP looks compared to them… and they will judge

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

What terrible choices? Excelling in their career? Providing a fully paid private school education? Being a supportive parent who is concerned about their impact on their child?

We all have the ability to come back from a “terrible choice” - please consider how difficult your life might be if you had never been shown any grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most moms will be jealous of how good (and you g) OP looks compared to them… and they will judge

Most moms will be jealous of how good (and young OP looks compared to them… and they will judge to make themselves feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

Terrible life choices of being young, hot, and rich. No jealousy.

The insecure nasty ones will be judging your earlier choices. The nice ones won’t want to be friends because you’re very insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly no one cares.

+1

Seriously, no one is thinking that much about you.

- became a parent in my 20's, generally younger than other parents, plenty of friends amongst parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - As shown clearly on this thread already, you will be judged. I am considered a young parent by many, but remind myself that this is my child’s experience - not mine. I don’t need a new circle of friends and won’t “step in” to this nonsense unless it ever impacts my child.

You are providing a private school education for your child. Let them experience and benefit from it while ignoring the snobbery and judgement.

OP here: We haven't been impacted in public school and I certainly don't want to put him in a position where it impacts him. It's very clear to me after reading this thread that regardless of how much diversity our school has, there will be judgement. I agree with you- absorb the good and discard the bad.

The only bad is you having 2 pregnancies as a teen. No one has to have pity on you or befriend you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

Terrible life choices of being young, hot, and rich. No jealousy.

The insecure nasty ones will be judging your earlier choices. The nice ones won’t want to be friends because you’re very insecure.

Insecure about no having children as teens. I don’t think so.

[Anonymous]

I would just assume you look great before I would assume you were a teen mother. That said I have a coworker/friend who had kids that young. She is bright, hardworking and a good friend. I do not judge. I just marvel that she was able to jugle so much at a young age.