Young Parent-Do you pass judgement?

[Anonymous]

Being a teen mom is morally unacceptable. I would need to know more about your journey.

[Anonymous]

I would not care, OP, as long as you are a nice and mature person.

As you can see, many on this thread are neither.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a new private school parent to an HS student and a young parent.

While I try to conceal my age, I can't help but age myself sometimes; I'm typically 10-20 years younger than most parents. In a public school setting it has generally not been an issue, mostly because parents are uninvolved and unseen.

Today I woke up with new found anxiety about my age and how my child would be perceived. The school DS was accepted to is a top school and I want nothing more than for him to be accepted by his peers. I'm worried that the parent community won't truly accept me and in turn it will affect him socially.

Any other young private school parents out there with advice?

I don’t think it will be an issue at all. I find I tend to bond by the age of our kids rather than our age if that makes sense. I can have more in common with a much older or much younger parent with same age kids than someone my age without kids or with kids a different age.

Have confidence and it will be fine!

That’s about the kids, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not care, OP, as long as you are a nice and mature person.

As you can see, many on this thread are neither.

You being one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a teen mom is morally unacceptable. I would need to know more about your journey.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a new private school parent to an HS student and a young parent.

While I try to conceal my age, I can't help but age myself sometimes; I'm typically 10-20 years younger than most parents. In a public school setting it has generally not been an issue, mostly because parents are uninvolved and unseen.

Today I woke up with new found anxiety about my age and how my child would be perceived. The school DS was accepted to is a top school and I want nothing more than for him to be accepted by his peers. I'm worried that the parent community won't truly accept me and in turn it will affect him socially.

Any other young private school parents out there with advice?

I don’t think it will be an issue at all. I find I tend to bond by the age of our kids rather than our age if that makes sense. I can have more in common with a much older or much younger parent with same age kids than someone my age without kids or with kids a different age.

Have confidence and it will be fine!

That’s about the kids, not you.

Uh yes but in a school setting which this is that’s what we would mainly be focusing on so…. It applies!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a teen mom is morally unacceptable. I would need to know more about your journey.

Teen mom hate is the anti-semitism of professional liberal women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a teen mom is morally unacceptable. I would need to know more about your journey.

Is having an abortion as a teenager morally acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a teen mom is morally unacceptable. I would need to know more about your journey.

Actually, and I don’t know if you’re coming from a perspective of Christianity or not but assuming you are, the sin is in the fornication. And since God forgives, there’s nothing “immoral” about being an unmarried parent. Zero support for any moral judgment on the age of a parent.

[Anonymous]

How old was Mary when Jesus was born?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the people bashing the OP:
1. Know nothing about the circumstances of her young pregnancy; and 2. Are probably “pro-life”.

Just don’t let that life go to school with my kids.

I'm pro-life and I'm one of the only ones here who defended OP (I was impressed by what she must have overcome). The judgmental harpies on this thread are saying she should have aborted her child. I somehow doubt they were all virgins until they hit the appropriate age to become parents, whatever they think that is.

[Anonymous]

I would probably totally judge you and even if I didn’t say anything, I know most of the moms would talk about it amongst themselves. It also depends on the school too. Some schools don’t have a very forgiving culture.

[Anonymous]

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A 15 YO MOM WITH A KID AT A “TOP” LOCAL PRIVATE. THIS IS A HILARIOUS TROLL POST.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 15 when I had my first and 18 when I had my second. My experience has been that once people see that I'm competent and my kid is just as functional as theirs, they ignore my age.

What?! 15!!! And again at 18?! Holy shit! You didn’t learn a lesson at 15!
No, no way would I ever let my son or daughter go to your home or anything outside of school.

Wow, you sound like a H-U-G-E jerk. I don't think that is OP, but even if it's not, it sounds like she did a great job raising her children, why should her choices 15+ years ago impact your decision to let (or not let) your child spend time at her house.

My ex-boyfriend's mom was 16 when she had him and went on to get her master's degree and become an executive in a healthcare system you have definitely heard of. Would you not let your child go to her [huge, fancy] house because of a choice she made when she was 16?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, people won't judge because of *your age*, they will be judging your terrible choices.

OP, if your age means you aren’t accepted by people like this, I’d say you won. I’m pretty average in the age department (had my first child in late 20s and my last in my mid 30s), and I wouldn’t judge you. This is a good litmus test question for avoiding the worst kind of judgy parent that the independent school has to offer. I’m frankly judging her. And yeah, I know more than one person may be weighing in, but I think we’re hearing most if not all of these comments from the same awful poster.