finding fwb safely

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My answer as a woman who is dating for a little over a year on OLD: no, there is no chance to find an STD-free FWB. Men who seek for a relationship will be offended and will stray. Men who only seek sex will have infections. I bought a toy and vaginal cream, happy like a clam while dating looking for a real connection.

I don't have the time and money to waste on these arrangements take more time and medical check-ups after

You are ridiculous. I have had 5 FWB in last few years and not one had an STI, before/during/after.

Vaginal cream? You mean lube? LOL

Hahaha no that you know of. All the potential FWB I tried had an STD. It’s scary out there and unless someone is being honest with you and you are testing you don’t always know.

What do you mean that I know of? We have all been tested. I test before, during, after the relationship. I have never had an STD. You seem weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My answer as a woman who is dating for a little over a year on OLD: no, there is no chance to find an STD-free FWB. Men who seek for a relationship will be offended and will stray. Men who only seek sex will have infections. I bought a toy and vaginal cream, happy like a clam while dating looking for a real connection.

I don't have the time and money to waste on these arrangements take more time and medical check-ups after

You are ridiculous. I have had 5 FWB in last few years and not one had an STI, before/during/after.

Vaginal cream? You mean lube? LOL

Hahaha no that you know of. All the potential FWB I tried had an STD. It’s scary out there and unless someone is being honest with you and you are testing you don’t always know.

What do you mean that I know of? We have all been tested. I test before, during, after the relationship. I have never had an STD. You seem weird.

Tell me what is the motivation for a fwb to test ? They just want a variety, eg slept with different women on different weeks. I could never get men who wanted just casual to provide a full panel. It defeats the purpose of being a fwb for them. Exclusivity is impossible to maintain in this setup IMHO (where there are no feelings - partners just continue shopping around).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My answer as a woman who is dating for a little over a year on OLD: no, there is no chance to find an STD-free FWB. Men who seek for a relationship will be offended and will stray. Men who only seek sex will have infections. I bought a toy and vaginal cream, happy like a clam while dating looking for a real connection.

I don't have the time and money to waste on these arrangements take more time and medical check-ups after

You are ridiculous. I have had 5 FWB in last few years and not one had an STI, before/during/after.

Vaginal cream? You mean lube? LOL

No - I use an estrogen cream that my obgyn prescribed to prevent vaginal atrophy. I don’t have time to continuously look for new fwb, prescreen them for std, go through cycles of someone catching feelings, getting together, breaking it off, all the hormonal changes along the way etc. Too much hassle for a temporary D. A sex toy + prescription cream addresses the itch without all the human drama. I do have long term (6+ months) relationships. I go for it when there is a mutual falling in love feeling and I see the person really wants me and wants commitment. This adds a layer of stability and I can feel sexually safe and uninhibited with those partners.

Continuously look for them? My current one has lasted two years thus far..... I am not sure what hormonal changes you are talking about, either. Anyway, why are you responding if you have no knowledge of finding a FWB. Who cares if you aren't interested?

OP, if you are still reading after PP derailed this, go on Bumble and say you are looking for casual. Do the bacground check, both get tested, and have fun.

You give your exceptional example of a mysterious fwb who is totally fine f..g you casually (couple times a month when kids schedule afford it?), is fully tested and committed to exclusivity. That is NOT fwb arrangement. You have a long distance committed boyfriend.
People on this forum tell you multi-dating patterns that fit most men who look for casual. Most of these arrangements have expiration date. Yes, sleeping with someone then breaking up causes mental anguish and hormonal ups and downs. You no longer experience orgasms. I tend to miss the person physically after a month of continuous sex. These are not good options for most women

[Anonymous]

You people make it seem like everyone out there has a raft of STDs that you can get just by brushing past them in the grocery store aisle...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My answer as a woman who is dating for a little over a year on OLD: no, there is no chance to find an STD-free FWB. Men who seek for a relationship will be offended and will stray. Men who only seek sex will have infections. I bought a toy and vaginal cream, happy like a clam while dating looking for a real connection.

I don't have the time and money to waste on these arrangements take more time and medical check-ups after

You are ridiculous. I have had 5 FWB in last few years and not one had an STI, before/during/after.

Vaginal cream? You mean lube? LOL

No - I use an estrogen cream that my obgyn prescribed to prevent vaginal atrophy. I don’t have time to continuously look for new fwb, prescreen them for std, go through cycles of someone catching feelings, getting together, breaking it off, all the hormonal changes along the way etc. Too much hassle for a temporary D. A sex toy + prescription cream addresses the itch without all the human drama. I do have long term (6+ months) relationships. I go for it when there is a mutual falling in love feeling and I see the person really wants me and wants commitment. This adds a layer of stability and I can feel sexually safe and uninhibited with those partners.

Continuously look for them? My current one has lasted two years thus far..... I am not sure what hormonal changes you are talking about, either. Anyway, why are you responding if you have no knowledge of finding a FWB. Who cares if you aren't interested?

OP, if you are still reading after PP derailed this, go on Bumble and say you are looking for casual. Do the bacground check, both get tested, and have fun.

You give your exceptional example of a mysterious fwb who is totally fine f..g you casually (couple times a month when kids schedule afford it?), is fully tested and committed to exclusivity. That is NOT fwb arrangement. You have a long distance committed boyfriend.
People on this forum tell you multi-dating patterns that fit most men who look for casual. Most of these arrangements have expiration date. Yes, sleeping with someone then breaking up causes mental anguish and hormonal ups and downs. You no longer experience orgasms. I tend to miss the person physically after a month of continuous sex. These are not good options for most women

She’s probably married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people make it seem like everyone out there has a raft of STDs that you can get just by brushing past them in the grocery store aisle...

Most men who sleep around a lot have some light STDs like ureaplasma, or fecal bacteria in penile secretions that’s not supposed to be there. These are rarely tested for and still can cause a lot of trouble for women who look for some allegedly “safe” fwb. And yes, ask how I know….,

Test them ladies, for everything you can, and use protection.

[Anonymous]

Say Hi to old time lovers from College.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a male friend who is attractive and discreet? If yes, FWB. If no, develop more male friendships until you find one.

[Anonymous]

[b]50 and wanting a female fwb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[b]50 and wanting a female fwb

How hot are you ? Are you married ? Can you take me out on nice dates before f…k?

[Anonymous]

My doctor told me that sometimes if you have herpes and not actively having breakouts you can test negatively.

So some you slutty DWs out there desperate to have someone run through you remember next time your legs are spread wide open for the next guy he may be a herpes carrier who really tested negative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people make it seem like everyone out there has a raft of STDs that you can get just by brushing past them in the grocery store aisle...

Most men who sleep around a lot have some light STDs like ureaplasma, or fecal bacteria in penile secretions that’s not supposed to be there. These are rarely tested for and still can cause a lot of trouble for women who look for some allegedly “safe” fwb. And yes, ask how I know….,

Test them ladies, for everything you can, and use protection.

This is from butt secks?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My doctor told me that sometimes if you have herpes and not actively having breakouts you can test negatively.

So some you slutty DWs out there desperate to have someone run through you remember next time your legs are spread wide open for the next guy he may be a herpes carrier who really tested negative.

Everyone has herpes, dingus.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My answer as a woman who is dating for a little over a year on OLD: no, there is no chance to find an STD-free FWB. Men who seek for a relationship will be offended and will stray. Men who only seek sex will have infections. I bought a toy and vaginal cream, happy like a clam while dating looking for a real connection.

I don't have the time and money to waste on these arrangements take more time and medical check-ups after

I have been on and off apps for 4 years. I have been with 3 men. No STDs. I ended all relationships. Yes. It is possible. You choose poorly.

3 men over 4 years? This is very few people you met who were decent and agreed to get tested, which only proves my point. Max duration of FWB arrangement is 6 months, 2m more typical. So basically you only had sex for 18 months in total with these 3 men over the course of 4 years. I masturbate more often - every other day. Don't need a man for that. I only date those who are worth it. So far I only met 2 men in one year, but both were looking for a relationship. Not FWB

I was with each man for a year. Each fwb lasted a year. I don’t know where you get 2 to 6 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My doctor told me that sometimes if you have herpes and not actively having breakouts you can test negatively.

So some you slutty DWs out there desperate to have someone run through you remember next time your legs are spread wide open for the next guy he may be a herpes carrier who really tested negative.

Everyone has herpes, dingus.

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