Marriage is hard

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Anonymous wrote:The not strangling on a daily basis...to begin with...and that is why I am educating my daughters. Marriage to a man means bowing down or digging those spurs in forever.

You have a wrong viewpoint of marriage then and that’s on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The not strangling on a daily basis...to begin with...and that is why I am educating my daughters. Marriage to a man means bowing down or digging those spurs in forever.

Why are you telling your daughters that they have to bow down or dig in spurs to be married? You’re doing the opposite of educating them.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

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I like the hard parts

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

So you’re saying that the choices one makes has no consequences. That’s what you are saying, which is absurd. Bad choices equals bad outcomes no matter how many times you try to say otherwise.
You’re a jerk for wrongfully telling others things that are not true and that life has no consequences for what we do. And you talk about God with that ungodliness.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

Oh, well, back to you. You think it’s your god-given duty to shut down anyone who has a different view from you. You can’t and you won’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like the hard parts

When it’s very hard, I’m very happy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The not strangling on a daily basis...to begin with...and that is why I am educating my daughters. Marriage to a man means bowing down or digging those spurs in forever.

Why are you telling your daughters that they have to bow down or dig in spurs to be married? You’re doing the opposite of educating them.

Women who grew up without brothers are shocked -- as I was -- to learn what men are really like and what they want in partners. My daughters will know that, despite the current fashionable discourse to the contrary:

1 - Most men feel that love is shown through respect(ful submission and strategic silence);
2 - Most men like to work hard only for the 3 P's - pay, prestige, pleasure - I first described on DCUM years ago;
3 - Most men will not even pretend to do anything like an equal amount of unfun stuff (housekeeping, admin, parent-teacher conferences, etc.) after the kids come even if their wives are literally saving the world by helping to develop the corona vaccine.

They look like us, but they are nothing like us.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

So you’re saying that the choices one makes has no consequences. That’s what you are saying, which is absurd. Bad choices equals bad outcomes no matter how many times you try to say otherwise.
You’re a jerk for wrongfully telling others things that are not true and that life has no consequences for what we do. And you talk about God with that ungodliness.

This is total nonsense. Marriage is way too complex to boil down to “bad choices equals bad outcomes.” Sometimes two people who are ridiculously unsuitable get together, but the vast majority of relationships are way more complicated than that. God, you are clueless! (See what I did there???)

[Anonymous]

It is only hard if it is the wrong person.
(married and it was horrible. It was not the right person).

It is supposed to make your life easier...not harder.

If it is harder, it is a bad match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a common phrase. What makes marriage hard to you?

It is but so is being single, divorced or widowed, just in different ways and degrees.

Marriage is hard because it's a merger of two lives and acquisition of more. Your work load, priorities, goals, responsibilities and resources change.

It's important to be kind and upright and find someone kind and upright, rest is fine print. If you aren't good people, you can't be good partners or good parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

NP. Because someone said that marriage is hard if they choose the wrong spouse?!
That is absolutely correct and anyone who thinks choosing the wrong spouse doesn’t make marriage hard is a damn fool. Talking to you, pp.

[Anonymous]

forgot to add that most feel love is additionally shown through sexual availability (high-libido) or uncomplaining suppression of your needs (low-libido), all of which still adds up to

WOMAN, PLEASE BOW DOWN.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

NP. I mean if you equate judging someone as a “jerk” on the internet to judging how you pick a spouse, I would say you do have very poor judgement.

Being a jerk worse than picking a lousy spouse. The former is a mistake, the latter is the product of malice.

The “jerk” thing is subjective. Just because someone is truthful and you don’t like it doesn’t make them a jerk.
Picking the wrong spouse is profoundly bad.
Everyone is a jerk at times, including you. Picking a wrong spouse is for life.

Both are subjective, actually. Someone may believe that they picked the wrong spouse but it was the best spouse for them. Or there could be an unintended positive outcome from their marriage, like personal growth and understanding or a child with a really positive impact on the world.

There are no benefits to writing nasty comments on the internet beyond entertainment value. Even if the value is subjective, even if one person thinks you are being a jerk you are lowering the value of the DCUM for them and other people too.

The nasty comments came from the ones accusing another of being a jerk. Calling someone a jerk should tell you who the jerk is. They are in fact devaluing dcum themselves with calling any one with a different viewpoint from them juvenile names.

No, there is value in calling out the people who believe it is their God-given duty to inform others that everything bad that happens to them is their own fault, and there are a lot of those people on this website. Those people are jerks.

If you happen to be one of those people and you don’t like it, oh well.

Oh, well, back to you. You think it’s your god-given duty to shut down anyone who has a different view from you. You can’t and you won’t.

It would be shutting down the discussion of I simply called you a jerk for no reason. But I’ve clearly stated the reason, and the conversation has not shut down because you are like the energizer bunny of smugness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The not strangling on a daily basis...to begin with...and that is why I am educating my daughters. Marriage to a man means bowing down or digging those spurs in forever.

Why are you telling your daughters that they have to bow down or dig in spurs to be married? You’re doing the opposite of educating them.

Women who grew up without brothers are shocked -- as I was -- to learn what men are really like and what they want in partners. My daughters will know that, despite the current fashionable discourse to the contrary:

1 - Most men feel that love is shown through respect(ful submission and strategic silence);
2 - Most men like to work hard only for the 3 P's - pay, prestige, pleasure - I first described on DCUM years ago;
3 - Most men will not even pretend to do anything like an equal amount of unfun stuff (housekeeping, admin, parent-teacher conferences, etc.) after the kids come even if their wives are literally saving the world by helping to develop the corona vaccine.

They look like us, but they are nothing like us.

You’re emotionally unbalanced and bitter because you apparently hooked up with a bum.