Marriage is hard

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Kids. Before that it was a cakewalk.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

No, someone else hurt you and you are blaming the wrong people.

Nope, it’s actually the smug gross people who hurt me. Just them. My own spouse is nice. But if you can’t see how someone could change for the worse over the course of a marriage, and how it’s the not the other person’s fault, you are dumb, and also a jerk. And watching callous stupidity on this website hurts me.

What substances are you abusing?

Awesome comeback. Here is your cookie: 🍪

Awesome comeback. Here is your participation prize. 🧶

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

The irony.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of things are hard- parenting and my job, but marriage isn't hard. Sure there's a negotiation about everything (and I don't mean some big debate, more like knowing that my dh would prefer a mountain vacation over a beach vacation) but it's fun. Marriage is just having a best friend on your side to manage the kids, manage the house and pay the bills.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

[Anonymous]

Kids and financial stress have made it hard for us. I look wistfully at friends with "easy" kids and six figure incomes and imagine things wouldn't be so hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids. Before that it was a cakewalk.

What makes living with someone and coordinating life today married?

- parenting kids
- maintaining a house and property
- executive functioning skills required to run a household and family, whilst working fulltime
- communicating and role modeling healthy conversations, conflict resolution, planning methods
- accommodating in laws visits, holidays, new or old traditions
- being a true adult with responsibilities beyond to one’s self

[Anonymous]

My ADHD.

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of things are hard- parenting and my job, but marriage isn't hard. Sure there's a negotiation about everything (and I don't mean some big debate, more like knowing that my dh would prefer a mountain vacation over a beach vacation) but it's fun. Marriage is just having a best friend on your side to manage the kids, manage the house and pay the bills.

Negotiation about everything is hard (to some people). I find it hard, and my husband and I agree more than most spouses I think.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

[Anonymous]

When one spouse assumes nothing in their work life or general personal schedule will change after buying a house or having kids.

Big problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids. Before that it was a cakewalk.

Weirdly at one point when our kids were younger, I think marriage was easier, there was this goal we were very focused on together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My marriage is easy. Most of our disagreements are petty and usually my fault.

Parenting is hard.

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I see a lot of marriages with amazing relationships and ideal spouses but would not trade with any of them. Parenting is definitely the hard part because I feel like their future rests on my guidance. Maybe it's seems easier once you've past the 20 yr mark in marriage and parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is hard if you don’t marry the right person.

Who is to say who is the "right person?" What does this mean? People change. People change after they marry they change, stop performing etc.

Smug morons on this board who think they have all the answers because their lives with their spouses are “easy” but for some reason they are simultaneously wildly insecure.

Who hurt you?

The people who respond to every marriage related problem and question with “you chose him” “I chose well” “why did you choose him” etc. Those people hurt me.

Same. ((Hugs PP))

Have better judgment in who you choose for a spouse. That’s your fault and no one else’s You hurt yourself.

You are a terrible human.

bad judgment makes you terrible.

Everyone shows bad judgment at least a few times in their life. Like for example, you show bad judgment in being an anonymous jerk on the internet. The question is, do you have any redeeming qualities to overcome that? Doubtful.🤨

Yea, bc this judgement in this website is so much like choosing a spouse.