PSA - If your kids are dating, make sure they have birth control!

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

It’s not advice or counsel. It’s a strict boundary. If you know where your kids are, who they’re hanging out, and what they’re doing. And have also explained STDs and pregnancy and made clear that if the latter happens their life/goals are done for because they’ll have to take care of a child, and if your kid isn’t a fool, that should be enough. And for the vast majority is enough.

On top of that, if I had a girl I’d have no issue getting her BC pills from her doctor. Since those have the added benefit of helping regulate hormones and lessening PMS symptoms. And it’d just be smart.

But I’m not giving sons condoms, nor would I give them to a daughter. That’s essentially just saying “alright here just incase, but you still shouldn’t…” *wink wink*

Over half the kids have had sex by 18. Let me guess, all of them came from parents without strict boundaries. 100% of the half who abstained had strict boundary parents. Wink wink

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/pressroom/nchs_press_releases/2017/201706_NSFG.htm

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

It’s not advice or counsel. It’s a strict boundary. If you know where your kids are, who they’re hanging out, and what they’re doing. And have also explained STDs and pregnancy and made clear that if the latter happens their life/goals are done for because they’ll have to take care of a child, and if your kid isn’t a fool, that should be enough. And for the vast majority is enough.

On top of that, if I had a girl I’d have no issue getting her BC pills from her doctor. Since those have the added benefit of helping regulate hormones and lessening PMS symptoms. And it’d just be smart.

But I’m not giving sons condoms, nor would I give them to a daughter. That’s essentially just saying “alright here just incase, but you still shouldn’t…” *wink wink*

You’d get your daughter birth control pills but not condoms for a son? Excellent reasoning. Wink wink

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Anonymous wrote:Please, if your kid is dating, even if you don't "think" they're having sex, provide them with birth control. Even better, two kinds!

DD recently accompanied her friend (16) to the drugstore to get Plan B because "the condom broke." Yes, a condom is a start but friend is not on BC.

Yes, DD is on BC.

This doesn't strike me as the worst outcome. Kid was using one form of birth control and when it failed, she used a backup. Are you implying the kid definitely should have been on the pill?

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Anonymous wrote:The biggest hurdle is to make girls understand the BCP does not prevent STD’s and the boys still need to use condoms. My friend and her boyfriend were both virgins but he cheated on her and she didn’t know until she got herpes in the late 90’s. Never trust anyone

Absolutely YES on condoms for safe-sex / prevention of disease, every time (no exceptions).

And kids need it explained to them to use a new/fresh condom for each act of intercourse, even in the same night. No wonder OP’s kid experienced a breakage.

Girls especially need to also be educated and insist on condoms for oral. This is why they make the unlubed condoms, and the flavored ones. No condom? No sex.

As a parent, make sure you provide both types of condoms.

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Serious Question:

If you advocate and encourage abstinence, did your child receive the HPV vaccine?

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IMO
It God will. If God wants my child to have a baby its God will. No need for BC or anything.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious Question:

If you advocate and encourage abstinence, did your child receive the HPV vaccine?

No need, we are done with vaccines.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

Quite frankly, I’ve had the sex talk, we’ve discussed the risks of pregnancy and std’s and i have made them aware of my personal views that having sex with someone with whom you are not ready to have a child (note that i do not say that the point of sex is to have a kid, merely that this is one of the more obvious outcomes) is really effing stupid. And obviously if they are too immature to buy condoms, they’re too immature to have sex.

If they choose to disregard all of those warnings, you are right in that I can’t stop them, but unfortunately the consequences are on them. I am NOT buying them condoms, because I do NOT approve of them having sex while still in high school. Just like I am not going to buy them alcohol even though lot of high school kids drink.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

Quite frankly, I’ve had the sex talk, we’ve discussed the risks of pregnancy and std’s and i have made them aware of my personal views that having sex with someone with whom you are not ready to have a child (note that i do not say that the point of sex is to have a kid, merely that this is one of the more obvious outcomes) is really effing stupid. And obviously if they are too immature to buy condoms, they’re too immature to have sex.

If they choose to disregard all of those warnings, you are right in that I can’t stop them, but unfortunately the consequences are on them. I am NOT buying them condoms, because I do NOT approve of them having sex while still in high school. Just like I am not going to buy them alcohol even though lot of high school kids drink.

That’s not what I asked. I didn’t say anything about you buying the condoms. The questions were:

if your kids ignored your advice, would you want them to use a condom when they had sex?

Should kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

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Anonymous wrote:Serious Question:

If you advocate and encourage abstinence, did your child receive the HPV vaccine?

No need, we are done with vaccines.

Bwahahaha!

You know your child's future DH or DW whom they will first sleep with on their wedding night, may not have had such a sheltered past as your kid and may give them HPV.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

No. They will have sex or not. Abstinence programs don’t work.

They worked on my kid. "Have a dependent, and you're not attending the college you wanted." So he never had sex.

No. It just means that he doesn't have a dependent.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

Cool mom, but not a young grandma or mom to dead kids. I'll take that any day.

Huh?

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Anonymous wrote:I know a private school that for a homework assignment requires kids to go to a local CVS and purchased condoms and provide the receipt to the teacher.
The point is - if you are uncomfortable buying condoms - you might want to think twice about if you are ready to have sex.

I know many will talk about the injustice of the assignment - but if nothing else, it gets the kids talking.

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On that note, I made my son do this when he was a young teen. If I remember correctly I think I made him buy condoms and tampons while I watched from the aisle to ensure he did it. He wasn't embarrassed and didn't care but I wanted to make sure. I also had condoms available in the bathroom cabinet and had many discussions about birth control. The discussions were not like I hope you don't do that but if you do, but more like I expect you will be doing this and taking precautions needs to be part of the plan. With that said I didn't allow private time with girlfriends in my house during high school.

Had I had a girl I would have put her on the pill or IUD to "regulate her period." I wouldn't want any teenage carelessness getting things off track for my kid

I would never lie to my kid and say she needed to be on the pill to "regulate her period." Getting on the pill too young for an extended period of time can compromise your future fertility. I know a woman that was put on the pill to regulate her period. It took her ten years of secondary fertility to conceive her second child. If you are going to put your child on the pill/IUD, at least be honest about the side effects.

This is false information. Hormonal contraception does not cause infertiity. Google it.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

Teens who receive straightforward sex ed and have access to BC are less likely to be sexually active than teens who have abstinence focused sex ed and lack access to BC.