PSA - If your kids are dating, make sure they have birth control!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

Buying condoms is hard. The last time I bought them about 10 years ago in my 30’s the older 70’s cashier said oh honey and looked at me all sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

No one decides to have sex because of condom availability, if that’s what you’re trying to say. They have sex because they want to, and if condoms are readily available, they have safer sex. That mom is doing nothing wrong by having them on offer.

actually, they do. you send the message to you kids that is ok for your them to have sex. presumably this is the message you want to send. but don't pretend boxes of condoms have no implications.

No. They will have sex or not. Abstinence programs don’t work.

What is an “abstinence program”? My parents made it clear they didn’t want me to have sex in HS, and I didn’t. Simple.

Same.

+1. Parents can’t control anything 100%, but that doesn’t mean we should throw up our hands & give up.

Also, People need to warn their sons not to have sex with anyone with whom they don’t want to be tied to for life. If a condom (the only BC the male controls) breaks & a pregnancy occurs, he has zero say in whether the child is carried to term, and will be financially & paternally responsible for any resulting child. No birth control is 100% effective, no matter how much people don’t like to hear that.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

+1

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know a private school that for a homework assignment requires kids to go to a local CVS and purchased condoms and provide the receipt to the teacher.
The point is - if you are uncomfortable buying condoms - you might want to think twice about if you are ready to have sex.

I know many will talk about the injustice of the assignment - but if nothing else, it gets the kids talking.

Troll

On that note, I made my son do this when he was a young teen. If I remember correctly I think I made him buy condoms and tampons while I watched from the aisle to ensure he did it. He wasn't embarrassed and didn't care but I wanted to make sure. I also had condoms available in the bathroom cabinet and had many discussions about birth control. The discussions were not like I hope you don't do that but if you do, but more like I expect you will be doing this and taking precautions needs to be part of the plan. With that said I didn't allow private time with girlfriends in my house during high school.

Had I had a girl I would have put her on the pill or IUD to "regulate her period." I wouldn't want any teenage carelessness getting things off track for my kid

I would never lie to my kid and say she needed to be on the pill to "regulate her period." Getting on the pill too young for an extended period of time can compromise your future fertility. I know a woman that was put on the pill to regulate her period. It took her ten years of secondary fertility to conceive her second child. If you are going to put your child on the pill/IUD, at least be honest about the side effects.

Pls stop with your made up stories. Birth control pills do not cause Infertility. Never has, never will

[Anonymous]

The biggest hurdle is to make girls understand the BCP does not prevent STD’s and the boys still need to use condoms. My friend and her boyfriend were both virgins but he cheated on her and she didn’t know until she got herpes in the late 90’s. Never trust anyone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

You are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

You are an idiot.

+1

[Anonymous]

BC is going to be outlawed with Condoms as well.

Wake up people.

Your DD and DS's are going to be charged with murder if they help someone with a miscariage. Not just abortions.

All children should be taught sex ed period!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a private school that for a homework assignment requires kids to go to a local CVS and purchased condoms and provide the receipt to the teacher.
The point is - if you are uncomfortable buying condoms - you might want to think twice about if you are ready to have sex.

I know many will talk about the injustice of the assignment - but if nothing else, it gets the kids talking.

Troll

On that note, I made my son do this when he was a young teen. If I remember correctly I think I made him buy condoms and tampons while I watched from the aisle to ensure he did it. He wasn't embarrassed and didn't care but I wanted to make sure. I also had condoms available in the bathroom cabinet and had many discussions about birth control. The discussions were not like I hope you don't do that but if you do, but more like I expect you will be doing this and taking precautions needs to be part of the plan. With that said I didn't allow private time with girlfriends in my house during high school.

Had I had a girl I would have put her on the pill or IUD to "regulate her period." I wouldn't want any teenage carelessness getting things off track for my kid

I would never lie to my kid and say she needed to be on the pill to "regulate her period." Getting on the pill too young for an extended period of time can compromise your future fertility. I know a woman that was put on the pill to regulate her period. It took her ten years of secondary fertility to conceive her second child. If you are going to put your child on the pill/IUD, at least be honest about the side effects.

Is there research that proves this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Better yet, abstinence and no dating. Problem solved.

Has worked so well for all of human history!

This.

[Anonymous]

You guys are forgetting about date rape. So many girls don’t intend to have sex but it still happens without consent. And then they are scared to tell their parents because they weren’t supposed to be dating at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

This is exactly my view as well.

You’re missing the part where plenty of kids are doing it anyway. So the question is this:

If your kid elected to disregard your advice and counsel and have sex, would you like him or her to have protected sex or unprotected sex? I assume we can agree even if every parent said not to, some kids will anyway. Should those kids have control over their own bodies and have protection if that is their wish and desire? Or, should those kids assume all risks of STDs and pregnancy because they failed to heed their parents’ warning AND failed to buy their own condoms?

It’s not advice or counsel. It’s a strict boundary. If you know where your kids are, who they’re hanging out, and what they’re doing. And have also explained STDs and pregnancy and made clear that if the latter happens their life/goals are done for because they’ll have to take care of a child, and if your kid isn’t a fool, that should be enough. And for the vast majority is enough.

On top of that, if I had a girl I’d have no issue getting her BC pills from her doctor. Since those have the added benefit of helping regulate hormones and lessening PMS symptoms. And it’d just be smart.

But I’m not giving sons condoms, nor would I give them to a daughter. That’s essentially just saying “alright here just incase, but you still shouldn’t…” *wink wink*