PSA - If your kids are dating, make sure they have birth control!

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Anonymous wrote:Somewhat tangential but since we’re discussing talking to kids about sex: we should also talk WAY more about how hard it can be to get pregnant when you want to and how common miscarriages are and how upsetting they can be even if you weren’t sure you wanted the baby. This thread is reminding me of my (inadequate) sex ed that low key convinced me than any sex I had without a condom would inevitably result in pregnancy. Seven months of trying for my first baby was a really upsetting surprise.

Teens are much more fertile than 20 and especially 30yr olds. I mean older teens used to be married and giving birth in the early 1900's and centuries before that mid teens were moms. Our bodies aren't supposed to have many kids starting in the late 20's and 30's. Your eggs are old, sperm are slower.

Teens aren’t that much more fertile (I think fertility peaks in your 20s so late teens/early 30s are give or take the same for chance of pregnancy) and have a significantly higher rate of miscarriage than people in their 20s, which is why I think it sucks no one talks about it with them. Everyone is so focused on scaring them into not having sex they end up with weird hang ups and assumptions that can do a number on them.

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

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I can buy that all teens aren't having sex, but I can't buy that your male teen is having these conversations with you. You seem very enmeshed.

You don't think that's how a teen boy would reply when his parents have the safe sex conversation with him and remind him of what a pregnancy would do to his plans? A single conversation does not "enmeshed" make, but keep projecting, I guess.

Let me ask how many virgins are at Annapolis?!?! ZERO

Wake up mom! He is not waiting until 22yrs old unless he is a disgusting dork no one wants to get near. You are literally insane!!!!

He's always been risk-adverse.

Then he definitely shouldn't go into the military.

I think you're a troll.

You people will do anything to justify your disgusting, impulsive behavior.

Remind your snowflake that anal sex is sex.

You realize women have gotten pregnant from anal sex, right? Someone needs sex ed, but it's not my child.

Did the person who got pregnant from anal sex have a perforated rectum with a duct running to the fallopian tube?

Lady wtf are you talking about?!?

‘cause sex is so clean and perfect and every single cell goes where it was intended… you arrogant fool

There is no recorded pregnancy from anal sex

This is making me laugh. No one is pulling out from anal sex and getting it all over a vagina and some seman just happens to sneak in.

You mean under laboratory conditions? Was there a field experiment I am not aware of? Or are you talking out of your prolapsed ass?

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone threatening getting girls pregnant are so idiotic.

1. Teen boys have poor frontal lobes and a ton of hormones.

2. They are impulsive and horny. If they aren’t having sex it’s because they have no one interested in them. Teen boys are not saying no.

3. The whole point of not getting a girl pregnant IS birth control. Condoms, pill, plan b, and abortions.

4. Preaching abstinence only just shuts down communication. You can state your opinions and guide them, but they will make their own choices when you aren’t with them and history of every generation has shown that peers and hormones win out the majority of the time. That is why schools and planned parenthood give out free condoms. To those that have poor relationships with their parents.

I was with you through #1 but the rest of this is simply incorrect. I’m sorry that you or your husband don’t have the relationship with your son that some of us have with ours.

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Anonymous wrote:Somewhat tangential but since we’re discussing talking to kids about sex: we should also talk WAY more about how hard it can be to get pregnant when you want to and how common miscarriages are and how upsetting they can be even if you weren’t sure you wanted the baby. This thread is reminding me of my (inadequate) sex ed that low key convinced me than any sex I had without a condom would inevitably result in pregnancy. Seven months of trying for my first baby was a really upsetting surprise.

Teens are much more fertile than 20 and especially 30yr olds. I mean older teens used to be married and giving birth in the early 1900's and centuries before that mid teens were moms. Our bodies aren't supposed to have many kids starting in the late 20's and 30's. Your eggs are old, sperm are slower.

That’s not true at all! Teenage girls are about as fertile as early 40s women. Pregnancy is possible, but because hormones are still regulating and out of whack, miscarriages and other fertility/genetic problems with fetus are more likely. Peak fertility for women is 20s and early 30s, when the hormones are more balanced.

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Anonymous wrote:Somewhat tangential but since we’re discussing talking to kids about sex: we should also talk WAY more about how hard it can be to get pregnant when you want to and how common miscarriages are and how upsetting they can be even if you weren’t sure you wanted the baby. This thread is reminding me of my (inadequate) sex ed that low key convinced me than any sex I had without a condom would inevitably result in pregnancy. Seven months of trying for my first baby was a really upsetting surprise.

Teens are much more fertile than 20 and especially 30yr olds. I mean older teens used to be married and giving birth in the early 1900's and centuries before that mid teens were moms. Our bodies aren't supposed to have many kids starting in the late 20's and 30's. Your eggs are old, sperm are slower.

That’s not true at all! Teenage girls are about as fertile as early 40s women. Pregnancy is possible, but because hormones are still regulating and out of whack, miscarriages and other fertility/genetic problems with fetus are more likely. Peak fertility for women is 20s and early 30s, when the hormones are more balanced.

Are we talking about 13 or 19? Because 19 is peak fertility and nowhere close to early 40s.

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Weird. I waited until I got married at 29.

Ewww lol

You realize you are an anomaly.

DP. How on earth is waiting to have sex an “eww”?? I was in my mid-20s & engaged before having sex. My brothers also weren’t having sex as teens.

Not test driving the car before buying it is not a good practice.

Human beings aren’t cars & shouldn’t be bought. We’ve been together for over 25 years & it has worked out for us.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

I predict a friend will one day need to accompany your kid to get Plan B.

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18-22 years old is peak fertility.

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Weird. I waited until I got married at 29.

Ewww lol

You realize you are an anomaly.

DP. How on earth is waiting to have sex an “eww”?? I was in my mid-20s & engaged before having sex. My brothers also weren’t having sex as teens.

Not test driving the car before buying it is not a good practice.

Human beings aren’t cars & shouldn’t be bought. We’ve been together for over 25 years & it has worked out for us.

Times are different now.

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Weird. I waited until I got married at 29.

Ewww lol

You realize you are an anomaly.

DP. How on earth is waiting to have sex an “eww”?? I was in my mid-20s & engaged before having sex. My brothers also weren’t having sex as teens.

Not test driving the car before buying it is not a good practice.

Human beings aren’t cars & shouldn’t be bought. We’ve been together for over 25 years & it has worked out for us.

Times are different now.

That's what they always say.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

I predict a friend will one day need to accompany your kid to get Plan B.

DP. Just because you have a bad kid, doesn’t mean that others do.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

I predict a friend will one day need to accompany your kid to get Plan B.

DP. Just because you have a bad kid, doesn’t mean that others do.

Your a simple thinker, arent you?

[Anonymous]

Kids need birth control when they aren’t dating too. Phones allow a lot of privacy and many parents don’t know when their kid is in a relationship or situation shop or casually coupling, or having random one nights.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

I predict a friend will one day need to accompany your kid to get Plan B.

DP. Just because you have a bad kid, doesn’t mean that others do.

Your a simple thinker, arent you?

It’s your mirror, sweetie.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

I predict a friend will one day need to accompany your kid to get Plan B.

DP. Just because you have a bad kid, doesn’t mean that others do.

Your a simple thinker, arent you?

It’s your mirror, sweetie.

Eh, I'm not the one talking about "bad kids."