PSA - If your kids are dating, make sure they have birth control!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t need to be 21 to buy condoms. Using condoms can’t kill someone if you get behind the wheel. Stop comparing apples to oranges.

If they’re not mature enough to get their own condoms. Whether that be from the counselors office at school, or asking for a store employee to unlock the antitheft case and then have the cashier ring them up—then they’re not mature enough for sex.

The fact that they aren’t mature enough also likely means they aren’t mature enough to realize that.

My 8th grader’s health unit right now is on birth control. I’ve made clear our expectation is that high school is too young for sex but that if she ever disagrees with that, I will absolutely make sure she has access to birth control and health care. We also have two women in our lives that she feels very close to and knows she could talk to them if she didn’t want to come to us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

Cool mom, but not a young grandma or mom to dead kids. I'll take that any day.

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I’m sorry; how did we go from handling out condoms like candy, to having dead kids? You’ve really bought into the progressive parenting movement hook, line and sinker.

Why don’t you just try being an active parent instead of trying to be their best friend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

Cool mom, but not a young grandma or mom to dead kids. I'll take that any day.

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I’m sorry; how did we go from handling out condoms like candy, to having dead kids? You’ve really bought into the progressive parenting movement hook, line and sinker.

Why don’t you just try being an active parent instead of trying to be their best friend?

Because forbidding teenagers from having sex is such an effective tactic?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

Cool mom, but not a young grandma or mom to dead kids. I'll take that any day.

.

I’m sorry; how did we go from handling out condoms like candy, to having dead kids? You’ve really bought into the progressive parenting movement hook, line and sinker.

Why don’t you just try being an active parent instead of trying to be their best friend?

Because forbidding teenagers from having sex is such an effective tactic?

yes, it is. you should try it sometime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP. My kids had also gone with a friend to get plan B. Since I have condoms in the house for safe teen planning “just in case,” you should know many kids have come by to take some from my kid. And…they tell my kid they wish they could talk to their parents about this but they can’t.

Oh look. It’s the cool mom. You have the alcohol too, right?

Cool mom, but not a young grandma or mom to dead kids. I'll take that any day.

.

I’m sorry; how did we go from handling out condoms like candy, to having dead kids? You’ve really bought into the progressive parenting movement hook, line and sinker.

Why don’t you just try being an active parent instead of trying to be their best friend?

Because forbidding teenagers from having sex is such an effective tactic?

yes, it is. you should try it sometime.

No it never has been an effective deterrent. People were just more comfortable with young teens marrying once the girl got pregnant. Even now in conservative rural America

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please, if your kid is dating, even if you don't "think" they're having sex, provide them with birth control. Even better, two kinds!

DD recently accompanied her friend (16) to the drugstore to get Plan B because "the condom broke." Yes, a condom is a start but friend is not on BC.

Yes, DD is on BC.

Yup. My son has access to condoms, Plan B, and pregnancy tests. And I've told him to share with any friends who may need them. I will replace, no questions asked.

[Anonymous]

OK, I'm confused. What is wrong with using condoms and then going to get Plan B if the condom breaks? That is already 2 levels of protection. You are recommending that teens use condoms, Plan B, and be on the pill/IUD/whatever for a 3rd type of converage? Doesn't that seem excessive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, I'm confused. What is wrong with using condoms and then going to get Plan B if the condom breaks? That is already 2 levels of protection. You are recommending that teens use condoms, Plan B, and be on the pill/IUD/whatever for a 3rd type of converage? Doesn't that seem excessive?

Plan B is expensive. Not every teen is going to be able to get it.

But yes everyone having sex who doesn't want kids should be using two methods. Condoms and spermicide. Condoms and pill. Condoms and IUD. And so on. Plan B is not pleasant and should only be used in emergencies, not as a typical contraception method.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, I'm confused. What is wrong with using condoms and then going to get Plan B if the condom breaks? That is already 2 levels of protection. You are recommending that teens use condoms, Plan B, and be on the pill/IUD/whatever for a 3rd type of converage? Doesn't that seem excessive?

Plan B isn’t 100% effective either, you know. I took Plan B within 2 hours of unprotected sex and still became pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if they’re dating, that’s obvious they need birth control even if they think they’re not going to have sex. The thing is that kids also have sex outside of traditional dating, so be aware of that possibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OK, I'm confused. What is wrong with using condoms and then going to get Plan B if the condom breaks? That is already 2 levels of protection. You are recommending that teens use condoms, Plan B, and be on the pill/IUD/whatever for a 3rd type of converage? Doesn't that seem excessive?

Plan B is expensive. Not every teen is going to be able to get it.

But yes everyone having sex who doesn't want kids should be using two methods. Condoms and spermicide. Condoms and pill. Condoms and IUD. And so on. Plan B is not pleasant and should only be used in emergencies, not as a typical contraception method.

Being on the pill/IUD for a year or more is "expensive" too. Plus, I think that when a kid is on the pill/IUD, they could choose to forgo condom usage because they think they are protected. That just leads to more STDs. Teens should always use condoms first and foremost.

[Anonymous]

I know a private school that for a homework assignment requires kids to go to a local CVS and purchased condoms and provide the receipt to the teacher.
The point is - if you are uncomfortable buying condoms - you might want to think twice about if you are ready to have sex.

I know many will talk about the injustice of the assignment - but if nothing else, it gets the kids talking.

[Anonymous]

I can't control what DS's girlfriend does for BC. I know they are using condoms (found a wrapper) and had a discussion with him about them not being 100% and needing an additional layer of protection.

And yes, I bought more condoms for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a private school that for a homework assignment requires kids to go to a local CVS and purchased condoms and provide the receipt to the teacher.
The point is - if you are uncomfortable buying condoms - you might want to think twice about if you are ready to have sex.

I know many will talk about the injustice of the assignment - but if nothing else, it gets the kids talking.

Bull.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Better yet, abstinence and no dating. Problem solved.

This does not happen in a vacuum. Parents have to be very engaged with the kids and the kids have to have a full plate with academics, sports, ECs and supportive and positive appropriate socializing. Just telling kids that they have to practice absitinence will not work. You have to keep them busy, provide support that they feel encouraged, and help them to work towards a worthwhile goal.

Also, if the kid has faced sexual grooming, abuse and neglect as a kid, or the family is dysfunctional then the kid can be promiscuous sexually. So, the birth control, condoms, dental dams, and HPV vaccines are super important.

You cannot out the trendy “this doesn’t happen in a vacuum” comment anywhere and think it works or makes sense.