If you wanted to legally and safely annoy an apartment neighbor,

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

[Anonymous]

I would do the opposite. Stay away from them, sprinkle holy water around your apartment, entrance and hallway, elevator, car, etc. Don't let them see you do this. Always be pleasant but as invisible as possible. Strengthen relationships with other neighbors. Make conversation whenever you see them. The other neighbors probably get it that he's weird and he may drive himself away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

I don't buy this. I'm a middle-aged woman myself, so I can't imagine having the desire or patience to harass neighbors, even those I don't like or who I may feel have "wronged" me one way or another. Women are just too busy keeping the world running for that $h!t. Your mileage may vary somewhat in that you only have yourself to take care of, but still, I can't imagine a woman our age indulging in such pettiness.

You mentioned a down condo market yourself. How do you not understand that selling under unfavorable terms could have serious financial consequences for a young couple just starting out.

You still sound childish if not downright unhinged to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

I don't buy this. I'm a middle-aged woman myself, so I can't imagine having the desire or patience to harass neighbors, even those I don't like or who I may feel have "wronged" me one way or another. Women are just too busy keeping the world running for that $h!t. Your mileage may vary somewhat in that you only have yourself to take care of, but still, I can't imagine a woman our age indulging in such pettiness.

You mentioned a down condo market yourself. How do you not understand that selling under unfavorable terms could have serious financial consequences for a young couple just starting out.

You still sound childish if not downright unhinged to me.

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We middle aged women do not think like this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

I don't buy this. I'm a middle-aged woman myself, so I can't imagine having the desire or patience to harass neighbors, even those I don't like or who I may feel have "wronged" me one way or another. Women are just too busy keeping the world running for that $h!t. Your mileage may vary somewhat in that you only have yourself to take care of, but still, I can't imagine a woman our age indulging in such pettiness.

You mentioned a down condo market yourself. How do you not understand that selling under unfavorable terms could have serious financial consequences for a young couple just starting out.

You still sound childish if not downright unhinged to me.

+1
We middle aged women do not think like this.

Lol I'm a middle aged women and you two don't speak for me. It is "unhinged" to think because you are the same age and gender as another person, you will have the same responses to things, same desires, etc. Listen to yourselves. Super weird.

[Anonymous]

Penny them in. With them inside at night you push really hard on top of door and Jam some coins in between door and frame. Do same in bottom.

The pressure makes it impossible to open door from inside

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Penny them in. With them inside at night you push really hard on top of door and Jam some coins in between door and frame. Do same in bottom.

The pressure makes it impossible to open door from inside

Ok in case if fire or emergency person wouldn't be able to get out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

I don't buy this. I'm a middle-aged woman myself, so I can't imagine having the desire or patience to harass neighbors, even those I don't like or who I may feel have "wronged" me one way or another. Women are just too busy keeping the world running for that $h!t. Your mileage may vary somewhat in that you only have yourself to take care of, but still, I can't imagine a woman our age indulging in such pettiness.

You mentioned a down condo market yourself. How do you not understand that selling under unfavorable terms could have serious financial consequences for a young couple just starting out.

You still sound childish if not downright unhinged to me.

+1
We middle aged women do not think like this.

Lol I'm a middle aged women and you two don't speak for me. It is "unhinged" to think because you are the same age and gender as another person, you will have the same responses to things, same desires, etc. Listen to yourselves. Super weird.

Nothing about your posts sound female.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the PPs posting again, to add, real middle aged women (particularly dowdy ones as you claim to be) are practically invisible to men. We have nothing to offer them or deny them, so they are not thinking about us, they are especially not thinking about our marriage prospects or fecundity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you like them? Are you prejudiced? Did they wrong you somehow? If they’re not doing these kind of things to you, why can’t you get along? Perhaps you’re not cut out for living with a shared wall.

They don't like me, and it is rooted in prejudice. They say nasty things about me to all our neighbors and never speak to me and glare at me whenever I see them. It makes me uncomfortable but there is nothing they have technically done to me. But I'd like to make it unpleasant for them to live there until they move. There are several reasons why they probably don't like living here, I'd just like to help them along and hopefully get a neighbor there who is less hostile towards me. They make me uneasy.

So now you want to give them justifiable reasons not to like you? OP you don’t sound particularly bright.

I think OP sounds mentally ill.

I think OP is a man who is angry that an older, female, unattractive to him, neighbor is living her life not in awe of an aspect of his lifestyle or his existence.

OP here and the reality is more the opposite. I am a singe, middle-aged professional woman and my neighbors are a younger couple with very "traditional" values, and the husband in particular has taken to making very disparaging comments about me to other neighbors. Multiple people have told me that he has brought me up in conversations with them totally unprompted and then made comments about my age and that I'm single. He's asked several people if I'm divorced or if my husband died, and he says critical things about my appearance, including that I have gray hair and do not dress in a way he approves of (I dress in comfortable professional clothes, think Eileen Fisher, and he calls me "dowdy" and "witchy" to others). He is consistently rude to my face, interrupts conversations I'm in with other neighbors to speak to them without acknowledging me, getting irritated by minor things like a package of mine being placed in front of their door by mistake (something I didn't even do). I used to try to be friendly, smile, etc. Even dropped off some baked goods the week they moved in and introduced myself. I don't do that stuff anymore.

Several neighbors (who also cannot stand him) have let me know about the things he's saying, because he clearly absolutely hates me and the intensity of his hatred makes them uncomfortable.

I have lived here for 15 years and am close to paying off my mortgage. I do not intend to sell until I retire in a few years, and I'm not going to sell now during a bad condo market just to get away from this guy. But if he's going to hate me and be hostile anyway, I wouldn't mind annoying him and maybe accelerating the process of them moving (they complain about everything in the building and have alienated pretty much all our neighbors, including the condo board who are completely fed up, so I don't think they'll be here longterm anyway).

I don't buy this. I'm a middle-aged woman myself, so I can't imagine having the desire or patience to harass neighbors, even those I don't like or who I may feel have "wronged" me one way or another. Women are just too busy keeping the world running for that $h!t. Your mileage may vary somewhat in that you only have yourself to take care of, but still, I can't imagine a woman our age indulging in such pettiness.

You mentioned a down condo market yourself. How do you not understand that selling under unfavorable terms could have serious financial consequences for a young couple just starting out.

You still sound childish if not downright unhinged to me.

+1
We middle aged women do not think like this.

BS! I’m a middle-aged woman with an AH as a neighbor (in a townhouse), and I’ve had to resort to petty to put him in his place.

OP, you are justified.

[NP]

[Anonymous]

^ I should add that I’m also single. A lot of these men think they can bully single women. It’s not unusual.

[PP]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I should add that I’m also single. A lot of these men think they can bully single women. It’s not unusual.

[PP]

Thank you for believing me. Yes, I think the part that annoys this guy is that I'm single and childless and have the gall to go on living, even owning an apartment next to him and having a job and appearing to enjoy my life, when obviously I should be jumping on an ice floe and dying at sea.

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe that there is a building in the DMV area where all neighbors interact so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe that there is a building in the DMV area where all neighbors interact so much.

OP here and I'm not in the DMV. Midwest.

[Anonymous]

Your neighbor is not harassing you. I expected the neighbors to come your house, put up notes, send security, and have them call 24/7.
This is what happened to us. Our neighbor was unhinged coupled with rules that allowed contacting neighbor.
During vacations away from home we still got calls and letters that we were too loud. This never ended. The place is for sale now. I feel for the people who are going to buy it.