Emotional needs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. My DH is my end-all but not be-all as I’m too emotionally high maintenance for him to handle on his own. With his knowledge and permission, I have a primarily online BF who fills my pathological need for attention and drama. No doubt the proper path is therapy, but this model has worked quite well for all of us for nearly 10 years and counting!

Is this a joke? Or are you really serious?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just the female version of a husband whining that his wife isn’t meeting his sexual needs.

And when we hear that on DCUM, the invariable response to him is “you won’t die if you don’t have sex, you’re not entitled to sex, toughen up, do more to make yourself attractive to her.”

Ok then, women won’t die if they don’t get their emotional needs met, they’re not entitled to a husband that cares about their feelings, they should do more to make him interested in their emotional needs.

And the cycle goes on and on.

I told DH that I don't mind if he does not care about my feelings as long as he is fine with me not caring about his.

lmao women never care about a man’s feelings so he lost nothing there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just the female version of a husband whining that his wife isn’t meeting his sexual needs.

And when we hear that on DCUM, the invariable response to him is “you won’t die if you don’t have sex, you’re not entitled to sex, toughen up, do more to make yourself attractive to her.”

Ok then, women won’t die if they don’t get their emotional needs met, they’re not entitled to a husband that cares about their feelings, they should do more to make him interested in their emotional needs.

And the cycle goes on and on.

I told DH that I don't mind if he does not care about my feelings as long as he is fine with me not caring about his.

lmao women never care about a man’s feelings so he lost nothing there.

Do men really think like this?

Do you guys know how much we try not to say things harshly? Every woman I know makes a ton of effort to be gentle when pointing things out.

The problem is after years of gentle talk, you guys don't take a hint. I am in year #12, and I am just now beginning to be harsh. DH was shocked at the outburst during therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as your wife is not complaining about Peter doing xyz with Kathy and you guys aren’t you are good. When she goes down the rabbit hole of comparing relationships and is depressed about it, look for the nearest exit.

But if they don't have real friends to compare you to, they start using the "most women" argument.

Who doesn’t have real friends to talk with when getting zero emotional support from one’s spouse?
You’d better believe yours getting talked about if you’re a delinquent.

Men. That's who. Men don't have real friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as your wife is not complaining about Peter doing xyz with Kathy and you guys aren’t you are good. When she goes down the rabbit hole of comparing relationships and is depressed about it, look for the nearest exit.

But if they don't have real friends to compare you to, they start using the "most women" argument.

Who doesn’t have real friends to talk with when getting zero emotional support from one’s spouse?
You’d better believe yours getting talked about if you’re a delinquent.

Men. That's who. Men don't have real friends.

No wonder they don't know how to foster relationships with their wives! Imagine not being capable of maintaining friendships. Big babies!

[Anonymous]

As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

What is Dutch evening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. My DH is my end-all but not be-all as I’m too emotionally high maintenance for him to handle on his own. With his knowledge and permission, I have a primarily online BF who fills my pathological need for attention and drama. No doubt the proper path is therapy, but this model has worked quite well for all of us for nearly 10 years and counting!

Is this a joke? Or are you really serious?!

Not a joke. It works for us (but not proselytizing/claiming it would work for others). DH is happy for BF to satisfy most of my emotional demands. BF is happy for DH to satisfy most of my physical ones. I seriously have my cake and eat it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

What does this mean?

I’m sure it’s related to sex lol. I wonder as well lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as your wife is not complaining about Peter doing xyz with Kathy and you guys aren’t you are good. When she goes down the rabbit hole of comparing relationships and is depressed about it, look for the nearest exit.

But if they don't have real friends to compare you to, they start using the "most women" argument.

Who doesn’t have real friends to talk with when getting zero emotional support from one’s spouse?
You’d better believe yours getting talked about if you’re a delinquent.

Men. That's who. Men don't have real friends.

Correct.

No communication skills + Work addict + No interests/ hobbies + Poor father role model = Adult male with no friends or connections, including immediate family.

FYI - we lived in Texas for a few years. I was shocked to find that everyone was in shape, didn't work weekends - yet made very good money, went to church or brunch most Sundays, out to dinner with their wives or those social clubs, coached their kid's' teams with a few other dads, played a round of golf or tennis with their guy friends, etc. AND COULD HOLD A CONVERSATION.

They had a nice well-rounded, rich life. They were family first.

Came here and the men only talk about work projects or a newpaper article. And have no muscle tone. Lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just the female version of a husband whining that his wife isn’t meeting his sexual needs.

And when we hear that on DCUM, the invariable response to him is “you won’t die if you don’t have sex, you’re not entitled to sex, toughen up, do more to make yourself attractive to her.”

Ok then, women won’t die if they don’t get their emotional needs met, they’re not entitled to a husband that cares about their feelings, they should do more to make him interested in their emotional needs.

Sorry but no one is going to be having s3x with someone they can’t rely on, can’t trust, or who is negligent.

Sorry but no man is going to care about the “emotional needs” of a woman who isn’t meeting his needs.

Which came first? And how do they move forward?

..this is the sound..... of silence...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

What does this mean?

I’m sure it’s related to sex lol. I wonder as well lol

It means ripped farts under the blanket and releasing them strategically

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as your wife is not complaining about Peter doing xyz with Kathy and you guys aren’t you are good. When she goes down the rabbit hole of comparing relationships and is depressed about it, look for the nearest exit.

But if they don't have real friends to compare you to, they start using the "most women" argument.

Who doesn’t have real friends to talk with when getting zero emotional support from one’s spouse?
You’d better believe yours getting talked about if you’re a delinquent.

Men. That's who. Men don't have real friends.

Correct.

No communication skills + Work addict + No interests/ hobbies + Poor father role model = Adult male with no friends or connections, including immediate family.

FYI - we lived in Texas for a few years. I was shocked to find that everyone was in shape, didn't work weekends - yet made very good money, went to church or brunch most Sundays, out to dinner with their wives or those social clubs, coached their kid's' teams with a few other dads, played a round of golf or tennis with their guy friends, etc. AND COULD HOLD A CONVERSATION.

They had a nice well-rounded, rich life. They were family first.

Came here and the men only talk about work projects or a newpaper article. And have no muscle tone. Lame.

Liberal men are lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a man, my only emotional outlet is dutch evening our bed when my wife is trying to sleep. It eases my inner turmoil.

What is Dutch evening?

Dutch oven farting?