Will DC get rescinded?

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Anonymous wrote:He will most likely be fine. The schools want transcripts and won't be asking too many questions beyond that.

Agree with this, don't let the others scare you any more. Also agree with asking the counselor at the prior school for advice- you have nothing to lose, and could gain valuable insight

+1. Look at the policies of each college. Every school has a slightly different policy, but most schools have stopped requiring disclosure of disciplinary records unless they are of a criminal nature or impact academics (i.e., cheating). It was argued that the old policies had a disproportionate impact on minority students, since the numbers show they have a higher incidence of disciplinary actions.

Clarify that the school transcript will simply show that your student withdrew. If so, unless there is a criminal record, the colleges have no way of knowing why he chose to leave. Submit the on line transcript. If the college asks, tell the truth, but I believe they are unlikely to ask.

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If you can afford boarding school, pay for a college consultant who might be able to help you with the wording on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He will most likely be fine. The schools want transcripts and won't be asking too many questions beyond that.

Agree with this, don't let the others scare you any more. Also agree with asking the counselor at the prior school for advice- you have nothing to lose, and could gain valuable insight

+1. Look at the policies of each college. Every school has a slightly different policy, but most schools have stopped requiring disclosure of disciplinary records unless they are of a criminal nature or impact academics (i.e., cheating). It was argued that the old policies had a disproportionate impact on minority students, since the numbers show they have a higher incidence of disciplinary actions.

Clarify that the school transcript will simply show that your student withdrew. If so, unless there is a criminal record, the colleges have no way of knowing why he chose to leave. Submit the on line transcript. If the college asks, tell the truth, but I believe they are unlikely to ask.

To clarify — look on line at the policy of each school re: what is required to be reported. Change of school is likely, but disciplinary actions may or may not be, depending on the nature of the incident. I wouldn’t email and ask — that will just raise red flags.

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Anonymous wrote:What if the offense was shoplifting ?

Then hopefully he was accepted at Oberlin.

[Anonymous]

Former school asked you to withdraw the student and you went along with it. Morally, they owe you something for being so easy. You might be able to get them to do more for you - for example helping you understand the situation your son is in.
They can help you understand the student handbooks and contracts and coach you and your son on how to approach disclosure and conversations with possible next schools. If they don't want to do that, talk to an educational consultant or lawyer (probably privately, without telling your old school) so you can find out what your rights and obligations are.

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When you accept an offer of admission, there will be a box on the form to indicate whether you have had a change in circumstances. Also look closely at the admissions letters-- many have a paragraph saying the offer is contingent upon continued performance, good conduct, etc.

I would not lie. It's a terrible message to send a kid and it could come back to bite you at any time, even after enrollment.

https://blog.massmutual.com/planning/college-admission-rescinded
https://www.collegeconfidential.com/articles/college-rescind-acceptance-letter/

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Anonymous wrote:Former school asked you to withdraw the student and you went along with it. Morally, they owe you something for being so easy. You might be able to get them to do more for you - for example helping you understand the situation your son is in.
They can help you understand the student handbooks and contracts and coach you and your son on how to approach disclosure and conversations with possible next schools. If they don't want to do that, talk to an educational consultant or lawyer (probably privately, without telling your old school) so you can find out what your rights and obligations are.

What was OP supposed to do? Get forceably kicked out and risk it being on his transcript?

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Strong agree with 22:00 and seen this before. If you are being helpful to the previous school, they can and should help you on your way. There is literally nothing to lose since student is leaving anyway. Once the cord is cut with them, they will not see a reason to help further, so get while the getting is good!

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First, lawyer up. Do not disclose. Spin it.

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest…admission probably should be rescinded.

No boarding school is EXPELLING a kid final semester of senior year for anything other than a major incident.

+1
Especially if they know they’re screwing over a kid who’s family lives abroad.

It must have been bad, and honestly I’d be concerned about some sort of culture clash. We know in some cultures boys are allowed to do bad things to women with little-to-no consequences. I don’t want that kind of thing at any campus I’d have a DD at.

(I mean it’s already there to a lesser extent due to our own patriarchal culture.. definitely don’t need any additions…)

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“Transfer” to your local public school and get great grades

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Former school asked you to withdraw the student and you went along with it. Morally, they owe you something for being so easy. You might be able to get them to do more for you - for example helping you understand the situation your son is in.
They can help you understand the student handbooks and contracts and coach you and your son on how to approach disclosure and conversations with possible next schools. If they don't want to do that, talk to an educational consultant or lawyer (probably privately, without telling your old school) so you can find out what your rights and obligations are.

What was OP supposed to do? Get forceably kicked out and risk it being on his transcript?

For real. I could kind of understand if this was like… a EXTREMELY selective public school.. but a private school? You have 0 protections. If they don’t get federal funding you don’t get any sort of special federal protections. If it was something clearly against the school’s published code of conduct and serious enough that it was either “leave or get counseled out”. Then the school was actually doing them a favor

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Anonymous wrote:“Transfer” to your local public school and get great grades

Can you read? Last time I checked a random kid from Uzbekistan can’t claim residency in Montgomery County

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will be honest…admission probably should be rescinded.

No boarding school is EXPELLING a kid final semester of senior year for anything other than a major incident.

Parent of a boarding school kid and this is not true at all. DC's school is strict and seems to like making examples of 17/18 year old kids who made a mistake. There have been a couple of seniors who have been asked to withdraw like OP's this year and every year we have been there.

Agree. Many boarding schools have a 0 tolerance for drinking/drugs so a high school sr who stupidly has one beer or a gummy at an off campus party can absolutely get asked to leave.
Now he also could have committed a crime or done something racist…we just don’t know.

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Anonymous wrote:It probably depends a lot on how selective the accepted schools are but yeah, you need to just tell them all. You don’t have to say the incident but you have to say whatever is true (child withdrew and enrolled in whatever online school or blah blah).

I mean they got kicked out of school, isn’t it appropriate that would affect their college?

This.
OP is intentionally not telling us what the "incident" is, but even though it happened off campus, his boarding school felt it was something that could reflect badly on them and made him leave. Couldn't it also reflect badly on a college? Is this "incident" something that he might do again?

It's pretty interesting that the OP is more concerned with the future of her kid than with the fact that he did something so egregious that his boarding school effectively kicked him out (and probably was willing to frame the expulsion as a voluntary withdrawal because said parent would probably sue). I am an educator at an R1 institution, and parents like the OP are one of the reasons why the hand basket is accelerating.