Vent: boyfriend not a foodie

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a food snob and hate it when DH buys diced tomatoes from Costco just because "it was only $X!" with zero regard for quality. I'm with you OP.

Same! I get you OP. I don’t think you are snob. You just like and appreciate good food and don’t understand people who don’t. I think you need to mentally comprise. As long as he eats your food, doesn’t insist you make tater tot casserole and lets you pick restaurants (I.e. doesn’t force you to go to Applebee’s), let him smother his stuff in ketchup or cholulu or however he wants to defile it, and just let it go.

“Let him”? He’s an adult. She isn’t in charge of what he eats or how he eats it. Unless she wants him telling her what she is allowed to wear.

If she can’t stretch her brain to understand the above AND understand that people are different wrt lots of different things, like food, then she should help him out of the relationship for his sake.

[Anonymous]

I would like to thank OP for showing me why people hate the word "foodie," which I never understood before.

Also Costco sometimes has some really good canned tomatoes, so maybe you soi-disant foodies could all get together and congratulate yourselves on your superiority to the rest of us.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

LOL

Sounds bland! Let him live his life. You have nothing to do with his taste buds. Not sure why you take it personally.

My bf puts hot sauce on everything because he likes an insane amount of spice. I could not care less.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

Except for when you make the kids frozen lasagna? I love you! Keep posting!

Also ... the dude eats salad and salmon burgers on his own? I know plenty of grown men who would not eat either of those things .

The fact that plenty of grown men eat like toddlers does nothing for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a white girl from California. DH is an Indian boy raised in the U.S. South. We have completely different palettes. I could totally see my guy dumping a frozen lasagna in a veggie soup. At this point, it's just something I accept. We laugh about it. What else can you do?

(Except stop calling yourself "a foodie", because that's just obnoxious.)

It’s palate, not palette.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is a foodie and you're a bad cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop saying foodie.

And veggies. There's no reason for any adult to not say vegetable. And how come the kids are eating crappy frozen lasagna, what with OP being so into the food scene and all?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does he complain about what you make?

No he likes it and says so and eats a lot of it. I think it's probably exposure - he hasn't been around foodie life much and doesn't realize what makes some things better than others and appreciate them.

OP, I don't even understand the problem here. You cook stuff, your boyfriend eats it, likes it, and compliments you on it....what are you nitpicking about???

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I haven’t read the whole thread. What if you just insisted that he stopped doing his food crimes? I ask this because I dated a guy for years who was like this. I just dealt with it and ate crappy along with him and didn’t set foot in a non-chain restaurant with him. Then, about a year after we stop dating, remaining friends, he starts dating a real type-A, not taking anyone’s nonsense kind of woman and she just puts her foot down. No more PF Changs and the like, no more frozen crap. No possibility of compromising on this. And he went along with it. They’ve now been married 5 years and he is a borderline foodie and it’s like this whole new thing in life that brings him joy. What if you pushed the issue really hard?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop saying foodie.

And veggies. There's no reason for any adult to not say vegetable. And how come the kids are eating crappy frozen lasagna, what with OP being so into the food scene and all?

There is no reason any adult should use the phrase “how come.” The word you are looking for is “why,” as in, “Why are the kids eating crappy frozen lasagna?”