Vent: boyfriend not a foodie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

ITA, I despise picky eaters, and those who can't appreciate good, diverse foods.

Your cooking sounds awesome, OP.

-signed another foodie married to another foodie, and whose kids are turning into foodies.

Actually, OP has said her SO is happy to eat whatever she makes. Not picky. Eats diverse foods. What was your complaint again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, a lot depends on how people were raised. If they didn’t eat duck, octopus, carpaccio by a certain age, they just aren’t going to be foodies, they won’t appreciate fine dining ingredients, and they are not going to be adventurous. If you cook bc you like it fine, but you have to know your SO by now OP. You can slowly introduce him to new things when you go out to eat so that he develops a more sophisticated palate. But if he is fine eating basic foods, you need to change your expectations of him.

That’s all OP is cooking. She’s not described cooking duck, octopus, and carpaccio. She made split pea soup and described herself as a “foodie”. Split pea soup is just a basic bland food. It’s not fancy or complicated

[Anonymous]

OP, you are way too caught up in your own identity as a "foodie". Your boyfriend has different preferences from yours. There is no better than / worse than here. Nothing wrong with salad and salmon burgers for dinner! And now I totally want to try lasagna mixed into split pea soup . Frankly, he sounds more adventurous and fun, and you sound stuck in your own bias of what is the "right way" to eat.

I could never live with a truly picky eater, though. Have an uncle who is an absolute nightmare to eat with - the list of things he won't touch is a mile long. Going out to a restaurant is ridiculous, he can't order anything with half a dozen modifications. Sends at least every other meal back to the chef because it wasn't "right". That would drive me bonkers. If that were your bf, you'd have my sympathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

And your BF doesn't like what the food is saying.

Poor guy, fighting for his life, having to put a piece of lasagna in his soup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people call this CA cooking? Some of you have never experienced the CA restaurant scene. It has such a diverse food experience, and I'm not a vegetarian or a fad diet person, at all.

I lived in CA for 40 years. Foodie is about experiencing not just the quality, but the diversity of foods.

I didn’t get the reference either. CA especially So Cal has a great food scene.

OP fancies herself an Alice Waters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people call this CA cooking? Some of you have never experienced the CA restaurant scene. It has such a diverse food experience, and I'm not a vegetarian or a fad diet person, at all.

I lived in CA for 40 years. Foodie is about experiencing not just the quality, but the diversity of foods.

I didn’t get the reference either. CA especially So Cal has a great food scene.

OP fancies herself an Alice Waters.

Who?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

And your BF doesn't like what the food is saying.

Poor guy, fighting for his life, having to put a piece of lasagna in his soup.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every “foodie” I’ve ever met has been full of themselves.

That certainly describes our precious OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, a lot depends on how people were raised. If they didn’t eat duck, octopus, carpaccio by a certain age, they just aren’t going to be foodies, they won’t appreciate fine dining ingredients, and they are not going to be adventurous. If you cook bc you like it fine, but you have to know your SO by now OP. You can slowly introduce him to new things when you go out to eat so that he develops a more sophisticated palate. But if he is fine eating basic foods, you need to change your expectations of him.

This is not true. It's not about your upbringing. It's just how some people are wired. Some people get a great deal of pleasure out of eating and some don't care that much. Some people aren't particularly sexual. Some people don't care for hot baths or saunas. If OP loves good food and makes it for her SO, she is expecting him to love it too. He just doesn't care the way she does. Don't take it so personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, a lot depends on how people were raised. If they didn’t eat duck, octopus, carpaccio by a certain age, they just aren’t going to be foodies, they won’t appreciate fine dining ingredients, and they are not going to be adventurous. If you cook bc you like it fine, but you have to know your SO by now OP. You can slowly introduce him to new things when you go out to eat so that he develops a more sophisticated palate. But if he is fine eating basic foods, you need to change your expectations of him.

I first tried the majority of foods available in the U.S. when I was 17, and many dishes even later (sushi at 25, pho at 34, etc).
I am still a fairly adventurous eater.
The way a person grew up doesn’t define everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, a lot depends on how people were raised. If they didn’t eat duck, octopus, carpaccio by a certain age, they just aren’t going to be foodies, they won’t appreciate fine dining ingredients, and they are not going to be adventurous. If you cook bc you like it fine, but you have to know your SO by now OP. You can slowly introduce him to new things when you go out to eat so that he develops a more sophisticated palate. But if he is fine eating basic foods, you need to change your expectations of him.

I first tried the majority of foods available in the U.S. when I was 17, and many dishes even later (sushi at 25, pho at 34, etc).
I am still a fairly adventurous eater.
The way a person grew up doesn’t define everything

Agree. And region doesn’t matter either. Two of the least adventurous eaters I know hail from Seattle and Boston. Two of the most adventurous I know hail from Oklahoma and Boston. The Bostonians did not/do not know each other but both grew up in Lexington and went to all of the same schools, similar socioeconomic, etc. Parents cooked “American” at home but were both like the typical Americans for eating out at the time: Mexican, Thai, Chinese, Italian, etc. They both exited that experience completely differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you.

When I met my DH and asked him what his favorite food is, he said “chicken tenders.”

And you still married him.

[Anonymous]

If he’s perfect in every other way, you can learn to not care. DH and I have this issue with sports, not food but are very happy. He knows I won’t appreciate a beautiful play or complex coaching decision. I like halftime shows, kiss cams, and fan signs.

Serve your BF the simple, condiment saturated foods he prefers. Put the money you save on his serving into luxe ingredients for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

ITA, I despise picky eaters, and those who can't appreciate good, diverse foods.

Your cooking sounds awesome, OP.

-signed another foodie married to another foodie, and whose kids are turning into foodies.

Actually, OP has said her SO is happy to eat whatever she makes. Not picky. Eats diverse foods. What was your complaint again?

This. He eats everything. He just doesn't eat it the way OP thinks he should. Because she's a foodie, living her foodie life. Foodie foodie foodie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people call this CA cooking? Some of you have never experienced the CA restaurant scene. It has such a diverse food experience, and I'm not a vegetarian or a fad diet person, at all.

I lived in CA for 40 years. Foodie is about experiencing not just the quality, but the diversity of foods.

I didn’t get the reference either. CA especially So Cal has a great food scene.

OP fancies herself an Alice Waters.

Who?

IYKYK.