Vent: boyfriend not a foodie

[Anonymous]

I can't say this anywhere without sounding like the a**hole.

My boyfriend is a wonderful kind human being and I love him.

That being said, I buy nice fresh local ingredients and cook a lot. He'll do stuff like immediately dump store bought salsa on things. I made a veggie/ham split pea soup and he put a slice of frozen lasagna I made for the kids *in the soup*. It drives me insane! I try not to get offended because the point of cooking is the sharing of company and serving others right?

[Anonymous]

What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn’t enjoy your cooking and is just trying to survive.

[Anonymous]

poor guy

[Anonymous]

My husband will immediately add salt, pepper, hot sauce, or soy sauce to things. Someone explained to me that some folks are the opposite of super tasters. They need extra flavor to taste it. But - I do ask him to at least taste the food first. I explain it is insulting to assume the food needs something added. But then I accept when he drowns the food in soy sauce.

[Anonymous]

Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

[Anonymous]

I dont think people need to be foodies, but I could never seriously date someone like this. I once worked with a man who would only eat plain hamburgers or fettucine alfredo at restaurants. I cant imagine never going out to eat at restaurants or trying new foods or embracing different cultures via food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Does he complain about what you make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he complain about what you make?

No he likes it and says so and eats a lot of it. I think it's probably exposure - he hasn't been around foodie life much and doesn't realize what makes some things better than others and appreciate them.

[Anonymous]

Single mom with kids and you are complaining about this? Count your blessings you have someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he complain about what you make?

No he likes it and says so and eats a lot of it. I think it's probably exposure - he hasn't been around foodie life much and doesn't realize what makes some things better than others and appreciate them.

You are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he complain about what you make?

No he likes it and says so and eats a lot of it. I think it's probably exposure - he hasn't been around foodie life much and doesn't realize what makes some things better than others and appreciate them.

You are insufferable.

Okay. Keep buying your veggies from China and I'll support my local farmers. I don't have anywhere to talk about this which is why I'm on an anonymous forum.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re being too sensitive. He’s not rejecting your food or complaining about it. Unless he has a bad attitude when he makes his additions, I think it’s fine to make additions. I’m sure you’re a great cook, but people sometimes have different tastes.

Salsa is a very popular condiment. Would you be equally offended if he added a little salt to his food? Pepper? Hot sauce? Maybe he’s just having a craving. Sometimes, I crave weird things (onions, mustard, tuna, etc.). I generally don’t know why, but I feel better after I satisfy the craving, so I assume it’s meeting sone sort of nutritional need.

I’m not sure why he would have put the lasagna in the soup (but now I kind of want to try it). Maybe he was extra hungry or thought the lasagna looked so good he wanted to have some too, and didn’t want to dirty an extra dish?

The point is that he does seem to appreciate your cooking, but also has his own preferences which can be different from yours without being an indictment of yours. I think even “foodies” are allowed to have different preferences, and while his may be unconventional, it doesn’t make them any less valid.