Vent: boyfriend not a foodie

[Anonymous]

Stop saying foodie.

[Anonymous]

The lasagna in soup reminds me of the Australian floaters, which are meat pies in pea soup.

If everything else about BF is great, don't agonize over the food. Some people are just not into food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

ITA, I despise picky eaters, and those who can't appreciate good, diverse foods.

Your cooking sounds awesome, OP.

-signed another foodie married to another foodie, and whose kids are turning into foodies.

Actually, OP has said her SO is happy to eat whatever she makes. Not picky. Eats diverse foods. What was your complaint again?

But, he doesn't seem to appreciate the food for its own flavors. It's like someone who puts ketchup on every single thing, including filet mignon.

While I don't think this is a "break up" offense, it would irk me, and I could see that as time goes on, this would become something that really grates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

ITA, I despise picky eaters, and those who can't appreciate good, diverse foods.

Your cooking sounds awesome, OP.

-signed another foodie married to another foodie, and whose kids are turning into foodies.

Actually, OP has said her SO is happy to eat whatever she makes. Not picky. Eats diverse foods. What was your complaint again?

But, he doesn't seem to appreciate the food for its own flavors. It's like someone who puts ketchup on every single thing, including filet mignon.

While I don't think this is a "break up" offense, it would irk me, and I could see that as time goes on, this would become something that really grates.

Gosh, it’s as if he is a person with different tastes! How dare he! He must conform to your idea of what flavors he likes. He doesn’t get to have control over his own tastebuds. No bodily autonomy for him. He must eat what others tell him to eat in the way they tell him to eat.

[Anonymous]

It wasn't about food but I dated a girl who was like this about her "thing." It is rough being the guy in this scenario and would recommend that he leave now and save two more years of whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up with him, you will never be happy. I despise foodies.

ITA, I despise picky eaters, and those who can't appreciate good, diverse foods.

Your cooking sounds awesome, OP.

-signed another foodie married to another foodie, and whose kids are turning into foodies.

Actually, OP has said her SO is happy to eat whatever she makes. Not picky. Eats diverse foods. What was your complaint again?

But, he doesn't seem to appreciate the food for its own flavors. It's like someone who puts ketchup on every single thing, including filet mignon.

While I don't think this is a "break up" offense, it would irk me, and I could see that as time goes on, this would become something that really grates.

I think this is it. He doesn’t appreciate food the way she does. While he will eat what she makes, he probably wouldn’t care if she makes split pea soup from scratch (using own broth, a ham bone, dried peas, simmered most of day) or if she threw a couple hot pockets at him.

[Anonymous]

One thing I haven't seen addressed here is whether either of you has a sense of humor.

If you do, you can learn to laugh about stuff like this and enjoy your relationship.

If you are humorless, you will never get over this and you should break up.

My husband eats a million times better now than when we met. He appreciates the fact that I cook reasonably well and take the time to plan varied meals. He'll never be a foodie, but if put a piece of lasagna in soup, I would die laughing and would tease him a bit, but then I'd let him enjoy his dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop saying foodie.

Phoodi!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

Except for when you make the kids frozen lasagna? I love you! Keep posting!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

Except for when you make the kids frozen lasagna? I love you! Keep posting!

Also ... the dude eats salad and salmon burgers on his own? I know plenty of grown men who would not eat either of those things .

[Anonymous]

I'm a food snob and hate it when DH buys diced tomatoes from Costco just because "it was only $X!" with zero regard for quality. I'm with you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he normally eat? I wouldn’t waste expensive ingredients on him if he is fine with I don’t know, chicken nuggets

We both eat pretty healthy generally, he's not a meat and potatoes casserole guy. I buy fresh local veggies, eggs, bread, meat. I cook California-style - simple ingredients, letting the food speak for itself.

I'm not going to cook separate meals for the two of us and make him eat chicken nuggets. On his own he'd eat things like salad and salmon burgers, not cooking from scratch.

Except for when you make the kids frozen lasagna? I love you! Keep posting!

Also ... the dude eats salad and salmon burgers on his own? I know plenty of grown men who would not eat either of those things .

This guy sounds like he's happy to not even cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every “foodie” I’ve ever met has been full of themselves.

The sky is blue, water is wet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a food snob and hate it when DH buys diced tomatoes from Costco just because "it was only $X!" with zero regard for quality. I'm with you OP.

Same! I get you OP. I don’t think you are snob. You just like and appreciate good food and don’t understand people who don’t. I think you need to mentally comprise. As long as he eats your food, doesn’t insist you make tater tot casserole and lets you pick restaurants (I.e. doesn’t force you to go to Applebee’s), let him smother his stuff in ketchup or cholulu or however he wants to defile it, and just let it go.

[Anonymous]

I'm a white girl from California. DH is an Indian boy raised in the U.S. South. We have completely different palettes. I could totally see my guy dumping a frozen lasagna in a veggie soup. At this point, it's just something I accept. We laugh about it. What else can you do?

(Except stop calling yourself "a foodie", because that's just obnoxious.)