If your college student plays D&D, you have failed as a parent
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Anonymous
I was about to say, the true unkempt hermits with no lives who looked to be headed back to their parents' basement when I was in college were the ones playing World of Warcraft, not DoD. |
Anonymous
Yes I bet Tolkien's parents were so embarrassed, talk about cringe. |
Anonymous
It's also far more socially isolated (assuming you are doing in-person D and D, which I think most people do). My kids both play D and D. I think it's great. A bunch of kids put down their devices and make up stories with their peers for a while while they laugh a lot. I hope my kids are doing this in college too! |
Anonymous
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Everything should be done in moderation.
You don't skip work to play D&D. Just like you don't work non stop and not play a bit. It might become a habit but you don't play D&D or any other games non stop for a weekend, that is just obsessive. |
Anonymous
That's... not what Tolkien did. |
Anonymous
| I've never played and as a high schooler I probably would have made fun of those who did. (Don't worry, I've matured). At 38, I don't see what the big deal is? They aren't harming anyone. They are being social, have friends, etc. Ops opinion seems like the old school thought that these people are socially awkward losers who live in their parents basements with no job or relationship. And I'm sure there are those people in the DOD world, I really think this is an outdated assumption. |
Anonymous
Amen. Not to much to ask for. |
Anonymous
Love this. I may need to use this quote more in my life. Thanks for the reminder. |
Anonymous
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The people I know who play(ed) D&D were smart, creative types who became techies/engineers, actuaries, doctors and a couple lawyers. I’ve been to comic book shops at lunch time during the business week and was shocked to see how many professionally dressed people there, mostly but not exclusively men. It did not fit the image I had had. The first times I went were for library summer rewards for kids.
My guess is that OP doesn’t like out of the box thinkers. Heck, variations of this type of play are used to develop security scenarios IRL. |
Anonymous
| My son is very nerdy. He is in a D & D group at college. He had an internship at a B4 accounting firm this summer and a signed return offer for FT employment starting in the fall 2024. I was always of the belief that your kid would be ok if that had an activity to participate in, and it didn't matter what it was. I don't even know what a D &D group does. |
Anonymous
| I think that D&D can be a great way to make friends and engage creativity and problem solving skills as an adult. Someone being imaginative or playing as an adult isn't a problem unless it's to a maladaptive extent or interfering with RL activities. I'm sorry that this is such a worrying scenario for you OP. |
Anonymous
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How is getting together with friends to play D&D any worse than getting together with friends to watch football/basketball/soccer/whatever sport you’re into? Both are social experiences, but at least D&D makes you think & be creative.
Both of our kids have played D&D, son also played extremely high level soccer (ie: was offered a contract to play in Portugal but decided to go to college), DD was in dance since a young age. Both probably had way more fun with their friends playing D&D. |
Anonymous
+1 and it sure beats getting together and drinking or doing drugs. Mine play it with their friends, and they are also involved in sports, music, have summer jobs, do well in school, volunteer on a regular schedule with the same organizations, and have a great group of friends. I can't see how we've failed as parents. |
Anonymous
I see. You simply don't know what you are talking about, so decided to just hate on people who like a game you don't understand. |
Anonymous
That's exactly what he did. He made up languages and worlds and wrote children's books about them. |