Why are some men successful and attractive through age 50 and have never married?

[Anonymous]

My relative is like this except he’s pushing 70 now. He was extremely picky and never wanted to commit (to beautiful, objectively accomplished women) when he was the right age. Once he hit ~50, the women he was interested in did not want to marry an old man and he did not want to date women his own age.

I have a buddy who is 40 and super picky too. Or so he says, but really I think he A) just doesn’t want to be married and B) is very set in his ways (see A).

[Anonymous]

My brother. Total player. Yes. Loves the single life. He’s had many girlfriends. He’s was a college and pro athlete. Good looking.

Something is a little off in relationships. It’s best for everyone he never married. I would never set a friend up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother. Total player. Yes. Loves the single life. He’s had many girlfriends. He’s was a college and pro athlete. Good looking.

Something is a little off in relationships. It’s best for everyone he never married. I would never set a friend up with him.

Oh and I want to say I totally respect his choice. I know men that did what their families wanted and left a field of destruction—infidelity, divorce, broken homes. Women too for that matter. Living society and family expectations instead of what they want themselves.

Some people should never marry. Some may, but never should have had kids, etc.

[Anonymous]

They’re smart . If you’re attractive and wealthy it doesn’t make sense to get married. Their guys know it. You put too much at risk when you have a good chance of losing half of it. And women initiate divorce 70-80% of the time . Even lesbian couples have high rates of divorce- gay men have the lowest by a large margin.

Let see:
You get married with a 50-55% chance of divorce.

You lose half your stuff

Courts reward women for breaking marriage vows. She can cheat you still lose

Kids are expensive and a headache

Freedom to do what you want and who you want

No financial risk that you don’t decide to enter into.

No one nagging you

No lawyers

No court

No divorce agreements

Everything you own is yours and not up to be stolen by a jilted ex through the courts


I mean..that alone is enough. What else do you want to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother. Total player. Yes. Loves the single life. He’s had many girlfriends. He’s was a college and pro athlete. Good looking.

Something is a little off in relationships. It’s best for everyone he never married. I would never set a friend up with him.

Oh and I want to say I totally respect his choice. I know men that did what their families wanted and left a field of destruction—infidelity, divorce, broken homes. Women too for that matter. Living society and family expectations instead of what they want themselves.

Some people should never marry. Some may, but never should have had kids, etc.

So instead he's spreading STD's and people cheating are getting these diseases. Great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re smart . If you’re attractive and wealthy it doesn’t make sense to get married. Their guys know it. You put too much at risk when you have a good chance of losing half of it. And women initiate divorce 70-80% of the time . Even lesbian couples have high rates of divorce- gay men have the lowest by a large margin.

Let see:
You get married with a 50-55% chance of divorce.

You lose half your stuff

Courts reward women for breaking marriage vows. She can cheat you still lose

Kids are expensive and a headache

Freedom to do what you want and who you want

No financial risk that you don’t decide to enter into.

No one nagging you

No lawyers

No court

No divorce agreements

Everything you own is yours and not up to be stolen by a jilted ex through the courts


I mean..that alone is enough. What else do you want to know?

You also gain little beyond monetary pleasure and die alone. Most divorce attorneys say women divorce because the husband is not living up to the marriage agreement and they are the only ones who want to feel safe and or are willing to do the paperwork. Most are not making out well financially. Gay men have many partners and the highest rate of STD's. So I guess they win at the most partners and diseases? If you call that a win.

[Anonymous]

I honestly haven’t met any men like this. Sorry, but I can’t think of a man I’ve been attracted to has hit 50 and never been married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are these men just loving the single life, gay, or are too picky? Women have each other to lean on. I find men who are by themselves their whole life a little odd because they don't have the same support system a woman has other than at work.

Because they value their freedom to do literally whatever they want and they don't want to put up with a woman's bullshlt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re smart . If you’re attractive and wealthy it doesn’t make sense to get married. Their guys know it. You put too much at risk when you have a good chance of losing half of it. And women initiate divorce 70-80% of the time . Even lesbian couples have high rates of divorce- gay men have the lowest by a large margin.

Let see:
You get married with a 50-55% chance of divorce.

You lose half your stuff

Courts reward women for breaking marriage vows. She can cheat you still lose

Kids are expensive and a headache

Freedom to do what you want and who you want

No financial risk that you don’t decide to enter into.

No one nagging you

No lawyers

No court

No divorce agreements

Everything you own is yours and not up to be stolen by a jilted ex through the courts


I mean..that alone is enough. What else do you want to know?

Bingo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, why would any of them want anything to do with the likes of any of you? They probably get on this website and think NO THANKS.

So true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My brother. Total player. Yes. Loves the single life. He’s had many girlfriends. He’s was a college and pro athlete. Good looking.

Something is a little off in relationships. It’s best for everyone he never married. I would never set a friend up with him.

Oh and I want to say I totally respect his choice. I know men that did what their families wanted and left a field of destruction—infidelity, divorce, broken homes. Women too for that matter. Living society and family expectations instead of what they want themselves.

Some people should never marry. Some may, but never should have had kids, etc.

So instead he's spreading STD's and people cheating are getting these diseases. Great.

Awesome. The “any sex = STD” scold from 1950’s sex ed has her summer off and more time to post.

[Anonymous]

The OP is terrified of getting old and /or dying alone and thinks having a spouse (and kids I guess) will change that.

Newsflash: you will die alone. You will get old. Your kids might visit you 2x/year if you're lucky. Your husband will probably die before you.

So you should probably look at these single people you currently look down on and are trying to figure out what's wrong with them..and start seeing if you can learn some independence skills you'll need from them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re smart . If you’re attractive and wealthy it doesn’t make sense to get married. Their guys know it. You put too much at risk when you have a good chance of losing half of it. And women initiate divorce 70-80% of the time . Even lesbian couples have high rates of divorce- gay men have the lowest by a large margin.

Let see:
You get married with a 50-55% chance of divorce.

You lose half your stuff

Courts reward women for breaking marriage vows. She can cheat you still lose

Kids are expensive and a headache

Freedom to do what you want and who you want

No financial risk that you don’t decide to enter into.

No one nagging you

No lawyers

No court

No divorce agreements

Everything you own is yours and not up to be stolen by a jilted ex through the courts


I mean..that alone is enough. What else do you want to know?

I do not agree with everything you have said but I do think women have the key cards in the marriage. They are the ones continuously evaluating the union, grading it etc. Men could the same but they don't. Men are more likely to remain silent and go on cruise control in a marriage they don't enjoy. I'll say good for women for looking after their happiness. I really hope reverse the trend and file for divorce as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re smart . If you’re attractive and wealthy it doesn’t make sense to get married. Their guys know it. You put too much at risk when you have a good chance of losing half of it. And women initiate divorce 70-80% of the time . Even lesbian couples have high rates of divorce- gay men have the lowest by a large margin.

Let see:
You get married with a 50-55% chance of divorce.

You lose half your stuff

Courts reward women for breaking marriage vows. She can cheat you still lose

Kids are expensive and a headache

Freedom to do what you want and who you want

No financial risk that you don’t decide to enter into.

No one nagging you

No lawyers

No court

No divorce agreements

Everything you own is yours and not up to be stolen by a jilted ex through the courts


I mean..that alone is enough. What else do you want to know?

I do not agree with everything you have said but I do think women have the key cards in the marriage. They are the ones continuously evaluating the union, grading it etc. Men could the same but they don't. Men are more likely to remain silent and go on cruise control in a marriage they don't enjoy. I'll say good for women for looking after their happiness. I really hope reverse the trend and file for divorce as well.

Because most women judge men on what they can provide. It’s called the Keith switch effect. You can be a great man and provide a great life and be a living partner. You work hard and you put in effort.

Let’s say you get depressed or lose a job. Light switch and poof…off it goes.

So it doesn’t matter what you did before or what you’re capable of doing again, not at moment you provide nothing so in her reality the relationship isn’t good, never was good she won’t be good. A lot ru good stuff is immediately forgotten.

That’s why men can have friends for years, it talk to them in years and pick up where they left off . Because men remember the person and who they are. Women are constantly “breaking up” with friends, having arguments and unfriending people. Guys don’t do that. Generally speaking of course.


There is a reason women initiate most divorces and even among lesbians they divorce rate is sky high . Gay guys? They just don’t really get divorced.


I feel having men sit through divorce court for one day before they get married is a good exercise in showing men what they might be potentially investing in. Want to be here? 50/59 shot that’s the case and guess who will most likely initiate it? Not you man. Oh and if she cheats…she still gets half your shit. Now is it worth it?

Infidelity rates are about the same. Divorced are mostly initiated by women. You have a good chance your kids and home are taken away. If she was a SAHM she gets your retirement and probably gets alimony. She can bang the pool boy or her jujitsu coach and still take half your stuff. And what’s worse - and I tell men to never put up with this - is if she says “oh I used to do <insert kinky thing here> but don’t do that stuff any more. What’s she’s saying is she won’t do it with you. If you find a woman who was one of the fun girls and now all of a sudden with you she’s a nun; you’re going to end up hating your life.


The women here can complain and say whatever they want. Oh you just hate women, you’re a low value man. Ok that’s fine whatever you say. I know how much I have in the bank and what I own. I don’t derive my value from what some woman thinks of me or doesn’t think of me. I don’t cares. I have good wealth, travel a lot, good friends, sex when I really want it and FWBs. There is no need to subject myself or put my livelihood at risk. Don’t care, I’m doing what works and it’s working well so…hate all you want.

[Anonymous]

Never underestimate role of mental health issues stemming from childhood.