Why are some men successful and attractive through age 50 and have never married?

[Anonymous]

Some of these men are enmeshed with their mothers. Read When He's Married to Mom.

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Anonymous wrote:The people I'm curious about are mostly extraverts.

It's extrovert

[Anonymous]

I have been married. I don’t get why people think it’s somehow necessary for a happy and fulfilling like - for either men or women. If you want marriage and kids, find a partner who wants the same thing. But why are you judging people who make different life choices from yours?

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

I feel very connected with my family but there is nothing wrong with being single.

[Anonymous]

My sister and BIL are married and didn't have kids. That's because my BIL was the youngest of 7 children, and his father died when he was a baby.

My BIL's older brother is single never married no kids. He's successful, rich, has a graduate degree.

Some people come from very large Catholic families, and they just had plenty of children in their extended families. Plenty of other people's kids to go around.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They get what they want for free.

This. Why have just one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

That is untrue and the stats are there to prove it. Single men are the loneliest in all of society. Marriage and kids is not isolating. It might be limiting but so is being single. All choices have limits. A single person lives for himself and takes care of no one typically. Sometimes they take care of a family member, but not usually. Their whole life revolves around their needs and wants only. Spending your entire life serving your own needs and wants and not others is self-serving.

I have been married with kids. There is nothing more isolating than being married with kids. Nothing. I am more socially connected divorced with kids. Being married with kids means zero time if you are working. Zero. Also, never married people have more time to help others, which is what moms don't have. I have aunts who have been way more useful in society volunteering and helping other family members because they have the time because they don't have kids of their own. You are ridiculous to not understand this.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, why would any of them want anything to do with the likes of any of you? They probably get on this website and think NO THANKS.

Yet, here you are.

Only to tell you all how awful you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

That is untrue and the stats are there to prove it. Single men are the loneliest in all of society. Marriage and kids is not isolating. It might be limiting but so is being single. All choices have limits. A single person lives for himself and takes care of no one typically. Sometimes they take care of a family member, but not usually. Their whole life revolves around their needs and wants only. Spending your entire life serving your own needs and wants and not others is self-serving.

I have been married with kids. There is nothing more isolating than being married with kids. Nothing. I am more socially connected divorced with kids. Being married with kids means zero time if you are working. Zero. Also, never married people have more time to help others, which is what moms don't have. I have aunts who have been way more useful in society volunteering and helping other family members because they have the time because they don't have kids of their own. You are ridiculous to not understand this.

That is your life. I have friends who have several kids and a job and a governmental position and a large social life. You are projecting your own life onto other'x experiences.

I don't know why people who are married and have had kids are commenting especially women. I was asking about men age 50 who have never thought about settling down during the 50 years of their lives with no past trauma and happily married parents.

[Anonymous]

And kids and a partner and a job are with people typically. Those three things alone signify you are with others. Typically, those people have other people you meet as well whether at work or at a kid's event, or an adult event that you would go singularly as a married person or as a couple. Most of the DC crowd that is married are not lonely. There is no statistic that shows wealthy happily married people with children and without are regularly lonely and isolated.

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Anonymous wrote:They don’t want kids.

I find that odd if you are from a secure household and even enjoy kids. Especially when you had an exciting secure childhood. I don't understand the anxiety against marriage and kids if there is nothing from your past you are dealing with. Some of these men actively like kids too.

I mean, kids are a lot of work and become the focus of your life for most good parents. I love mine, but it makes perfect sense to me that some people are aware that they don't want to refocus their entire life on kids if they've built a satisfying life without kids and are happy that way.

It doesn't to me. It seems shallow. If the brightest, most communicative, and most secure children aren't bringing the same people to the altar and having kids as adults then IMO the country is in trouble.

+1. Also, these supposedly bright people have zero foresight. If they think they are always going to be young, good looking and living an exciting lifestyle, they have zero awareness of what will most likely happen as they age.

[Anonymous]

Size matters, to a degree.

[Anonymous]

We want to be footloose and fancy free. Don’t have to answer to anyone. Sleep with numerous women. No crying babies or dirty diapers.

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Anonymous wrote:The people I'm curious about are mostly extraverts.

It's extrovert

Maybe they are very tall.