Why are some men successful and attractive through age 50 and have never married?

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I think there are very few romantic Indiana Jones nomadic charmers in the never-married group. Anal compulsive fussbudgets with heaps of rigid restrictions and rules seem more abundant.

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Anonymous wrote:Are these men just loving the single life, gay, or are too picky? Women have each other to lean on. I find men who are by themselves their whole life a little odd because they don't have the same support system a woman has other than at work.

Why assume they don't have a support system?

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

That is untrue and the stats are there to prove it. Single men are the loneliest in all of society. Marriage and kids is not isolating. It might be limiting but so is being single. All choices have limits. A single person lives for himself and takes care of no one typically. Sometimes they take care of a family member, but not usually. Their whole life revolves around their needs and wants only. Spending your entire life serving your own needs and wants and not others is self-serving.

I have been married with kids. There is nothing more isolating than being married with kids. Nothing. I am more socially connected divorced with kids. Being married with kids means zero time if you are working. Zero. Also, never married people have more time to help others, which is what moms don't have. I have aunts who have been way more useful in society volunteering and helping other family members because they have the time because they don't have kids of their own. You are ridiculous to not understand this.

That is your life. I have friends who have several kids and a job and a governmental position and a large social life. You are projecting your own life onto other'x experiences.

I don't know why people who are married and have had kids are commenting especially women. I was asking about men age 50 who have never thought about settling down during the 50 years of their lives with no past trauma and happily married parents.

It’s because he’s not that into you.

I’m talking about college friends posting all over the world. They were never into me. I just think it’s weird they never found anyone after 30 years

I don’t believe you. You’re dating a guy and want to know why he doesn’t want to marry you.

at age 50? Or I’m 20 and dating a 50 year old? I get why they aren’t marrying now. They are too set in their ways. I just thought by 40 they might have stopped enjoying the single life and wanted to settle down.

You’re 35 ish youve wasted 3 years with some 50 yo who won’t marry you. Tick tock.

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they are a total mess on the inside.

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Anonymous wrote:They don’t want to stop having sex. It’s why I’ve remained single since divorce.

This. Marriage spells the end of sex.

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mental illness, goes the same with women

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these people, their parents sacrificed a lot for them, and they acknowledge they had a great childhood. I don't get the self-serving and isolating nature.

This is such a f'd up way to look at things.

Not marrying is "self-serving", isn't marriage and kids actually self-serving since you don't think you can make it through life without a contract with another person saying they must do so.

There is nothing more isolating that marriage and kids.

That is untrue and the stats are there to prove it. Single men are the loneliest in all of society. Marriage and kids is not isolating. It might be limiting but so is being single. All choices have limits. A single person lives for himself and takes care of no one typically. Sometimes they take care of a family member, but not usually. Their whole life revolves around their needs and wants only. Spending your entire life serving your own needs and wants and not others is self-serving.

I have been married with kids. There is nothing more isolating than being married with kids. Nothing. I am more socially connected divorced with kids. Being married with kids means zero time if you are working. Zero. Also, never married people have more time to help others, which is what moms don't have. I have aunts who have been way more useful in society volunteering and helping other family members because they have the time because they don't have kids of their own. You are ridiculous to not understand this.

That is your life. I have friends who have several kids and a job and a governmental position and a large social life. You are projecting your own life onto other'x experiences.

I don't know why people who are married and have had kids are commenting especially women. I was asking about men age 50 who have never thought about settling down during the 50 years of their lives with no past trauma and happily married parents.

It’s because he’s not that into you.

I’m talking about college friends posting all over the world. They were never into me. I just think it’s weird they never found anyone after 30 years

I don’t believe you. You’re dating a guy and want to know why he doesn’t want to marry you.

at age 50? Or I’m 20 and dating a 50 year old? I get why they aren’t marrying now. They are too set in their ways. I just thought by 40 they might have stopped enjoying the single life and wanted to settle down.

You’re 35 ish youve wasted 3 years with some 50 yo who won’t marry you. Tick tock.

No I'm 50 and just seeing a lot of guys from college who never married and wondering why.

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Anonymous wrote:College guys from competitive colleges and strong family backgrounds with two parents who were in fraternities and now have great jobs but remained single. To each their own, but it seems weird that by 50 they haven't had the interest to settle down.

If they haven’t by 50 they won’t later unless they get ED and/or scared about illness & mortality.

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Anonymous wrote:mental illness, goes the same with women

They don't have mental illness. Nice guys who were popular in college with women and not too outlandish.

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Maybe they are sociopaths.

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No children. Having children takes a lot out of people.

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Anonymous wrote:they are a total mess on the inside.

This.

[Anonymous]

I am happily divorced after 27 years of a miserable marriage. I will not go back. Ever. I am so much happier not having to negotiate over every little thing. I can spend the money I earn as I want. I can pursue my hobbies and spend time with people who add value to my life rather than have to put up with a jealous and controlling spouse. Nope. BTDT.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if a lot of people would be happier unmarried but cave to the societal pressure to marry and have children. Maybe these men know themselves.

Unfortunately in many countries and cultures it's still like an obligation to get married and have a kids. If you don't follow these rules you will become outcast and subject of critics. In a worst scenario you will be totally ignored by your family and the next of kin.

[Anonymous]

Gay. Closeted.