Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?

[Anonymous]

Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.

You are an anecdote, not a statistic.

Sleeping at midnight means only 6 hours of sleep (assuming a 6 am alarm for MS), and 6 hours is an unhealthy amount of sleep for teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS often had rehearsal until 10, got home at 10:30, needed to shower and do homework. Not sure how I would have enforced a 9:30 bedtime for a high school student. On those nights, he usually had time for a nap right after school - he has ADHD and usually needed a break anyway. I was not at all involved in his evening routine - people are monitoring whether their teens have changed into pajamas and brushed their teeth by a certain time?

Don’t be obtuse. If kids have later commitments, of course they have to stay up sometimes.

I’d think having a kid with ADHD would have made you more aware of the importance of sleep…

[Anonymous]

I don’t judge parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because sleep is the glue that holds people together. I judge parents who are highly-educated and *don't* pay attention to something as fundamental as their children's sleep needs.

+1. Sleep is the actual foundation on which everything is built. Humans cannot thrive without the proper amount and that amount is more than most are getting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely no judgement. My mom tried to enforce a bedtime of 10 pm. I didn't have computer or phone and I'm young enough that those things existed as a teen. I simply wasn't tired. The fights we had. Eventually we came to a truce of I just had to be quiet. I usually fell asleep by midnight as I do now. Very healthy. Then and now, straight As etc. Sister would go to bed at 8 all the way through high school and still is an early sleeper with 2. kids. She is the same very healthy then and now and a straight A student.

You are an anecdote, not a statistic.

Sleeping at midnight means only 6 hours of sleep (assuming a 6 am alarm for MS), and 6 hours is an unhealthy amount of sleep for teens.

And going to bed earlier would not have resulted in more sleep. Some people require less sleep..

Bottom line I don't judge parents by when their kids go to bed.
You shouldn't either it's not good for your health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

[Anonymous]

Depends. 11pm or midnight? No. 9pm. Yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

Why?

9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.

[Anonymous]

How do you “enforce” bedtime for older teens?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

Why?

9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.

It works well at our home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

It’s very early. But, some kids get up early. Mine gets up at the am for swim. Their choice, not mine.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, like teenagers. Are the parents considered to “helicopter” or “tiger “ if they still do this?

Not at all. Maybe others judge me, as our household rule is phones are out of bedrooms and lights out at bedrooms by 9:30 pm on weekdays. Kids are 16 and 13.

Lights out at 9:30 for a 16 year old? That is crazy and ridiculous.

Why?

9:30 is too early even for the 13 year old.

Depends entirely on the kid and the schedule. I voluntarily went to sleep at 9:30pm in HS because I had to wake up at 6am for school and I was totally exhausted. I would have gone to sleep even earlier if not for homework.