Do you judge parents who still impose a bed time on older kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, your parents are doing the right thing. Now get your homework done and get to bed.

[Anonymous]

DD’s boyfriend stays up and call her late at night regularly. I judge his parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I just parents who let their teens stay up until all hours, and with their phones!

Same! I have friends whose kids have no routine ir structure and I totally judge them.

[Anonymous]

I've found that the older my kids get, the more they want to go to bed at a reasonable hour (on school nights at least). Kids in middle and high start early in the morning--they are tired by 10pm because they got up at 6:15am.

[Anonymous]

Proud helicopter parent - Nope, I tell mine to go to bed. They get up before dawn some days for sports and are out late in other activities plus homework. Bedtime fluctuates depending on the night, but yes, I tell them to go to bed and enforce it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I just parents who let their teens stay up until all hours, and with their phones!

Same! I have friends whose kids have no routine ir structure and I totally judge them.

Same. And yes my teens have to be in their room being quiet (without their phones) before I go to bed. If they want to sit awake and read or draw or stare at the wall, I don’t care.

[Anonymous]

The only people who would judge a parent for setting a bedtime are those that have super easy kids. Like, that’s great & all that Larla self regulated at 12 & needs no reminders to get off video games & get sleep, no curfew when going out, no parenting whatsoever. But there are other kids who might need more guidance. So no, I don’t judge - I generally assume they know their kid & are doing what is best for their kid.
That said, what is the problem with having bedtime/quiet hours? In hotel/dorms/ roommate situations, adults are expected to respect a reasonable amount of quiet time at night. So why not teach your kid that? As part of a family, they are living in a group situation, they should respect quiet time when most people are sleeping.

[Anonymous]

My 15yo just goes to bed by 10. But it’s not an enforced “bedtime.” He’s a high achiever academically and athletically and knows he does better if he gets 8 hours of sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 15yo just goes to bed by 10. But it’s not an enforced “bedtime.” He’s a high achiever academically and athletically and knows he does better if he gets 8 hours of sleep.

Mine is the same but school starts at 9:30 and she doesn’t need to wake up until 8:30 but I send her to bed at 10 anyway because I want to go to bed! She is free to read or whatever but I don’t want her on her phone or roaming the house until midnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your parents are doing the right thing. Now get your homework done and get to bed.

I AM the parent!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also judge parents who don’t impose bed time! Though most people I know have come to an understanding with their teen and it’s mutual. It’s not an issue. Except for teens who stay up on video games with no parental supervision, who I definitely judge.

+1

[Anonymous]

My 14 year old knows that he needs to start getting ready for bed by 9:30 and in bed by 10. No, he wouldn't do it if I didn't enforce it. So as long as he can't make good choices on his own, I'll enforce the rules in my house.

[Anonymous]

Sleeping is just as important as eating and drinking. It could be a chicken egg thing but the kids with moody behavioral issues are always the ones who lack sleep too. Some adults should have a bed time imposed on them too.

[Anonymous]

Where I live, most parents abdicate almost all parenting by age 12, including bedtime, screentime, app limits, food limits, knowing the child’s general location. It was shocking to me because these are educated higher income people. They are so lazy. My kids think it’s unfair we pay attention - sucks for them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, most parents abdicate almost all parenting by age 12, including bedtime, screentime, app limits, food limits, knowing the child’s general location. It was shocking to me because these are educated higher income people. They are so lazy. My kids think it’s unfair we pay attention - sucks for them!

Where is that?