What do Stay at Home Moms really think of WFH Husbands

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

Cool. I do all that while working FT.

Here’s your medal:

🏅

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's great. He sees the kids so much more than he used to.

Because he is not working.

because he is not *commuting*. dolt.

[Anonymous]

My husband has been working in an office since the beginning of our marriage. Now 20 years later and with 3 teenagers in the house, I think he thought "well, this is great! Now you get to see me more and I can probably help out too!" Well, we all know how that story ended. He worked the same amount, wasn't dialed in to the kids' needs, had a short attention span to any conversations because he 'had to get back' to work, and all sorts of other mumbo jumbo that all amounted to not much of a change. He probably thought he was being more helpful, but really unless his workload lessened and he took over a major thing I do like grocery shop or clean bathrooms, basically it was just like having another kid in the house to take care of.

[Anonymous]

My husband works from home 3 days a week and I absolutely hate it..... He refuses to set up a dedicator office space so he literally just lays on our bed all day with the TV blaring while he works. He used to expect to eat lunch and have me prepare it and clean up but I stopped doing that. He's always listening to conversations the kids and I have or if I'm on the phone with someone it's like I never get any alone time in my own house when he is there because he has no respect for boundaries.

Also, I'm sorry but I am not turned on by an adult laying in bed all day Even if he is attached to a computer

[Anonymous]

I SAH as part of my maternity leave and yes, my husband being constantly in the house was not always a great joy. I go into the office just for space. He doesn’t have the option and it bums him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been working in an office since the beginning of our marriage. Now 20 years later and with 3 teenagers in the house, I think he thought "well, this is great! Now you get to see me more and I can probably help out too!" Well, we all know how that story ended. He worked the same amount, wasn't dialed in to the kids' needs, had a short attention span to any conversations because he 'had to get back' to work, and all sorts of other mumbo jumbo that all amounted to not much of a change. He probably thought he was being more helpful, but really unless his workload lessened and he took over a major thing I do like grocery shop or clean bathrooms, basically it was just like having another kid in the house to take care of.

That's a husband issue, not a WFH issue. Mine stepped up and helps with pick up/drop off and a lot of the activities. It's been a huge help. Plus, the occasional lunch date. I'm going to miss him having to go back into the office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

Cool. I do all that while working FT.

You take care of children while working full time? How?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

Cool. I do all that while working FT.

You take care of children while working full time? How?

So do I.
Kids are 11 and 9
I flex time to do drop off and pick up from school but they can entertain themselves if needed while I work

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

Yes! My DH is a loud talker and the whole family got to hear what he was doing at work all day. Quiet is good.