What do Stay at Home Moms really think of WFH Husbands

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love it when my DH WFH, or my kids WFH. I also love it when they go to work in their office. What do I prefer?

Both. Going to office a few days a week makes my DH and kids happy because they feel more connected to their coworkers, they can grab lunch with people etc. But, wfh makes them a whole lot more productive in truth. In fact, when they are trying to meet a deadline, they will wfh, because they can put in some solid time and they do not have do the - co-worker chitchat, meetings, commute, getting ready, getting lunch - time waste.

My biggest pro for WFH is that I love when my family can sleep in in the morning. Or when they don't have to commute back from work.

I love having my ACs and DH at home. We have a large house, so everyone has a lot of space and privacy. Good WiFi, lots of workspace and tech from the pandemic WFH era etc.

Chores get divvied up regardless of WFH or WFO, and each one of us do very little at home because of divide and conquer.

I am in-charge of mainly cleaning and laundry. The rest of the family does cooking, shopping and random chores. It all works out.

I love being a SAHM and in my case, I feel it is a very easy life with ACs at home. We are 4 adult family.

As a SAHM, I have other kinds of domestic jobs in my life now. It is far different from when I had very small kids, or even school age kids. That phase is over.

A bit of a stretch to call yourself a SAHM when you have adult children who are presumably independent by now, the correct term is housewife or homemaker.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

It’s this. The entire day turns into working around their work calendar. Want to vacuum? Can’t, big call. Want to deep clean the kitchen? Can’t, working from the kitchen table. Not all of us have home large enough for tucked away separate office spaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it when my DH WFH, or my kids WFH. I also love it when they go to work in their office. What do I prefer?

Both. Going to office a few days a week makes my DH and kids happy because they feel more connected to their coworkers, they can grab lunch with people etc. But, wfh makes them a whole lot more productive in truth. In fact, when they are trying to meet a deadline, they will wfh, because they can put in some solid time and they do not have do the - co-worker chitchat, meetings, commute, getting ready, getting lunch - time waste.

My biggest pro for WFH is that I love when my family can sleep in in the morning. Or when they don't have to commute back from work.

I love having my ACs and DH at home. We have a large house, so everyone has a lot of space and privacy. Good WiFi, lots of workspace and tech from the pandemic WFH era etc.

Chores get divvied up regardless of WFH or WFO, and each one of us do very little at home because of divide and conquer.

I am in-charge of mainly cleaning and laundry. The rest of the family does cooking, shopping and random chores. It all works out.

I love being a SAHM and in my case, I feel it is a very easy life with ACs at home. We are 4 adult family.

As a SAHM, I have other kinds of domestic jobs in my life now. It is far different from when I had very small kids, or even school age kids. That phase is over.

A bit of a stretch to call yourself a SAHM when you have adult children who are presumably independent by now, the correct term is housewife or homemaker.

+1, what nonsense is this? The question of being a SAHM with a WFH spouse is about the fact that a SAHM actually does have a job (taking care of kids). So the WFH spouse is in your "office" so to speak/ That's where the tension comes in.

SAHMs with school age kids may also deal with having their spouse around during the day when they are used to it being quiet/empty, which I guess is what this PP is dealing with and might be an issue, but my perception is that the main issue is having the WFH spouse in the house when the kids are there.

[Anonymous]

Everything has to be quiet for his nonstop calls, which means the kids don't have friends over after school anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything has to be quiet for his nonstop calls, which means the kids don't have friends over after school anymore.

You should let the kids invite friends over every day, and then maybe all the noice and chaos will drive him back to the office. I let my kids have sleepovers and when my husband sees teenage girls traipse past him while he’s on calls, I hope eventually he will conclude it’s better if he’s not home during the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

THIS is THE WORST part!!!

Husbands if you are reading this PLEASE lower your voice on your calls and stop pacing around the house when on the phone speaking so loudly. PLEASE.

Oh god I thought this was just my DH. It drives me nuts because I will actually make an effort to stay out of his way when he's on calls, and to keep kids out of his way, but then he'll get up and wander into the kitchen where I'm doing dishes or down the hallway near where the the kids are playing and I'm like "why are you here?" Meanwhile, if a child wanders into his office space or I pop my head in to ask him a question, we're interrupting.

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Truer words never said.

[Anonymous]

Dirty dishes appear in the sink and it drives me crazy. Yes, I've complained about it.

I miss alone time SO MUCH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dirty dishes appear in the sink and it drives me crazy. Yes, I've complained about it.

I miss alone time SO MUCH.

My DH will tell me "oh, I prefer to clean the dishes at the end of the day rather than clean as I go." Which is awesome for the person making breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the kids, plus doing meal prep and deep cleaning throughout the day.

It would be like if I periodically hopped onto his computer during the day to open Excel spreadsheets and type random numbers into them, and then told him to please leave them open all day until I am ready to save them and tidy them up at the end. Just idiotic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love it. I have so much flexibility when he's home. We also can have lunch dates. I hate when he's in the office away.

Isn't it too harried to go out on a lunch date in 30min-1h?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it. I have so much flexibility when he's home. We also can have lunch dates. I hate when he's in the office away.

Isn't it too harried to go out on a lunch date in 30min-1h?

+1 I also don’t understand how someone could “hate” when their DH is away. Co-dependent?

[Anonymous]

My only employees who are willingly in the office 4-5 days a week have SAHMs. Most of these guys have small houses or townhouses and need to escape the kid craziness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it. I have so much flexibility when he's home. We also can have lunch dates. I hate when he's in the office away.

Isn't it too harried to go out on a lunch date in 30min-1h?

No, usually we aren't gone more than an hour and he flexes his days a lot when he works at home as he has evening meetings and calls so it all balances out. He works far more than 40 hours, 2 days or so in the office so not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

I love having DH at home.

We go on a ton of day dates and have great sex.

[Anonymous]

I don't SAH but I much prefer for my DH to work in an office. It means he has to actually shower and get dressed every day! Hanging around the house in sweats 24/7 was killing my attraction.