What do Stay at Home Moms really think of WFH Husbands

[Anonymous]

I can’t stand having DH home every day. He is in his office most of the day, but I can hear his phone calls and I can’t do loud things like vacuum or mow the lawn. I get up 3 hours before him to take care of pets and kids and sometimes I want to nap for a hour, but he walks in and accidentally wakes me so many times.
I work part time, so I leave for a few hours most days, including on weekends, but he is always home. It feels suffocating.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's great. He sees the kids so much more than he used to.

Because he is not working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

SAH parents are spending their time mostly leisurely??? Good lord, I think we know different people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

SAH parents are spending their time mostly leisurely??? Good lord, I think we know different people.

A lot of SAHMs don’t have kids home during the day. Protest all you want, but they’re not scrubbing floors for 6-8 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

SAH parents are spending their time mostly leisurely??? Good lord, I think we know different people.

A lot of SAHMs don’t have kids home during the day. Protest all you want, but they’re not scrubbing floors for 6-8 hours.

So those are the SAHMs you're talking about who spend their time "mostly leisurely?" Because most SAHMs do have kids at home during the day. And I am a SAHM with no kids during the day during the school year, and my time is certainly more leisurely than my husband but it's far from mostly leisurely. There are other options besides cleaning and leisure.

I think you only know SAHMs of a certain socialeconomic class which is skewing your perception of SAHMs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

So your response to a passive-aggressive and hateful (your words) post is to ...be passive-aggressive and hateful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

SAH parents are spending their time mostly leisurely??? Good lord, I think we know different people.

A lot of SAHMs don’t have kids home during the day. Protest all you want, but they’re not scrubbing floors for 6-8 hours.

So those are the SAHMs you're talking about who spend their time "mostly leisurely?" Because most SAHMs do have kids at home during the day. And I am a SAHM with no kids during the day during the school year, and my time is certainly more leisurely than my husband but it's far from mostly leisurely. There are other options besides cleaning and leisure.

I think you only know SAHMs of a certain socialeconomic class which is skewing your perception of SAHMs.

Most true full time SAHMs I know have kids during the day, or they have elder care responsibilities, or a situation like a special needs child who needs several therapy appointments a week. Or, sometimes, they have a circumstance where the dad is gone frequently for work (e.g., sales exec or management consultant) or has unpredictable hours where they cannot be reached (trauma surgeon) or both (military officer).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

You seem to like your husband working from home. But, lots of posters don’t. Maybe the difference is that you’re actually working at home while many are not. I’m glad to hear that WFH has allowed your husband, who you “absolutely adore”, more opportunity to “really drill down deep.” You both sound happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

You seem to like your husband working from home. But, lots of posters don’t. Maybe the difference is that you’re actually working at home while many are not. I’m glad to hear that WFH has allowed your husband, who you “absolutely adore”, more opportunity to “really drill down deep.” You both sound happy.

I mean, we would all "switch with her in a second if we could" so we can get "drilled down deep" by her husband, "thank God." LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

Cool. I do all that while working FT.

[Anonymous]

For all my upbringing, my mom stayed at home and didn’t work a formal job. There was some sweetness to it, but our family could have used a second income, especially in the high inflation years of the late 70’s and 80’s. However, my mom wouldn’t budge. She knew she had a sweet gig and preferred to pile up credit card debt until it could be repaid. After years of a sheltered life, she hardly knew how to turn on a computer or use the internet. She never had an email address or social media account. In the end, she survived on the pension and savings my dad earned. I loved my mother, but I thought she could have been more helpful about the things the family truly needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who stays home and doesn’t have a formal job does not want to be judged about how they spend their time (mostly leisurely). Anyone who works from home needs more than a small box to work and not go insane. When the latter is also responsible for all the money - which is stressful - they are rightfully to resent the lazy one, especially when they see sloth every day. Once the veneer comes off SAH/WFH, everyone is mad at everyone else and something has to change.

This is so passive aggressive, and hateful. The truth is you would switch with me as a SAHM in a second if you could, and you would be shocked at how much work I actually do over the course of the day. I’m keeping our home running financially, doing literally all of the house work, to taking care of the children and anticipating all the different things about the house plus my own part-time job that I do from home. This entire society runs on the backs of women and none more so than stay at home moms who don’t earn enough to justify childcare and have to do everything themselves.
full-time working moms are also getting the major shaft having to do the entire mental load plus bring in the bacon.
On the flipside, I absolutely adore my husband and I love when he can work from home. He was home during the entire pandemic and has had work from home for years, I love that he gets to see the kids more often, we can fit in lunches once in a while, and instead of wasting his time commuting, he gets to really drill down deep into the job he loves and that affords us a great life thank God.

You work part time so you aren't really a SAHM like people are discussing here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

This. He's in my space all the time, making me crazy

This and I work full time (mainly out of the home) but when I'm home, I want my home to be a home. Not an office full of loud calls. I hate it.