What do Stay at Home Moms really think of WFH Husbands

[Anonymous]

My office is now hybrid - three days a week in person. Every single married man with a stay at home wife mentioned their wife is so much happier now that they are back at work a few days a week.

Is this true? Thinking of it a, wife who has been managing a household 10-15 years with kids with husband at with in the office is quite a change to this guy now home all day. Home, but not really home.

[Anonymous]

It's great. He sees the kids so much more than he used to.

[Anonymous]

I love it. He can pop in and out of his office and see our kid so, so much more than he would.

But, we rarely need to be quiet for him. That would be hard.

I think if you ask most SAHMs they will tell you they are out of the house for most of the day anyway. Kids need to be out.

[Anonymous]

Seriously I think this is just a dumb thing they are saying and they think it’s self-deprecating and funny. If it’s true, they either require silence to WAH (valid depending on the job)or they must really suck as partners/parents.

[Anonymous]

Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing men with wives who are glad to be rid of them tear up the kitchen several times a day then recede back into their offices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing men with wives who are glad to be rid of them tear up the kitchen several times a day then recede back into their offices.

This is partly true, but my kids are so messy I barely notice.

[Anonymous]

The SAHMs I know are excited to have a WFH spouse because they can spend more time with the kids. It's also helpful not having a commute so there is more availability for taking kids to activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My office is now hybrid - three days a week in person. Every single married man with a stay at home wife mentioned their wife is so much happier now that they are back at work a few days a week.

Is this true? Thinking of it a, wife who has been managing a household 10-15 years with kids with husband at with in the office is quite a change to this guy now home all day. Home, but not really home.

My guess is she’s tired of making a show of actually working and wants him out of the house more so she can go back to her reality of being lazy. She’s afraid he will figure out how good she actually has it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My office is now hybrid - three days a week in person. Every single married man with a stay at home wife mentioned their wife is so much happier now that they are back at work a few days a week.

Is this true? Thinking of it a, wife who has been managing a household 10-15 years with kids with husband at with in the office is quite a change to this guy now home all day. Home, but not really home.

My guess is she’s tired of making a show of actually working and wants him out of the house more so she can go back to her reality of being lazy. She’s afraid he will figure out how good she actually has it.

I don’t understand how working in the office could obscure the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My office is now hybrid - three days a week in person. Every single married man with a stay at home wife mentioned their wife is so much happier now that they are back at work a few days a week.

Is this true? Thinking of it a, wife who has been managing a household 10-15 years with kids with husband at with in the office is quite a change to this guy now home all day. Home, but not really home.

My guess is she’s tired of making a show of actually working and wants him out of the house more so she can go back to her reality of being lazy. She’s afraid he will figure out how good she actually has it.

True, but one could say the same about the office worker. And likely even less work gets done when they go to the office with all the in person BSing, so SAH wife won't believe hubby is too tired for chores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My office is now hybrid - three days a week in person. Every single married man with a stay at home wife mentioned their wife is so much happier now that they are back at work a few days a week.

Is this true? Thinking of it a, wife who has been managing a household 10-15 years with kids with husband at with in the office is quite a change to this guy now home all day. Home, but not really home.

I'm a SAHM now and DH is WFH. It was one of the best decisions of our lives. It works really well for us. However, if you don't get along, don't have large enough physical space or give each other enough personal space, it's going to be suffocating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wfh are like big cats. There are everywhere all the time and always in the way and in your business.

Lol. YES. this.

Also, talking loudly on conference calls all over the house with no respect for what others in the house are doing.

This. He's in my space all the time, making me crazy

[Anonymous]

I love it when my DH WFH, or my kids WFH. I also love it when they go to work in their office. What do I prefer?

Both. Going to office a few days a week makes my DH and kids happy because they feel more connected to their coworkers, they can grab lunch with people etc. But, wfh makes them a whole lot more productive in truth. In fact, when they are trying to meet a deadline, they will wfh, because they can put in some solid time and they do not have do the - co-worker chitchat, meetings, commute, getting ready, getting lunch - time waste.

My biggest pro for WFH is that I love when my family can sleep in in the morning. Or when they don't have to commute back from work.

I love having my ACs and DH at home. We have a large house, so everyone has a lot of space and privacy. Good WiFi, lots of workspace and tech from the pandemic WFH era etc.

Chores get divvied up regardless of WFH or WFO, and each one of us do very little at home because of divide and conquer.

I am in-charge of mainly cleaning and laundry. The rest of the family does cooking, shopping and random chores. It all works out.

I love being a SAHM and in my case, I feel it is a very easy life with ACs at home. We are 4 adult family.

As a SAHM, I have other kinds of domestic jobs in my life now. It is far different from when I had very small kids, or even school age kids. That phase is over.