DW asked for divorce but it’s weird…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Pretty sure your marriage was over way back when you started routinely priorities your “demanding job” over your wife, kids, house and family. And dumped the role of father and mother and spouse all on her.

Save your twisted fake pity party for some other sucker. You have no clue what’s going on with her or the household so wafting in here with a time clock for one morning is a joke.

Move out and comply with the mediator and courts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thyroid meds? Seriously? I'd give you perimenopause, but not thyroid meds.

IF anything, the thyroid meds took away anxiety and anger.

Just to clarify, I’m the poster at 12:17, not original poster. I agree, thyroid medications can take away anger and anxiety, but it’s not overnight and it’s still like riding a roller-coaster. It’s probably minimum 6 months and because some thyroid diseases are autoimmune (like my wife’s) you can get flare-ups. There are decent stretches and bad stretches. Just making the point that it’s very hard to live with someone who has thyroid disease. I’m there for my kids and “in sickness and in health” for my wife.

No. No thyroid disease has mood swings like this. Something else is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the relevance of her taking her thyroid meds? I feel like you’re going to try to make her feel crazy.

Op is a troll

Def not married, def no kids.

Just fabricates zany, illogical stories and sock puppets them.

My wife has thyroid disease and it’s honestly a daily struggle for us, and does involve regular threats of divorce (quickly retracted). I do probably 75% of the housework and am on child duty basically whenever they’re awake—she just doesn’t feel able to watch them herself. Our house is a disaster since I’m basically unable to complete any outdoor tasks that require daylight and are incompatible with watching a toddler. It’s brutal, but I take some heart in the fact that I’m there to focus and absorb the screaming and shouting so my kids don’t have to take it (my poor daughter took a lot of it earlier on but my wife seems to recognize that it’s not fair to a 3-year-old). I know she’s not serious about the divorce threats because she’d never want to watch the kids on her own, or learn the drive the car so she could take them to daycare, so I just chin up and carry on. And I also know it’s not something I’m doing, since she screams at her parents, too (they told her that she needs to take care of the kids more if she wants me to handle outdoor chores) and my parents find her really difficult to get along with.

Again, it must be the same troll. Thyroid diseases do not work like that. There is something else. I’m posting so others don’t think thyroid imbalances of any sort give those symptoms. Maybe you’re dealing with anxiety, ADHD, ASD, bipolar, etc. But the thyroid stuff is separate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she’s having an affair and uncertainly over what the AP is going to do is causing the back and forth on divorcing.

Exactly. She’s got tons of time for that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds bipolar.

No, she does not. You do not know what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids know you don’t parent or discipline them ever so act up - in the mornings- because you’re undermining her parenting and they out on a show for you and your attention and to get away from doing their expectation - and needed- routine.

Why are you getting them to eat and stay on schedule?

Your silence while they misbehave is undermining everything.

+1

Start coparenting and parenting Op. get your custody habits spruced up.

[Anonymous]

The wrong medication dosage for thyroid can cause mental health symptoms. It happened to my mom but it was pretty abrupt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the relevance of her taking her thyroid meds? I feel like you’re going to try to make her feel crazy.

Op is a troll

Def not married, def no kids.

Just fabricates zany, illogical stories and sock puppets them.

My wife has thyroid disease and it’s honestly a daily struggle for us, and does involve regular threats of divorce (quickly retracted). I do probably 75% of the housework and am on child duty basically whenever they’re awake—she just doesn’t feel able to watch them herself. Our house is a disaster since I’m basically unable to complete any outdoor tasks that require daylight and are incompatible with watching a toddler. It’s brutal, but I take some heart in the fact that I’m there to focus and absorb the screaming and shouting so my kids don’t have to take it (my poor daughter took a lot of it earlier on but my wife seems to recognize that it’s not fair to a 3-year-old). I know she’s not serious about the divorce threats because she’d never want to watch the kids on her own, or learn the drive the car so she could take them to daycare, so I just chin up and carry on. And I also know it’s not something I’m doing, since she screams at her parents, too (they told her that she needs to take care of the kids more if she wants me to handle outdoor chores) and my parents find her really difficult to get along with.

What new character is this bumping up an old thread? op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she’s having an affair and uncertainly over what the AP is going to do is causing the back and forth on divorcing.

Exactly. She’s got tons of time for that

+100