DW asked for divorce but it’s weird…

[Anonymous]

Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Here is my advice to you. The person filing for divorce will often have to justify why they are doing it. So don’t be so hard on yourself trying to decipher the why…You will just go crazy.

Her behavior, while I am not a mental health person, is pointing to depression or maybe bipolar. This is serious and speak to her family to get this thing sorted. The divorce is the easy part in this scenario as you will move on but her mental state based on what you described is not normal.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you drove her crazy.

[Anonymous]

This lady is obviously a moran. Just be happy she divorced before you eventually have to

[Anonymous]

Well, that backfired because I do think you’re a bitter husband calling his wife mentally ill because she asked for divorce.

[Anonymous]

What is the relevance of her taking her thyroid meds? I feel like you’re going to try to make her feel crazy.

[Anonymous]

People take for granted marriages that last a long time. It is not easy. And once children are added it becomes significantly harder. Juggling work, raising children, emotionally supporting spouses, dealing with household finances, poor health, cultural/political differences etc…is a big challenge. Your wife is clearly going though emotional issues and I also applaud you for seeing this and trying to help while accepting that she is filing for divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the relevance of her taking her thyroid meds? I feel like you’re going to try to make her feel crazy.

For some people thyroid meds are known to affect their mental state. I am going through this right now and I have had to apologize to my bf after random outbursts of anger.

[Anonymous]

Well... has she filed for divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

She should take her thyroid meds first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, not in the middle of the day.

What are you doing at 7 am on a Monday? Are you helping kids get ready, or does your wife feel like she has to do everything?

[Anonymous]

Does she work?
Any SSRI’s?
Age?
Is her period regular?
Hormonal birth control?
Kids aged?

Has she been to a recent HS reunion?
Stopped climaxing during sex?
Last time you slept together was how long ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

She should take her thyroid meds first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, not in the middle of the day.

What are you doing at 7 am on a Monday? Are you helping kids get ready, or does your wife feel like she has to do everything?

Bingo the best advice I ever got from my mother was to make sure to help my wife with the kids because it can very overwhelming. And she will not necessarily tell you. She will send signals but most men we just can’t read our wives feelings(not all but most of us or many of us).

[Anonymous]

The marriage is over. Why are you feeling sad about her well being? After all she filed so let her deal with that decision. Just get yourself mentally and physically ready for a new journey. Lots of women out there to choose from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Here is my advice to you. The person filing for divorce will often have to justify why they are doing it. So don’t be so hard on yourself trying to decipher the why…You will just go crazy.

Her behavior, while I am not a mental health person, is pointing to depression or maybe bipolar. This is serious and speak to her family to get this thing sorted. The divorce is the easy part in this scenario as you will move on but her mental state based on what you described is not normal.

“The person filing for divorce will often have to justify why they are doing it.”

I don’t know what jurisdiction you live in, but this is NOT the case in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps she is cheating and the AP is asking her to dump you and be with him instead. Emotionally frustrated women think with their pussy and heart and not their mind.