DW asked for divorce but it’s weird…

[Anonymous]

Your kids know you don’t parent or discipline them ever so act up - in the mornings- because you’re undermining her parenting and they out on a show for you and your attention and to get away from doing their expectation - and needed- routine.

Why are you getting them to eat and stay on schedule?

Your silence while they misbehave is undermining everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the relevance of her taking her thyroid meds? I feel like you’re going to try to make her feel crazy.

Op is a troll

Def not married, def no kids.

Just fabricates zany, illogical stories and sock puppets them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The marriage is over. Why are you feeling sad about her well being? After all she filed so let her deal with that decision. Just get yourself mentally and physically ready for a new journey. Lots of women out there to choose from.

And put the kids first. Not by blaming the mother— or so you want full custody and ship in grandma to do all the hard stuff?

It’s astounding how many divorced guys try to get their old mothers to be the fulltime or part time care while they keep overworking at the office.

Or get a new caring, patient girlfriend and “test her out” by seeing how well she can be your Nannie for a few years, or however long it lasts.

[Anonymous]

Aren't thyroid meds supposed to be taken first thing on waking and an hour before eating? Is she consistent with her meds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Here is my advice to you. The person filing for divorce will often have to justify why they are doing it. So don’t be so hard on yourself trying to decipher the why…You will just go crazy.

Her behavior, while I am not a mental health person, is pointing to depression or maybe bipolar. This is serious and speak to her family to get this thing sorted. The divorce is the easy part in this scenario as you will move on but her mental state based on what you described is not normal.

“The person filing for divorce will often have to justify why they are doing it.”

I don’t know what jurisdiction you live in, but this is NOT the case in the DMV.

No where.

She has her reasons and has likely voiced them for years, and now she’s done.

I hope she divorces him too. I don’t see what role he has in the family and if it’s his work addiction and paycheck, he can do that via child support. The house will be more peaceful and orderly without a father ignoring everyone and blaming the wife for it.

[Anonymous]

OP,. If you are serious, come. Alex and explain your situation more comprehensively.

Your original story was a random spatter of details (OK, if you were venting), that invited everyone to bring their own baggage and lash out or troll.

Until OP writes again, everyone should ignore the rage commenters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Your post doesn’t really make sense.

But you got it all backwards if you’re concerned about HER coparenting the kids. You should be concerned about YOU having to finally do 50/50 coparenting. Sounds like you’d be going from 0% to 50% and may be naive and have unrealistic “outsourcing” expectations.

I had this same thought.
Why doesn’t he just do whatever he would do if he got a divorce in terms of changing up his work schedule or outsourcing more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds bipolar.

untreated thyroid disease can actually mimic of subdiagnosis of Bipolar called Cyclothymic disorder. It basically makes you look like a walking mood disorder poster child with daily/weekly mood fluctuations, irritability, anger, intolerance for stress, etc.

[Anonymous]

It’s got to make her insane to be left alone with the kids more than she wants to while you are at work at a demanding job, and then at the SAME TIME to have you saying (or thinking) that she isn’t able to care for the kids. I don’t know how she is supposed to reconcile those two things and live her life.

Clearly you think your wife is functioning well enough to take care of your kids solo. If you didn’t, you wouldn't have her caring for your kids solo right now. You would have left your demanding job or moved closer to her mom or hired multiple nannies or whatever.

So, you need to figure out why you can’t admit that you trust your wife with your children and she is a decent mom. You have some issues man.

Go watch some Ted Lasso and learn to tell people that you appreciate them.

[Anonymous]

She’s bonkers.

[Anonymous]

Were you in the middle of a fight/argument when she said she wanted a divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s got to make her insane to be left alone with the kids more than she wants to while you are at work at a demanding job, and then at the SAME TIME to have you saying (or thinking) that she isn’t able to care for the kids. I don’t know how she is supposed to reconcile those two things and live her life.

Clearly you think your wife is functioning well enough to take care of your kids solo. If you didn’t, you wouldn't have her caring for your kids solo right now. You would have left your demanding job or moved closer to her mom or hired multiple nannies or whatever.

So, you need to figure out why you can’t admit that you trust your wife with your children and she is a decent mom. You have some issues man.

Go watch some Ted Lasso and learn to tell people that you appreciate them.

Perhaps this man provides good financial support to his family. I just can’t stand some of the women here what the f**k is the guy supposed to do…He is working is ass off so you guys can be finally stable yet ya all are worried about him being workaholics or stupid sh**t like that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

She should take her thyroid meds first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, not in the middle of the day.

What are you doing at 7 am on a Monday? Are you helping kids get ready, or does your wife feel like she has to do everything?

Bingo the best advice I ever got from my mother was to make sure to help my wife with the kids because it can very overwhelming. And she will not necessarily tell you. She will send signals but most men we just can’t read our wives feelings(not all but most of us or many of us).

Tell your mom some rando from dcum loves her and she is a great mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s got to make her insane to be left alone with the kids more than she wants to while you are at work at a demanding job, and then at the SAME TIME to have you saying (or thinking) that she isn’t able to care for the kids. I don’t know how she is supposed to reconcile those two things and live her life.

Clearly you think your wife is functioning well enough to take care of your kids solo. If you didn’t, you wouldn't have her caring for your kids solo right now. You would have left your demanding job or moved closer to her mom or hired multiple nannies or whatever.

So, you need to figure out why you can’t admit that you trust your wife with your children and she is a decent mom. You have some issues man.

Go watch some Ted Lasso and learn to tell people that you appreciate them.

Perhaps this man provides good financial support to his family. I just can’t stand some of the women here what the f**k is the guy supposed to do…He is working is ass off so you guys can be finally stable yet ya all are worried about him being workaholics or stupid sh**t like that

NP but he's not working his ass off at 7 am, he's sitting there judging his wife for being frustrated with the kids about "something" - no job means you're off the clock when you're home with kids. And before you say it - I outearn my spouse, and I still parent my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, that backfired because I do think you’re a bitter husband calling his wife mentally ill because she asked for divorce.

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