DW asked for divorce but it’s weird…

[Anonymous]

I think she’s having an affair and uncertainly over what the AP is going to do is causing the back and forth on divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Bingo the best advice I ever got from my mother was to make sure to help my wife with the kids because it can very overwhelming. And she will not necessarily tell you. She will send signals but most men we just can’t read our wives feelings(not all but most of us or many of us).

While I applaud your mother for guiding you in the right direction, please don’t call taking care of your kids “helping”, and no one’s “feelings need to be read” to know this needs to be done.

[Anonymous]

Look up borderline personality disorder. My sympathies to you and your kids, and DW.

[Anonymous]

Op which meds methimizole, synthriod, levy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she’s having an affair and uncertainly over what the AP is going to do is causing the back and forth on divorcing.

I think that it’s uncertainty about her own marriage that’s causing her to go back and forth on divorcing. Why would there need to be anything else?

[Anonymous]

Op, are you two fighting when she threatens divorce? And then you make up and she says she loves you?

I think you are doing the thing married people do where they make each other into caricatures of themselves. You don’t like what your spouse is doing, so you do the opposite in order to counter it, and you both get more and more extreme. Now you’re at the point where she is wavering between I love you and divorce, and you are totally devoid of all emotion about it either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am telling you this is normal for women
Why is it that you all get the magic of childbirth but can’t get middle age discontent and hormones. It comes with the package, buddy.

Find ways to cope
don’t add to it

Find new hobby and ways to enjoy yourself

It's really not. Y'all just say anything on this forum.

[Anonymous]

It’s normal for some women. Not all.
To oscillate with major life change with divorce and be hormonal or emotionally uneven/ inconsistent, at home in a safe setting, with their chosen life partner

[Anonymous]

*like divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am telling you this is normal for women
Why is it that you all get the magic of childbirth but can’t get middle age discontent and hormones. It comes with the package, buddy.

Find ways to cope
don’t add to it

Find new hobby and ways to enjoy yourself

This is not normal for women or men. Take your sexism elsewhere

[Anonymous]

Hormones are different. Biology.
and all posts leave out half the story

[Anonymous]

But you do you, man. If simple is your jam.

[Anonymous]

Check out the post about the lady who married quasi modo. It’s been spinning around. Husband is apparently is disgusting and disfigured physically. She has now has a problem with his condition after 2o yes

This wife is just deranged! For sure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she’s having an affair and uncertainly over what the AP is going to do is causing the back and forth on divorcing.

Definitely. That’s how my wife acted. He never left his wife and dumped mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our marriage has been rocky the past year. DW has refused therapy and claimed she has tried for years and things haven’t improved. The biggest issue in our marriage is that because I had such a demanding job I didn’t give my wife all the emotional support she needed but I have tried my best.

But I am wondering if my wife is suffering from mental illness and quite concerned the impact it could have for our kids especially once we start joint custody.

Look at this patter just so you don’t think I am bitter husband calling his wife mentally Ill because she asked for divorce.

Monday 7 am: she wakes in a bad mood screaming at the kids because they are not ready or things like that…

9 am I get a text from her to tell me to tell my family that she is divorcing me

Around Noon after having taken her thyroid meds her mood improve from a few hours

In the afternoon around 6 Pm she says she loves me

Then around 10 pm she again says she is going to file for divorce the next day

I am quite concerned for her well being….

Your post doesn’t really make sense.

But you got it all backwards if you’re concerned about HER coparenting the kids. You should be concerned about YOU having to finally do 50/50 coparenting. Sounds like you’d be going from 0% to 50% and may be naive and have unrealistic “outsourcing” expectations.