Tackfully tell family member to stop bringing lousy food to potlucks

[Anonymous]

I like to cook and always make something from scratch for a potluck. So if I was doing waffles I would make them and the whipped cream. But waffle house waffles with fruit and whipped cream sounds like an absolute crowd pleaser. Served in a dollar store plastic tray? Plenty of people do disposable Tupperware for a potluck ..do you want me to to go William Sonoma for a fancy tray to bring to a potluck?

She brought a tray so there was no work for the host, and bought something people would enjoy becuase she's not much of a cook. Sounds like what you get for hosting a potluck.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she’s making a lot of effort, actually — a waffle bar!

[Anonymous]

Don’t eat it. Or, you provide all the food and ask them to bring drinks.

[Anonymous]

I actually prefer prepared foods from a restaurant or store bought. There are some nasty, dirty people out there who let their cats roam the countertops (nothing against cats … really) or don’t wash their hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

Now I'm SURE it's a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

If I’m asked to bring a card, I might pick one up at the store.
Potluck doesn’t mean homemade. Potluck means bring something to share.
Did your mom grow the corn? No? Shame on her for using store bought ingredients!
I pity the poor person who dares to bring drinks to your potluck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

I think YOU should stop embarrassing YOURself and stop hosting these if you don't like how people participate. Do everything yourself, or you get what you you get.

[Anonymous]

There is no doubt that this is a troll. Way too much weird, detailed information about a ridiculous topic that nobody would actually care about or crowd source unless they were a TROLL.

Prolific Troll, you are trying way too hard now. Back it off a bit.

[Anonymous]

OP you seriously need to unclench. You are asking people to bring food to an event you are “hosting”, if it’s that important to you specify that in order to come to this gathering you need to bring an item that is homemade. Maybe some of your ridiculous comparisons would be more apt in that situation. But you won’t do that because you know people will talk about what a crazy beyotch you are.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll since these are all perfectly good potluck ideas. I also can’t imagine being invited to this many potlucks - I would take shortcuts, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

Now I'm SURE it's a troll.

+1000. You outed yourself, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[youtube]

Anonymous wrote:How can I tell a family member to stop bringing their lousy food to potlucks. For mother's Day she brought two huge containers of lobster bisque from a grocery store with plastic cups and spoons to serve it in. broke up some cheese crisps to drop on top & little paper container of heavy whipping cream. For a brunch, she bought 10 waffles from waffle house. cut in quarters and put out some kinds of syrup in the bottles, can of whip cream, blueberries, cut up strawberries at my house, and put on a plastic platter from a dollar store. Other things like crab rangoons & egg rolls from a Chinese restaurant with a bunch of chopsticks. She "served" those in the takeout red/white containers.

This is all stuff she brings right from the grocery store or restaurants, still in the bags, wrapped up. Everyone else makes food and brings it in nice containers. Should I assign her items to bring or just tell her to not bother with her grocery store run? With holiday tomorrow who knows what she'll show up with.

Or rather, how can I tell this family member to stop making successful food so my mom stops complaining to me about her meh dishes no on wants.

And this is the real situation, isn't it OP? Your mom is either competitive or jealous or insecure or all of the above with this relative. And you are on team mom which is kind of you but it is a bad look for you to put down the relative as your mom is being unfair and immature.

When are family gatherings just about the food. For better or worse as seen by OP's post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what did she bring today? I’m curious!

I texted her to ask if she was making something or just going to be pick up from the store. She said she was stopping at seafood counter to have them boil couple pounds of shrimp in old bay. I asked what recipe she was using for the cocktail sauce and she said she was going to buy it.

Why can't she boil it herself? it is literally boiling water. Why is that too much effort for her . Other people are taking the time to make 5 bean baked beans, Mac & cheese, my mother is making two kinds of cornbread, my husband has been cooking BBQ pork for hours.

All of you that think it's okay for her to just grab something from the store. If the school asks you to send in a handmade card for teacher appreciation, do you pick one up at Hallmark?. If you're supposed to write an essay for school, do you just use chat AI to do it? Would you want the baker of your wedding cake to use a store-bought one? It is disrespectful. It's also insulting that she doesnt even try to hide the fact that she's not putting any effort into it.

Should I tell her not to embarrass herself and to bring drinks instead?

What in the world is this rant.

Umm I actually paid the person who made my wedding cake. If her cakes are bad, they will go out of business.

You are asking ppl to bring food for free. Deal with it or atop inviting them.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I get it. OP went a roundabout way to try to get people to say:
Potlucks are tacky
Homemade food is often nasty because people can’t cook and have gross kitchen habits

There ya go, OP! I said it.

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