DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced

[Anonymous]

8 is too young for a boy to pierce their ears. They will get mocked in school for it at this age and frankly, it looks stupid on young boys.

[Anonymous]

I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tough one OP. I personally would not let me son get his ear pierced (I think) unless I thought he might be gay or transgender (in which case I would probably allow it). I think earrings on boys are not ok and I am pretty sure our private school would not allow it.

My husband is from South America and girls get their ears pierced as babies to distinguish boys and girls. I allowed my DD to get them at 8 after she begged for years. You get DD is almost 8 and does not care. I got my ears pierced at 12 and would like to wait that long if possible.

But I hear your argument OP… it’s a delicate subject.

Also and more importantly, why is your son asking to get his ears pierced? I have never seen a boy that young with earrings. My only son is 4 so my experience with boys is limited, but my girls have several boy- friends.

I think the reason why he wants them is what would dictated my decision. Because his sisters have them? Not happening. Because he wants to look more girlie? I would consider it

My son got his pierced at 8. I think the reason was because he wanted to look like the professional athletes he admires.

Now, he's 1t year olds and has 4 holes (2 in each ears). And he made the varsity wrestling team as a freshman. So, ya know...it didnt turn him "girlie"

Some kids just develop their sense of style at a younger age. I'd roll wth it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Male ear-piercings are hideous.

This and it is not age-appropriate. Child is too young and is setting himself up to be hazed/teased at school.

Where do you all live that a boy would get made fun of for having an earring?

All of their NBA, MLB, and NFL heros have big diamonds. Same with all the male pop stars.

I promise you; they won't get made fun of unless you live in a deep red area

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t think this is a big deal. My older brother pierced his ear as a teen and then never wore any earrings again. It left a small hole but they can close up.

A piercing really isn't a big deal.

So not piercing shouldn't be a big deal either, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t think this is a big deal. My older brother pierced his ear as a teen and then never wore any earrings again. It left a small hole but they can close up.

A piercing really isn't a big deal.

So not piercing shouldn't be a big deal either, right?

Other than to the kid who wants it, obviously.

[Anonymous]

this is the kind of thing over which either parent has veto authority

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

What? So only black kids can have ear piercings now??!! What about other non-white?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We wouldn’t allow any of our children to get piercing ears until 12. DS has never asked for them, but if he had, we would’ve said no. Now at 16, we would likely concede.
One thing we agree on, is that anything dealing with the kids must be a shared agreement. It will erode your marriage, and even your relationship with your kids, if you don’t put up a united front.

Second paragraph is very important. Your marriage is more important than the earring issue. For me it would not be a hill to die on. Other parenting clashes, perhaps but not this one. Either the vote is 2 to zero or it doesn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

Black American parent here and completely disagree. I don’t know who “their masculine culture” refers too. The Black parents that I know would not pierce their young sons ears as a sign of masculine culture. What a ridiculous statement! Straight out of stereotype type central.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think if he's Black, it will look decent and is a natural part of their masculine culture. It's not the same if he's another race TBH.

There's definitely an element of truth to this.

My white son had both ears pierced in elementary school, but it was a very diverse school. Even know, he wears a chain/necklace to school and it looks fine/normal.

I suspect all the people scoffing at the idea go to predomanitely white schools

What? So only black kids can have ear piercings now??!! What about other non-white?

Jesus H. Relax, I literally said my white son has both his ears pierced. Obviously I'm supportive of allowing anyone to get their ear pierced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We wouldn’t allow any of our children to get piercing ears until 12. DS has never asked for them, but if he had, we would’ve said no. Now at 16, we would likely concede.
One thing we agree on, is that anything dealing with the kids must be a shared agreement. It will erode your marriage, and even your relationship with your kids, if you don’t put up a united front.

Second paragraph is very important. Your marriage is more important than the earring issue. For me it would not be a hill to die on. Other parenting clashes, perhaps but not this one. Either the vote is 2 to zero or it doesn’t happen.

Why is it the wife's job to submit to husband's biases, and not the reverse?

You could just ask well say, Either the vote is 2 to zero or it happens. Now what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my spouse prohibited one of my kids from doing something solely due to gender and we let our kids of the other gender engage, I’d be making an 100% equalization policy in my house. If both sexes can’t do it, neither can. And I’d take earrings away from my girls.

I’m sure you are one of those women who have neutered your already feminine husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea at that age my son wanted to paint his nails. We were a hard no. He would have looked like a freak and would have been teased. Luckily it was a phase and my boys are well aware that they are men and there is no confusion.


Not a chance I’d encourage my boy to feminize himself. Why any parent in these times where some males are lobbing their knobs off and playing make believe they are women would encourage this freakshow is beyond comprehension.

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