DH opposing 8yo DS having ears pierced

[Anonymous]

Our 8yo DS has started to express that He would like to have His ears pierced. I have zero problem with this. His Sisters had Their ears pierced at 5 and 3, and I am not ready to have a double-standard and impose gender stereotypes, but DH is adamant that He will not allow it. We are at a standstill.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is his opposition? He doesn’t want his son to look “girly”? He doesn’t really care, personally, but is afraid your son will get teased by classmates? He’s afraid this is the first step to transitioning into a transgender girl?

[Anonymous]

Male ear-piercings are hideous.

[Anonymous]

Please no.

[Anonymous]

Fwiw, we know a boy who has both ears pierced. I was asking my child the other day if anyone bullies the boy about it. He said, no, no one cares. Maybe your DH should bc more like kids these days.

[Anonymous]

So you're into pushing back on the gender stereotyping Op? Why did your girls, at a young age, get their ears pierced? I woukd think you'd encourage your girls to get buzz cuts instead. You know, gender stereotypes and all.

Did you, by chance, plant the idea in your kid's head he should get his ear pierced?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I'd make him wait until he's 11-12 to see if he changes his mind. You can offer him some magnetic studs so he can try them out before getting pierced.

[Anonymous]

Good for your husband. You’re a fool OP. Your son is not another daughter. Be a Parian’s learn to say no.

[Anonymous]

Sorry that’s parent

[Anonymous]

I would ask him to just do clip ons and stick ons, but I wouldn’t let a girl pierce ears that young either.

[Anonymous]

Don’t think this is a big deal. My older brother pierced his ear as a teen and then never wore any earrings again. It left a small hole but they can close up.

[Anonymous]

I have a 10yo DD who is very boyish in her clothing choices and hairstyle but has her ears pierced. Her body her choice. I would let my son do it as well. Why is DH opposed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're into pushing back on the gender stereotyping Op? Why did your girls, at a young age, get their ears pierced? I woukd think you'd encourage your girls to get buzz cuts instead. You know, gender stereotypes and all.

Did you, by chance, plant the idea in your kid's head he should get his ear pierced?

NP, but I got my ears pierced at 4.5, after begging for a year. I was a sporty kid who wanted pierced ears and loved ballet also.

[Anonymous]

I would find a middle ground and get the magnetic studs. I don’t think you should get anything pierced or tattooed without both parents approval but I think the child should be able to have some say in their appearance. The magnetic studs would be a happy medium.

[Anonymous]

If my spouse prohibited one of my kids from doing something solely due to gender and we let our kids of the other gender engage, I’d be making an 100% equalization policy in my house. If both sexes can’t do it, neither can. And I’d take earrings away from my girls.