24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women have more options nowadays than marrying the first guy they meet at 23 & popping out as many kids as possible.

Assuming you’re college educated, was or were the guy(s) you dated at 22 and 23 that bad? Probably not. That’s when we are in our prime and have access to the greatest dating pool - a 100% unmarried college campus and prep school network. That pool gets very shallow very quickly the further you are from college graduation.

You should really get out more pp.

[Anonymous]

Women who marry in their 30s are marrying the leftovers. Leftovers marry leftovers. Look at all the women posting that they have to settle in their 30s if they want kids. They’re setting bc the “tall successful men” (saying that bc these threads are often about height) married 20 something women, not a 30 something leftover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But Sofia didn't marry her HS sweetheart. And she didn't go to college. She married a guy who works with her dad.

Sofia dumped Scott Disick and started dating her future husband at age 21. Married at 24. She is wise and bucks the American norm the last 25 years. Norm would be more like dated Scott, lived with Scott, dumped Scott, serial dating via app for a few years, flings with Scott, traveled, boozed, Xanax, abortion, master’s degree, fling with married man at work, promotions at work, multiple bottles of wine per week. Then waking up and realizing you’re childless and unmarried at 30 to 35 years old.

[Anonymous]

Times have changed. A woman can have a baby all on her own at 40+ if she wants to.

[Anonymous]

We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

Who cares? If you do it right, you only get married once, let them have the day they want without your nasty judgement.

[Anonymous]

First, she is rich. Doesn't matter what she does. Pretty sure things will work out okay.

Now for the non-rich young women:

I think the younger women are noticing that waiting until you are 40-50 years old to have a kid is just a bad idea for the kid and for the woman birthing. Even with all the options of surrogacy, IVF etc, it is just a Pharma approach to what women can and should do naturally, if that is possible.

Also times have changed and having a child will not screw up your career like it did for women working in 80s-2020's. I think there is a new crop of women who absolutely want children and recognize the best time to get the best results. Then there are other women who either have no interest, freeze their eggs or take their chances with Mother Nature.

This a great time to be a mother and a woman. Next, we just need more family-centric communities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

We have a pair of those weddings this summer. More than the obnoxious elaborate wedding ten years after that’s reasonable, I can’t for the life of me understand waiting YEARS to get married as what’s left of your fertility ticks away. Is it because the millennial woman are stalling, holding out hope they meet someone better? You’re in your 30s, why do you need to date and be engaged for three to five years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, she is rich. Doesn't matter what she does. Pretty sure things will work out okay.

Now for the non-rich young women:

I think the younger women are noticing that waiting until you are 40-50 years old to have a kid is just a bad idea for the kid and for the woman birthing. Even with all the options of surrogacy, IVF etc, it is just a Pharma approach to what women can and should do naturally, if that is possible.

Also times have changed and having a child will not screw up your career like it did for women working in 80s-2020's. I think there is a new crop of women who absolutely want children and recognize the best time to get the best results. Then there are other women who either have no interest, freeze their eggs or take their chances with Mother Nature.

This a great time to be a mother and a woman. Next, we just need more family-centric communities.

Freezing eggs does not work. Please stop spreading this falsehood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

We have a pair of those weddings this summer. More than the obnoxious elaborate wedding ten years after that’s reasonable, I can’t for the life of me understand waiting YEARS to get married as what’s left of your fertility ticks away. Is it because the millennial woman are stalling, holding out hope they meet someone better? You’re in your 30s, why do you need to date and be engaged for three to five years?

Not everyone wants to crank out children. I'm happily married without kids and don't want any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Times have changed. A woman can have a baby all on her own at 40+ if she wants to.

Yes. School systems are fully aware.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

Oh yeah, let’s blame the women. Like men aren’t propagating the hookup culture, aren’t binge drinking, aren’t traveling, etc?

It seems most young gals in their 20s and 30s take the pill, casually use Plan B and often have even had an abortion; live with or have lived with men they aren’t married to (“shacking up”); and aimlessly date around and toy with men on apps like it’s something to be proud of. This is not the behavior of someone who is serious about growing up and finding a suitable husband. This sort of behavior also wrecks you mentally. Hopefully celebrity young women like Sofia nudge more young women and men alike to focus on finding a partner in college and forgoing all of the pointless wasting away of their 20s, as has been en vogue for at least the last 25 years.

I’m not sure why you would think using birth control would be associated with not being married….I didn’t go on the pill or use plan b until after I got married. I love kids and have 4 but I dont want 12!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Times have changed. A woman can have a baby all on her own at 40+ if she wants to.

Yes. School systems are fully aware.

Yes, that children of highly-educated, affluent, stable, mature parents perform the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

We have a pair of those weddings this summer. More than the obnoxious elaborate wedding ten years after that’s reasonable, I can’t for the life of me understand waiting YEARS to get married as what’s left of your fertility ticks away. Is it because the millennial woman are stalling, holding out hope they meet someone better? You’re in your 30s, why do you need to date and be engaged for three to five years?

I'm 35 and the people I know getting married now are getting engaged after a year of dating, getting married within the next year, and are then trying to get pregnant right away. Why should we be pushing people into marrying someone that's wrong for them earlier in life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re going to a wedding this summer for my 37 year old niece (will be her first marriage). She met her fiancé on an app & has brought him to multiple family functions since they met about 3 years ago. I do find it interesting that they choose to an “elaborate” wedding at that age.

We have a pair of those weddings this summer. More than the obnoxious elaborate wedding ten years after that’s reasonable, I can’t for the life of me understand waiting YEARS to get married as what’s left of your fertility ticks away. Is it because the millennial woman are stalling, holding out hope they meet someone better? You’re in your 30s, why do you need to date and be engaged for three to five years?

I'm 35 and the people I know getting married now are getting engaged after a year of dating, getting married within the next year, and are then trying to get pregnant right away. Why should we be pushing people into marrying someone that's wrong for them earlier in life?

Because brunch granny said so.