24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She could have a couple accessory kids ASAP (if she desires to) and it’d have no effect on her lifestyle

If you're a non-famous MC or UMC young adult couple, married, degrees and white collar jobs, how would a baby or even two impact your "lifestyle"? My parents had me when they were in medical school in the 70s. It's certainly much easier to do that now, with free campus childcare, remote work, and many employers offering six months paid maternity and paternity leave. Not to mention your body bounces back quickly and you have far more energy than if you wait until your 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She could have a couple accessory kids ASAP (if she desires to) and it’d have no effect on her lifestyle

If you're a non-famous MC or UMC young adult couple, married, degrees and white collar jobs, how would a baby or even two impact your "lifestyle"? My parents had me when they were in medical school in the 70s. It's certainly much easier to do that now, with free campus childcare, remote work, and many employers offering six months paid maternity and paternity leave. Not to mention your body bounces back quickly and you have far more energy than if you wait until your 30s.

Do you have any idea what daycare costs around here, for one kid, let alone multiple? “Campus childcare” is for tenured professors not paying students.
Literally every daycare has insanely long waitlists.

[Anonymous]

I married at 24. We met at 18, and our fifth child was born last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married at 24. We met at 18, and our fifth child was born last year.

Do you homeschool? Are you a submissive wife?

[Anonymous]

I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

+1

We’re in a different time yet Brunch Granny thinks it’s all the fault of women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. Studies show someone's brain isn't fully formed until the age of 25.

Urban legend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. Studies show someone's brain isn't fully formed until the age of 25.

No voting, gun ownership, smoking, drinking, voting, taking out student loans, mortgages or joining the military for anyone under 25, then. Deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that celebrities are doing this! I hope more American kids marry right after college. Marrying your high school or college sweetheart is so much smarter than waiting until you're in your late 20s or 30s. Being a young bride in your early 20s and then quickly having babies is beautiful.



https://pagesix.com/2023/04/22/sofia-richie-marries-elliot-grainge-in-france/

barf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. This requires having a serious college sweetheart, which in turn requires a degree of luck.

I think it requires taking your education seriously and being mindful of finding a quality marriage-potential boyfriend during eight years of high school and college. Not just carelessly partying and wasting your teens and 20s away on hookup culture because you can find a rich husband when you're in your 30s like the actresses on Sex and the City.

and what is the man’s job in all of this? you gross sexists really have a very passive view of men. if men are such idiots that women can manipulate them like that, why in the world would a woman want to rush the process any more than necessary? women don’t *have to* get married at 24 for any reason anymore and it really pisses you off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. This requires having a serious college sweetheart, which in turn requires a degree of luck.

I think it requires taking your education seriously and being mindful of finding a quality marriage-potential boyfriend during eight years of high school and college. Not just carelessly partying and wasting your teens and 20s away on hookup culture because you can find a rich husband when you're in your 30s like the actresses on Sex and the City.

and what is the man’s job in all of this? you gross sexists really have a very passive view of men. if men are such idiots that women can manipulate them like that, why in the world would a woman want to rush the process any more than necessary? women don’t *have to* get married at 24 for any reason anymore and it really pisses you off.

Also, there are no 24 year old men out there who want to marry a 24 year old woman. 34 year old men who want to marry a 24 year old woman, sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. This requires having a serious college sweetheart, which in turn requires a degree of luck.

I think it requires taking your education seriously and being mindful of finding a quality marriage-potential boyfriend during eight years of high school and college. Not just carelessly partying and wasting your teens and 20s away on hookup culture because you can find a rich husband when you're in your 30s like the actresses on Sex and the City.

and what is the man’s job in all of this? you gross sexists really have a very passive view of men. if men are such idiots that women can manipulate them like that, why in the world would a woman want to rush the process any more than necessary? women don’t *have to* get married at 24 for any reason anymore and it really pisses you off.

Also, there are no 24 year old men out there who want to marry a 24 year old woman. 34 year old men who want to marry a 24 year old woman, sure.

Not true. Quite a few 22, 23 and 24-year-old Ivy League, Stanford, UVA, UWash, Wake Forest, and Duke graduates in our social orbit who married in the last two years. It's already a trend with celebrities and the wealthy, and will hopefully trickle down to the UMC and MC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

"Sex and the City" and Carrie Bradshaw debuted June 6, 1998. Carrie was supposed to be age 32 or 33 when the show premiered. Carrie didn't marry until age 40 or 41.

Beyonce's song "Independent Women" was released on August 29, 2000.

Just two examples of media brainwashing Generation X and Millennial women that marrying young was trashy and low class. Sophisticated smart girl boss women wait until their 30s because there's always a rich hot guy around the corner eager to swoop you up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. Studies show someone's brain isn't fully formed until the age of 25.

Urban legend.

https://sites.duke.edu/apep/module-3-alcohol-cell-suicide-and-the-adolescent-brain/content-brain-maturation-is-complete-at-about-24-years-of-age/