24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 24. We met at 18, and our fifth child was born last year.

Do you homeschool? Are you a submissive wife?

No, I went to Northwestern journalism school.

So a string of bad choices then?

-- Signed, A journalist

I think this is what the young people call a “self-own”.

- NP

I write what I know.

-- Signed, same journalist

Indeed.

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I married at 35 and have a nice domestic life with babies. There’s no one way to have a happy life. If I took advice like the OP’s I would be divorced from one of my ridiculous ex-boyfriends.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

26 to 29 is late and already a shallow dating pool full of leftovers and baggage. Teens and college-aged young adults should be mindful of who they socialize with and date. Marrying a high school sweetheart is not weird or small-minded, it’s incredibly pure and romantic. Same for marrying that classmate you met during welcome week of college or in a study group your third year. Teach your children to take friendships and relationships seriously very early on. Value their reputation. Don’t treat dating like it’s an app carelessly swiping and discarding. Set a goal that you’d like to marry soon after college and don’t waste time with non-serious men or women. Men and women lacked this goal because it wasn’t seen as cool by pop culture. With celebs like Sofia marrying so young, young adults [now] have cool and gorgeous celebs to mirror.

Do you live in Oxford, Mississippi?

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

26 to 29 is late and already a shallow dating pool full of leftovers and baggage. Teens and college-aged young adults should be mindful of who they socialize with and date. Marrying a high school sweetheart is not weird or small-minded, it’s incredibly pure and romantic. Same for marrying that classmate you met during welcome week of college or in a study group your third year. Teach your children to take friendships and relationships seriously very early on. Value their reputation. Don’t treat dating like it’s an app carelessly swiping and discarding. Set a goal that you’d like to marry soon after college and don’t waste time with non-serious men or women. Men and women lacked this goal because it wasn’t seen as cool by pop culture. With celebs like Sofia marrying so young, young adults [now] have cool and gorgeous celebs to mirror.

26 to 19 is far too late. Young people should be doing all of what you mentioned in time to marry at 18, or at 16-17 in the states where that’s legal. Anything after that is way too late.

You’re trying to detail the thread with trolling. But Sofia took positioning herself for marriage seriously at age 21. She dumped the loser she was dating and got into a serious relationship with a serious young man who’d become her husband by age 24. The average 21 year old American man and woman is not taking relationships seriously. They are not thinking about marriage. They tend to just carelessly coast through their teens and 20s hooking up and swiping dating apps. Often this leads to them waking up in their 30s, bitter, alone and childless, and picking at leftovers.

Sofia hopefully reflects a cultural shift.

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. Studies show someone's brain isn't fully formed until the age of 25.

You sound like the troll.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

Respectfully, you’re still oblivious. Report back after you’re actually married, when you actually get pregnant and have a child (if possible) and when you actually try to have another one or two. Or when you’re in your 40s and your friends who settled down quickly have their kids heading to college and yours (again, if you have any) are in primary school. When they retire and you still have ten years left. Then get on here and tell us how smart it was to waste ten years of fertility. Your tune will change.

You really think the average early 30s woman is having trouble getting pregnant? Please go touch grass.

Yes, according to the New York Times.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

26 to 29 is late and already a shallow dating pool full of leftovers and baggage. Teens and college-aged young adults should be mindful of who they socialize with and date. Marrying a high school sweetheart is not weird or small-minded, it’s incredibly pure and romantic. Same for marrying that classmate you met during welcome week of college or in a study group your third year. Teach your children to take friendships and relationships seriously very early on. Value their reputation. Don’t treat dating like it’s an app carelessly swiping and discarding. Set a goal that you’d like to marry soon after college and don’t waste time with non-serious men or women. Men and women lacked this goal because it wasn’t seen as cool by pop culture. With celebs like Sofia marrying so young, young adults [now] have cool and gorgeous celebs to mirror.

26 to 19 is far too late. Young people should be doing all of what you mentioned in time to marry at 18, or at 16-17 in the states where that’s legal. Anything after that is way too late.

You’re trying to detail the thread with trolling. But Sofia took positioning herself for marriage seriously at age 21. She dumped the loser she was dating and got into a serious relationship with a serious young man who’d become her husband by age 24. The average 21 year old American man and woman is not taking relationships seriously. They are not thinking about marriage. They tend to just carelessly coast through their teens and 20s hooking up and swiping dating apps. Often this leads to them waking up in their 30s, bitter, alone and childless, and picking at leftovers.

Sofia hopefully reflects a cultural shift.

She doesn’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

Respectfully, you’re still oblivious. Report back after you’re actually married, when you actually get pregnant and have a child (if possible) and when you actually try to have another one or two. Or when you’re in your 40s and your friends who settled down quickly have their kids heading to college and yours (again, if you have any) are in primary school. When they retire and you still have ten years left. Then get on here and tell us how smart it was to waste ten years of fertility. Your tune will change.

You really think the average early 30s woman is having trouble getting pregnant? Please go touch grass.

Yes, according to the New York Times.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/13/health/women-doctors-infertility.html

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Probably has to dye with female physicians working 85 hours a week during residency & stress than anything else.

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I hope more people go childfree.

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how nobody is pressuring young men to marry

Women are in their prime from 22-28. Men from about 27-35. Men don’t have to.

LOL what do you think happens to a woman when she turns 28? Does her uterus fall out?

First time babies over the age of 35 means old eggs, etc.

¾NP. Wow how do second or third babies know how to use the youngest eggs, that’s amazing

PP here. We have an explosion of kids with special needs. I said etc. Waiting 20+ years past the start of menstruation is a big risk for first time moms.

You’re right, women should start breeding at 14 cuz nature.

No, but because of nature, waiting 20 years can be problematic. Read and learn more.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope more people go childfree.

Smart adults are. BG is going to way of the dinosaurs and it just burns her up.

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Trust a woman when she says she is happy.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

26 to 29 is late and already a shallow dating pool full of leftovers and baggage. Teens and college-aged young adults should be mindful of who they socialize with and date. Marrying a high school sweetheart is not weird or small-minded, it’s incredibly pure and romantic. Same for marrying that classmate you met during welcome week of college or in a study group your third year. Teach your children to take friendships and relationships seriously very early on. Value their reputation. Don’t treat dating like it’s an app carelessly swiping and discarding. Set a goal that you’d like to marry soon after college and don’t waste time with non-serious men or women. Men and women lacked this goal because it wasn’t seen as cool by pop culture. With celebs like Sofia marrying so young, young adults [now] have cool and gorgeous celebs to mirror.

Do you live in Oxford, Mississippi?

You honestly believe dating is easier and the dating pool is deep in your late 20s? You will never have access to a better and deeper dating pool than high school and college years. Even by third and fourth year of college, most stable and mature college students are in serious relationships. Every year after graduation more and more are living together, engaged, and then married. By 26 to 29 the same dating pool from your freshman year of college has shrunk to maybe 10% available? Maybe. The takeaway is clear: The ideal time to find a spouse is when you’re young and beautiful. Teach young children to take those years seriously, as Sofia just did. And just like our ancestors did for thousands of years. This waiting until you’re 30 for marriage and kids nonsense has always been asinine.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

26 to 29 is late and already a shallow dating pool full of leftovers and baggage. Teens and college-aged young adults should be mindful of who they socialize with and date. Marrying a high school sweetheart is not weird or small-minded, it’s incredibly pure and romantic. Same for marrying that classmate you met during welcome week of college or in a study group your third year. Teach your children to take friendships and relationships seriously very early on. Value their reputation. Don’t treat dating like it’s an app carelessly swiping and discarding. Set a goal that you’d like to marry soon after college and don’t waste time with non-serious men or women. Men and women lacked this goal because it wasn’t seen as cool by pop culture. With celebs like Sofia marrying so young, young adults [now] have cool and gorgeous celebs to mirror.

Do you live in Oxford, Mississippi?

You honestly believe dating is easier and the dating pool is deep in your late 20s? You will never have access to a better and deeper dating pool than high school and college years. Even by third and fourth year of college, most stable and mature college students are in serious relationships. Every year after graduation more and more are living together, engaged, and then married. By 26 to 29 the same dating pool from your freshman year of college has shrunk to maybe 10% available? Maybe. The takeaway is clear: The ideal time to find a spouse is when you’re young and beautiful. Teach young children to take those years seriously, as Sofia just did. And just like our ancestors did for thousands of years. This waiting until you’re 30 for marriage and kids nonsense has always been asinine.

Your fundamental flaw is assuming that everyone wants kids & marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm all for it if that's what they want - of my friends (both guys and gals) that waited to marry into their 30s most settled for partners they wouldn't have ever dated when they were a little younger - and we are only talking early-mid thirties vs. mid-late 20s - but the younger marriages just seemed to last AND be a lot more fun and compatible.

Less baggage, building a life together, no fertility challenges = bliss.

Imagine thinking you’re going to be a better wife or better husband after serial dating dozens of people, all the lies and broken hearts, Plan B use and maybe an abortion, all sort of mental and relationship baggage, already set in your ways, and let’s be blunt, one or both of you likely feel you’re settling. Then the very high likelihood you have fertility issues. It can work, but it all sets the table for a disaster.