I Cannot Stand My Mother

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Anonymous wrote:Video. Record your interactions, then play back to her when she denies it. Ship her off to memory car if she persists in “Forgetting”. Tell her this is the plan. Tell her you’ve got cameras annd mics all over the house too. If she doesn’t like it she can leave, but it’s for her safety since she’s become so forgetful. Seriously two can play at this game.

this is elder abuse you realize

This is why abusive elderly need to be properly medicated living in a residential facility with trained professionals, If anyone of us with an abusive elderly parent lost it and treated them with even a fraction of the indignity with which they treat us, it might be considered abuse. For their safety and ours they need to be living elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PS she also calls me names, is snarky, says mean things about me in front of the kids, yells at me loudly, etc

Get her out yesterday. I went through something like this and did not assert myself properly. I was in hell. Two years later, I'm still a changed person. I am amazed at how much hospice puts on caregivers and how much they glorify 'what the patient wants'. What someone wants and what can be done are two different realities.

GET HER OUT before it destroys you and your family. I say this with so much respect and love for you OP. My motive here is to protect you and your family. What your mother wants, feels, etc, doesn't even matter anymore, given her behavior.

Interesting. I had a horrible experience with hospice where they over drugged the person till they died 1 day later. They seemed obsessed with death and not feeling pain. Guess they have a wide array of people working with them.

Ummm that's literally what hospice does.

and this is helpful because? The person wasn't even in pain. They just showed up and filled them with drugs because "that's what hospice does". Why is this beneficial? Why wouldn't you wait for the patient to be in pain or ask for pain meds or start them off smaller and build up as needed? Why the maximum dosage from the start?