Man always using phone won’t text me back

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get rid of this guy. It has only been six months and you are having fights about him being on his phone for an entire dinner date? He's taking 5-6 hours to text you back (regularly, occasionally this makes sense if during a work day). You can do better, please move on.

OP: During the 5-6 hours, I leave him alone, but I can see him active on TikTok.

Yeah, nope! These clowns really only want to be in a relationship with their precious phones. I regret the years I wasted with this guy's long lost clone. Consider yourself lucky that you're able to see the real him now and cut your losses early. Mine managed to conduct himself like a normal person for awhile, then at some point before I knew it, we had progressed to him running his "joke bot" on Twitter right in the middle of a formal holiday dinner. This will not get better.

OP: I was feeling sick earlier today and asked if he could drop off some meds for me on his way to work. He came inside, sat on the couch, and started texting his drunk colleague and was smiling from ear to ear. So considerate.

Sorry but caring for a sick person is not fun, it’s learned behavior and it’s basically a chore. Also when caring for someone who isn’t on their deathbed (presumably) and who is not your child is annoying tbh
he probably didn’t learn how to do this chore when he was a teenager

OP: he was here for 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

This guy is a father of two young children?! And he's using TikTok and Snapchat constantly? This is not a man. And I would bet he's a pretty lousy dad. OP, please stop being afraid that you're running out of time or whatever it is that is driving you to stick around. He really sounds awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of this guy. It has only been six months and you are having fights about him being on his phone for an entire dinner date? He's taking 5-6 hours to text you back (regularly, occasionally this makes sense if during a work day). You can do better, please move on.

OP: During the 5-6 hours, I leave him alone, but I can see him active on TikTok.

Yeah, nope! These clowns really only want to be in a relationship with their precious phones. I regret the years I wasted with this guy's long lost clone. Consider yourself lucky that you're able to see the real him now and cut your losses early. Mine managed to conduct himself like a normal person for awhile, then at some point before I knew it, we had progressed to him running his "joke bot" on Twitter right in the middle of a formal holiday dinner. This will not get better.

Nooooooo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of this guy. It has only been six months and you are having fights about him being on his phone for an entire dinner date? He's taking 5-6 hours to text you back (regularly, occasionally this makes sense if during a work day). You can do better, please move on.

OP: During the 5-6 hours, I leave him alone, but I can see him active on TikTok.

Yeah, nope! These clowns really only want to be in a relationship with their precious phones. I regret the years I wasted with this guy's long lost clone. Consider yourself lucky that you're able to see the real him now and cut your losses early. Mine managed to conduct himself like a normal person for awhile, then at some point before I knew it, we had progressed to him running his "joke bot" on Twitter right in the middle of a formal holiday dinner. This will not get better.

OP: I was feeling sick earlier today and asked if he could drop off some meds for me on his way to work. He came inside, sat on the couch, and started texting his drunk colleague and was smiling from ear to ear. So considerate.

Sorry but caring for a sick person is not fun, it’s learned behavior and it’s basically a chore. Also when caring for someone who isn’t on their deathbed (presumably) and who is not your child is annoying tbh
he probably didn’t learn how to do this chore when he was a teenager

Excuses, excuses. Welcome to adulthood.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of this guy. It has only been six months and you are having fights about him being on his phone for an entire dinner date? He's taking 5-6 hours to text you back (regularly, occasionally this makes sense if during a work day). You can do better, please move on.

OP: During the 5-6 hours, I leave him alone, but I can see him active on TikTok.

Yeah, nope! These clowns really only want to be in a relationship with their precious phones. I regret the years I wasted with this guy's long lost clone. Consider yourself lucky that you're able to see the real him now and cut your losses early. Mine managed to conduct himself like a normal person for awhile, then at some point before I knew it, we had progressed to him running his "joke bot" on Twitter right in the middle of a formal holiday dinner. This will not get better.

OP: I was feeling sick earlier today and asked if he could drop off some meds for me on his way to work. He came inside, sat on the couch, and started texting his drunk colleague and was smiling from ear to ear. So considerate.

Sorry but caring for a sick person is not fun, it’s learned behavior and it’s basically a chore. Also when caring for someone who isn’t on their deathbed (presumably) and who is not your child is annoying tbh
he probably didn’t learn how to do this chore when he was a teenager

Excuses, excuses. Welcome to adulthood.

Also, he’s a nurse.

[Anonymous]

NP. I didn’t get through all of this, but it seems evident OP likes drama. Not like she’s a drama queen, but more like “hey everyone this guy did this other annoying thing lemme tell you about it. Now what should I do.” And so on, to keep the convo rolling.

OP, as others have pointed out, life is short. If you are in it for the drama, then own it. If not, then move on.

[Anonymous]

This guy is a loser. He should be focusing on his children. Instead he’s carryon inappropriate relationships with pretty much everyone. Op - get a grip

[Anonymous]

Go read the thread on how to waste your twenties OP. Go and freeze your eggs you’re out here wasting valuable time with men who have no lasting potential. Did you say you were already 33? You have very little time left to get this right he has to go yesterday. Make the math, every 6 mo-1yr you waste on a guy like this at your age means one less child you can have with your eventual mate. You need to take out the trash faster if you want a successful match

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I didn’t get through all of this, but it seems evident OP likes drama. Not like she’s a drama queen, but more like “hey everyone this guy did this other annoying thing lemme tell you about it. Now what should I do.” And so on, to keep the convo rolling.

OP, as others have pointed out, life is short. If you are in it for the drama, then own it. If not, then move on.

+1. She was sick and asked him to take care of her, and as soon as he shows up he’s on his phone. Wow, I’m utterly shocked. OP must have been blindsided! Not. She knows what to expect and keeps doing it anyway. Definition of insanity. The D must be really phenomenal!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of this guy. It has only been six months and you are having fights about him being on his phone for an entire dinner date? He's taking 5-6 hours to text you back (regularly, occasionally this makes sense if during a work day). You can do better, please move on.

OP: During the 5-6 hours, I leave him alone, but I can see him active on TikTok.

Yeah, nope! These clowns really only want to be in a relationship with their precious phones. I regret the years I wasted with this guy's long lost clone. Consider yourself lucky that you're able to see the real him now and cut your losses early. Mine managed to conduct himself like a normal person for awhile, then at some point before I knew it, we had progressed to him running his "joke bot" on Twitter right in the middle of a formal holiday dinner. This will not get better.

OP: I was feeling sick earlier today and asked if he could drop off some meds for me on his way to work. He came inside, sat on the couch, and started texting his drunk colleague and was smiling from ear to ear. So considerate.

Sorry but caring for a sick person is not fun, it’s learned behavior and it’s basically a chore. Also when caring for someone who isn’t on their deathbed (presumably) and who is not your child is annoying tbh
he probably didn’t learn how to do this chore when he was a teenager

I guess you missed the post where OP stated HE IS A NURSE.

He’s had hours of training in direct and indirect means of comfort measures.

[Anonymous]

Ewww no. Don't ignore signs like this. It won't get better. He will always prioritize the phone over you. In my case my DH got his first smartphone AFTER we married, so I didn't know what our lives would turn out like. And my DH is a doctor, so his excuse is that he needs to answer work texts at random times. (Which is mostly true, but it's like an alcoholic who is required by their job to carry around a full flask at all times.)

[Anonymous]

When I am really into someone I forget I have a phone. When I care about someone, I respect them by keeping my phone away during a meal or time together unless I have an urgent reason not to. He just doesn’t sound that into you. It hurts to realize that but also coming to terms with it will set you free!

[Anonymous]

I would ditch a FWB for less than this, let alone an actual boyfriend. And I wouldn’t even explain why, at this level of ridiculousness (“it’s not you, it’s me” is easier on everyone).

[Anonymous]

He's not into you good thing you know it now and can drop him like a bad habit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you want to be in a relationship with him?

OP: Obsessive phone usage aside, he’s a really nice guy. We laugh a lot when we’re together. It’s a relatively new relationship (less than 6 months), so I’m also just trying to get a feel for him and see if this is worth it.

You should still be in the honeymoon phase at this point so if he's this obsessed with his phone now, I don't see how it would get better with time.

My husband and I have been together for 15 years and we don't use phones when we're spending time together.