thanks for making dinner

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Anonymous wrote:If you cook, do you expect your DH to say "this taste great!" or some form of verbal appreciation for making dinner? Just wondering if I'm expecting too much?

DH always praises what I cook. We do have other minor areas of friction, but saying please and thank you where appropriate isn't one of them.

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To me, cooking a dinner for the family isn’t the same as taking out the trash. There is more effort involved in meal planning, cooking and serving than that. So yes, I would always expect a genuine thank you from both spouse and kids after making a meal in a way that I wouldn’t for a simple chore being done. I was always taught to say “May I be excused” and “Thanks for dinner, Mom” while growing up and preparing to leave the dinner table.

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Yes, DH always thanks me for dinner and/or tells me how good it is. Similarly I thank him for doing the dishes, or doing the grocery run, or whatever. Maybe we don't do this literally every time, but quite frequently. Its a good practice, and also a good example for the children.

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Anonymous wrote:If you cook, do you expect your DH to say "this taste great!" or some form of verbal appreciation for making dinner? Just wondering if I'm expecting too much?

Yes, unless said DH was raised in a barn.

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My DW always thanks me for dinner. Even though I know it’s no dang good. I appreciate that.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

[Anonymous]

I don't expect DH to thank me for making dinner, but he always does and tells me how good it is. Same for our kids.

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What if the DH does everything but the DW doesn’t ever say thank you

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Anonymous wrote:What if the DH does everything but the DW doesn’t ever say thank you

If you had actually read the thread, there was a lot of use of the word "spouse" and a lot of talk about wives thanking husbands and how gratitude is a good practice, but hey. If you need more attention and to feel validated and "seen," then yes, Buddy. Your wife should say thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:What if the DH does everything but the DW doesn’t ever say thank you

If you had actually read the thread, there was a lot of use of the word "spouse" and a lot of talk about wives thanking husbands and how gratitude is a good practice, but hey. If you need more attention and to feel validated and "seen," then yes, Buddy. Your wife should say thank you.

Oh gosh all of this

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Anonymous wrote:What if the DH does everything but the DW doesn’t ever say thank you

Barring chronic debilitating illness or serious injury, if you directly benefit from the labor of your spouse on a regular basis, but never acknowledge it and contribute nothing yourself, you’re an entitled, self centered jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:What if the DH does everything but the DW doesn’t ever say thank you

Wow just wow

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We don’t say thank you for every meal but we divide meal responsibilities equally so both of us cook a few times a week, and are responsible for planning whatever we’re cooking.

Our kids have been taught to appreciate the food in front of them and not to complain or even say if something tastes bad. This was ingrained to them by their dad when I was doing most of the cooking.

To be honest, my husband and I have a fairly equitable chore and responsibility load and I don’t think he or I needs to be thanked for pulling our weight. He does thank me for the extra load I carry around the house, from planning stuff, to signing kids up for stuff, etc. And I do thank him for the extra stuff he does like most long distance driving bc I hate driving.

My kids say their please and thank guys but I don’t thank them for doing stuff that is considered their chore or homework. I thank them for doing something extraordinary.

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Anonymous wrote:My family thanks me for making dinner, but if they don’t like it, they tell me that too.

Same here

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.