thanks for making dinner

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

I dunno. My husband thanks me for working and bringing in more $ than him at tax time since he does the taxes. I dont need a cookie but its nice to eb appreciated.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

No, I actually meant that my kid just doesn’t make her bed. If she did, I might say thanks. I thank my husband because he is doing MY laundry and the kids laundry, etc. It is fine if you don’t want to thank people. I think our household runs more smoothly with a spirit of gratitude. And the reality is that I’m much more of a slob than my husband so it is really nice that he cleans up after me some. I am a million times better at scheduling stuff so he appreciates that I handle most of that. I am also the primary breadwinner by quite a bit and while he doesn’t “thank” me, I know my husband appreciates my success. And I appreciate that he took on a ton of parenting burden while I advanced my career. This works for us. If you prefer not to thank your spouse, that is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

DITTO. It's good for kids to see and hear.

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Anonymous wrote:We thank the cook and the migrants, farmers who pick up the vegetables for us to eat. Not jesus, he'll no

Migrant farmers? That’s weird. Isn’t that like blaming Latinos for drug problems?

Yeah migrants and farmers brings food to your table and you eat it everyday. Be thankful boy.

Be thankful your child is not near to a Pedophile Catholic Priest. Be thankful

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Capitalism uses child labor. Big Americans companies uses child labor from Bangladesh and other poor countries. Think about that when you buy your iPhone or a tesla car.

The poor people are getting poorer.

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Lithium is the new gold and poor are gonna get poorer

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Amazon workers uses diapers. Sad reality

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Cooking can be hard. I do it too.
We do say thanks to each other and grateful for the nice and hardworking people working at the farms in any kinds of weather.
The weather has gone bipolar crazy. Many places on Earth crops started to die and farmers are losing money

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Thankful for another day, for surviving one more day

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

No, I actually meant that my kid just doesn’t make her bed. If she did, I might say thanks. I thank my husband because he is doing MY laundry and the kids laundry, etc. It is fine if you don’t want to thank people. I think our household runs more smoothly with a spirit of gratitude. And the reality is that I’m much more of a slob than my husband so it is really nice that he cleans up after me some. I am a million times better at scheduling stuff so he appreciates that I handle most of that. I am also the primary breadwinner by quite a bit and while he doesn’t “thank” me, I know my husband appreciates my success. And I appreciate that he took on a ton of parenting burden while I advanced my career. This works for us. If you prefer not to thank your spouse, that is fine.

Here is the thing, you don't know if your house runs smoother. It's just a preference. It's not right or wrong, it just is what you prefer.

I prefer that people do what they are supposed to do without needing a cookie or a trophy every single time. That does not mean we don't appreciate each other or show appreciation but we don't need it to "run smoothly" or "show love" or "feel appreciated". It's like paying kids for grades, some people do it, some don't. It's like paying your kids to take out the trash. I think you take out the trash because you are part of a household, some thing it's a chore that should be paid.

I think we are a well oiled machine that does not need a thank you for every single time a cog moves.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

I’m sorry, can you point to a post where any spouse thanked their husband for doing “his own” laundry? We’re talking about thanking each other for doing THE laundry, as in the household laundry. As in everyone’s clothes, sheets, and towels. Can you please show me the post where it is recommended that a spouse thank the other spouse for making literally their own dinner, that only they personally eat?

What an interesting life you lead, having arguments and getting worked up over things literally no one said.

For the example of thanking a child for making a bed, it’s more thanking them for taking those extra minutes to be responsible, because children are still young and learning and prone to forgetting or ignoring household rules and norms. If you’ve ever thanked your child even once for setting the table, brushing their teeth without being reminded, or packing their own suitcase, you are a *massive* hypocrite.

There are people that thank their kids for making their own bed, putting away their own laundry (after they did the laudry which seems crazy to me, kids should do their own laundry but okay), etc.

Just wondering the line.

Some thank for taking out the trash, some say they thank for dinner but not the trash because dinner is "complicated". Lol.

So I'm just thinking how insane my morning would be.. thanks for feeding the kids, thanks for putitng on their shoes, thanks for making coffee, thanks for turning on the lights, thanks for walking the kids to the bus stop, thanks for putting on their jacket, thanks for making 2 pieces of toast instead of 1 so I could have 1, thanks for turning up the thermostat, thanks for opening the blinds oh and closing them last night because I forgot, thanks for ... I mean there are so many things...

where is the line, it's seems insane to me. Plus I have a H who like quiet mornings. He's be like can you just "shut up".. in his head.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

I’m sorry, can you point to a post where any spouse thanked their husband for doing “his own” laundry? We’re talking about thanking each other for doing THE laundry, as in the household laundry. As in everyone’s clothes, sheets, and towels. Can you please show me the post where it is recommended that a spouse thank the other spouse for making literally their own dinner, that only they personally eat?

What an interesting life you lead, having arguments and getting worked up over things literally no one said.

For the example of thanking a child for making a bed, it’s more thanking them for taking those extra minutes to be responsible, because children are still young and learning and prone to forgetting or ignoring household rules and norms. If you’ve ever thanked your child even once for setting the table, brushing their teeth without being reminded, or packing their own suitcase, you are a *massive* hypocrite.

There are people that thank their kids for making their own bed, putting away their own laundry (after they did the laudry which seems crazy to me, kids should do their own laundry but okay), etc.

Just wondering the line.

Some thank for taking out the trash, some say they thank for dinner but not the trash because dinner is "complicated". Lol.

So I'm just thinking how insane my morning would be.. thanks for feeding the kids, thanks for putitng on their shoes, thanks for making coffee, thanks for turning on the lights, thanks for walking the kids to the bus stop, thanks for putting on their jacket, thanks for making 2 pieces of toast instead of 1 so I could have 1, thanks for turning up the thermostat, thanks for opening the blinds oh and closing them last night because I forgot, thanks for ... I mean there are so many things...

where is the line, it's seems insane to me. Plus I have a H who like quiet mornings. He's be like can you just "shut up".. in his head.

No way- you're being hyperbolic. As DH walks out the door with the kids, he kisses me goodbye and I say- "Thanks for getting the kids ready." We don't thank each other every time someone does something, but there is always gratitude underneath. We went to dinner with some friends and they were actually arguing at the table about laundry. On the way home, DH thanked me for always keeping our laundry going like a well oiled machine.

For kid stuff, no I don't thank them. But I will praise them "oh wow- you really have been keeping your room clean recently. It looks fantastic!"

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

No, I actually meant that my kid just doesn’t make her bed. If she did, I might say thanks. I thank my husband because he is doing MY laundry and the kids laundry, etc. It is fine if you don’t want to thank people. I think our household runs more smoothly with a spirit of gratitude. And the reality is that I’m much more of a slob than my husband so it is really nice that he cleans up after me some. I am a million times better at scheduling stuff so he appreciates that I handle most of that. I am also the primary breadwinner by quite a bit and while he doesn’t “thank” me, I know my husband appreciates my success. And I appreciate that he took on a ton of parenting burden while I advanced my career. This works for us. If you prefer not to thank your spouse, that is fine.

Here is the thing, you don't know if your house runs smoother. It's just a preference. It's not right or wrong, it just is what you prefer.

I prefer that people do what they are supposed to do without needing a cookie or a trophy every single time. That does not mean we don't appreciate each other or show appreciation but we don't need it to "run smoothly" or "show love" or "feel appreciated". It's like paying kids for grades, some people do it, some don't. It's like paying your kids to take out the trash. I think you take out the trash because you are part of a household, some thing it's a chore that should be paid.

I think we are a well oiled machine that does not need a thank you for every single time a cog moves.

Wow, if I hold the door for you, I don’t “need a cookie,” because I am making a choice to be polite. But being polite in return by saying “thank you” or even just smiling at someone for opening a door for you isn’t about “cookies,” it’s about basic appreciation and kindness. It’s very interesting that you are taking such a rabid stance that simple pleasantries is about giving or seeking “cookies,” and that somehow the world is better off without pleases, thank yous, and polite behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

No, I actually meant that my kid just doesn’t make her bed. If she did, I might say thanks. I thank my husband because he is doing MY laundry and the kids laundry, etc. It is fine if you don’t want to thank people. I think our household runs more smoothly with a spirit of gratitude. And the reality is that I’m much more of a slob than my husband so it is really nice that he cleans up after me some. I am a million times better at scheduling stuff so he appreciates that I handle most of that. I am also the primary breadwinner by quite a bit and while he doesn’t “thank” me, I know my husband appreciates my success. And I appreciate that he took on a ton of parenting burden while I advanced my career. This works for us. If you prefer not to thank your spouse, that is fine.

Here is the thing, you don't know if your house runs smoother. It's just a preference. It's not right or wrong, it just is what you prefer.

I prefer that people do what they are supposed to do without needing a cookie or a trophy every single time. That does not mean we don't appreciate each other or show appreciation but we don't need it to "run smoothly" or "show love" or "feel appreciated". It's like paying kids for grades, some people do it, some don't. It's like paying your kids to take out the trash. I think you take out the trash because you are part of a household, some thing it's a chore that should be paid.

I think we are a well oiled machine that does not need a thank you for every single time a cog moves.

Wow, if I hold the door for you, I don’t “need a cookie,” because I am making a choice to be polite. But being polite in return by saying “thank you” or even just smiling at someone for opening a door for you isn’t about “cookies,” it’s about basic appreciation and kindness. It’s very interesting that you are taking such a rabid stance that simple pleasantries is about giving or seeking “cookies,” and that somehow the world is better off without pleases, thank yous, and polite behavior.

You f’ing understand the reference to “cookies” do you?

I don’t take a stance against “thank you’s”. What I do take a stance against is that it’s better than limited authentic appreciation or expecting people to do the minimum without thanks yous.

It’s like trophies, or paying for grades. Sometimes you just want people / children to grow up with internal validation instead of needing external validation all.the.time.

But I see this at work, the person that needs a pat on the back for doing the minimum.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I thank each other for everything, including cooking dinner (he thanks me) and cleaning up dinner (I thank him). When he does cook dinner, I always thank him even though I don't particularly like it when he cooks; and I always clean and he thanks me.

There are a lot DH and I get wrong, but this is one thing we get right. We thank each other for taking out the trash, doing laundry, handling dinner and homework and bedtime if one of us has to work late, etc.

+1 we also thank our daughter when she does things around the house, etc.

You thank her for making her bed everyday?

I’m the poster that actually posted about thanking my kid. And actually, I don’t care about her making her bed everyday. But yes, I generally thank her when she does things that are her chores — like putting away her laundry or unloading the dishwasher. I probably don’t do it 100% of the time. But we just naturally says thank you a lot around our house. I mean, I do appreciate it when she does the things she is supposed to do. Just like I appreciate my husband doing the laundry and taking out the trash. I think the general spirit of thankfulness at our house is a nice thing.

So you agree it’s silly to say think you to some things, like making your bed.

You thank your H for doing his own laundry?

Nobody is saying that you should not appreciate a kind living house hold, but specifically saying thankful for not being a slob is weird to some.

It really comes down to the “do you want a cookie” for just doing stuff normal people do.

I’m sorry, can you point to a post where any spouse thanked their husband for doing “his own” laundry? We’re talking about thanking each other for doing THE laundry, as in the household laundry. As in everyone’s clothes, sheets, and towels. Can you please show me the post where it is recommended that a spouse thank the other spouse for making literally their own dinner, that only they personally eat?

What an interesting life you lead, having arguments and getting worked up over things literally no one said.

For the example of thanking a child for making a bed, it’s more thanking them for taking those extra minutes to be responsible, because children are still young and learning and prone to forgetting or ignoring household rules and norms. If you’ve ever thanked your child even once for setting the table, brushing their teeth without being reminded, or packing their own suitcase, you are a *massive* hypocrite.

There are people that thank their kids for making their own bed, putting away their own laundry (after they did the laudry which seems crazy to me, kids should do their own laundry but okay), etc.

Just wondering the line.

Some thank for taking out the trash, some say they thank for dinner but not the trash because dinner is "complicated". Lol.

So I'm just thinking how insane my morning would be.. thanks for feeding the kids, thanks for putitng on their shoes, thanks for making coffee, thanks for turning on the lights, thanks for walking the kids to the bus stop, thanks for putting on their jacket, thanks for making 2 pieces of toast instead of 1 so I could have 1, thanks for turning up the thermostat, thanks for opening the blinds oh and closing them last night because I forgot, thanks for ... I mean there are so many things...

where is the line, it's seems insane to me. Plus I have a H who like quiet mornings. He's be like can you just "shut up".. in his head.

No way- you're being hyperbolic. As DH walks out the door with the kids, he kisses me goodbye and I say- "Thanks for getting the kids ready." We don't thank each other every time someone does something, but there is always gratitude underneath. We went to dinner with some friends and they were actually arguing at the table about laundry. On the way home, DH thanked me for always keeping our laundry going like a well oiled machine.

For kid stuff, no I don't thank them. But I will praise them "oh wow- you really have been keeping your room clean recently. It looks fantastic!"

I can’t even imagine a world where I thank my h for getting his own children ready for school.

Actually can’t believe a grown man does not do his own laundry… don’t get me started on that one. Start your kids in middle school … laundry is as easy as taking out the trash. God help their spouse if you do their laundry for them.