Sidwell re-enrollment deposit snafu!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many groups. But the OPs keep so quiet and brownnose. I bet you OP didn’t even write the admin to inquire. Had they not sent her the apology letter (which no one I know asked for or received, and I know most people), she would not even know she had a made up issue to run here to complain about

I actually think OP is diagnosable. I’m guessing histrionic personality disorder; could also be an early attachment disorder and “inferiority complex”

All of you seem ... off.

[Anonymous]

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I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

Wow. That says a lot about how community member$ are valued. You can't complain unless you contribute. Nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

What IS your experience? You have never ever said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

Agreed. There are multiple people commenting on this thread about the school’s deficient leadership and communications. Some might have an “angry” tone, and others do not. Conflating them into one person is a form of delusion. By the time parents get to US, a large number of them see and acknowledge that the school is poorly run and is not all that it is cracked up to be. Many administrators also admit that the school could do much better.

List the deficiencies. This is ridiculous. Salem witch trials had more content.

[Anonymous]

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I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

Wow. That says a lot about how community member$ are valued. You can't complain unless you contribute. Nice.

I thought the big complainer claimed to be a major donor and a trustee, so your point misses the mark, doesn’t it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

Agreed. There are multiple people commenting on this thread about the school’s deficient leadership and communications. Some might have an “angry” tone, and others do not. Conflating them into one person is a form of delusion. By the time parents get to US, a large number of them see and acknowledge that the school is poorly run and is not all that it is cracked up to be. Many administrators also admit that the school could do much better.

I couldn’t disagree more. But stand to be corrected, with facts. The floor is yours.

If you have no facts, you are just a regular bi-weekly turd thrower OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s just one OP. From thread to thread. It’s always some vague lack of respect, poor communication and beef with the HoS.

How often has this person spoken up in any of our many many many meetings? Zero.

It’s all completely in her head, in my opinion.

You are mixing multiple people into one.

I am not the OP and don't have the OP's grief. I merely agreed that beyond OPs vitriol, that there is truth to the communications lapses and the disrespect (and I'll add disregard) of parents.

Our experience is only to the HS and this is not directed at HOS. It's great if you don't experience either of those issues or are enough "in the know" to not be affected by them. Most families I know who joined in HS experience these and grow to accept it's just the way it is.

It is possible to concur with these issues without the OPs anger or outbursts (or without the flat out denials of the other PP's who feel the need to shame others)

And as other PP suggested above - we absolutely follow this. " If I need more, I ask politely, I get it, and then don’t run to paste it all over the internet. See how that works? You should try it." We continue to do so and carry on. But it doesn't mean the underlying issues don't exist in the first place. Moving on.

I’m the PP who said the bolded. And I would put my money on the OP across the threads being the same person or just a very small group that’s perma-aggrieved. Other than when the kids are messing about at the um’s wine o’clock. A few questions for you to answer if I’m wrong:

What exactly is your problem with the communications? You never said and you keep schtum in all the meetings.

What exactly is your animus towards the HoS? Same as above.

What exactly would you do/want done differently? You never said.

Why do you run to dcum? I’m guessing a dopamine hit from tettletelling but would love to hear from you.

When will you stop? Is there a satisfaction point? I’m guessing not.

Why are you still “flipping the table” on this non-issue? How has it not been resolved? I didn’t even realize it was an issue and still don’t think it is with a more than satisfactory response from the admin you got. You’ll pay tuition one way or another and if you don’t realize how privileged you are that’s a shame.

The reality is that I can’t digest 50% of the communications we do receive every week because I have a busy and full life. If communications have been/get blander, we have you to thank in part, no?

I’m also still waiting on any response to any of the above that had any meaningful content other than saying there’s more than one of us. What’s your problem exactly please?

[Anonymous]

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I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

Wow. That says a lot about how community member$ are valued. You can't complain unless you contribute. Nice.

No, that’s not what was said or suggested. The point is that pp is trying to pigeonhole parents in a way that does not reflect reality. To pp, it is not possible for a parent to like the school and be supportive of it, and to also acknowledge where and how school could do a lot better than it does. To pp, any parent who finds fault in the school is a complainer who is “throwing a tantrum.” And the reality is very different.

[Anonymous]

No it’s not. The point is that you won’t say what’s your issue!
This is like a South Park episode. We have a complaint.
But
We want privacy! Don’t look at me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

Wow. That says a lot about how community member$ are valued. You can't complain unless you contribute. Nice.

No, that’s not what was said or suggested. The point is that pp is trying to pigeonhole parents in a way that does not reflect reality. To pp, it is not possible for a parent to like the school and be supportive of it, and to also acknowledge where and how school could do a lot better than it does. To pp, any parent who finds fault in the school is a complainer who is “throwing a tantrum.” And the reality is very different.

Last time. What is your list of these areas and the fact base that demonstrated the school
could do better, and how?
You don’t respond, you are throwing a tantrum. It’s as simple as that. And really tedious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

Agreed. There are multiple people commenting on this thread about the school’s deficient leadership and communications. Some might have an “angry” tone, and others do not. Conflating them into one person is a form of delusion. By the time parents get to US, a large number of them see and acknowledge that the school is poorly run and is not all that it is cracked up to be. Many administrators also admit that the school could do much better.

I couldn’t disagree more. But stand to be corrected, with facts. The floor is yours.

If you have no facts, you are just a regular bi-weekly turd thrower OP.

What exactly do you disagree with? You want me to relate on a public message board the conversations parents have had over the years with Robbie, Min, Bryan and others about how the school falls short? You want me to relate all the things that Keith openly said last spring to parents about problems at the school and how others in the administration admitted them? You want me to tell you what some trustees have acknowledged about the school and its leadership? You disagree that parents at upper school potlucks regularly talk about how badly run the school is? And then they laugh it off and say something along the lines of “well let’s have fun tonight, our kids will be done with the school soon anyway”?

I’m not going to get into detail, but these things are known to parents in the community. Not complainers either, just parents who see things as they are. Again, please tell us where you fit in the community. You have never said.

[Anonymous]

I fit in the bold letters, how’s that?
You still haven’t said. You just smeared people without any back up. It’s practically defamation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it’s not. The point is that you won’t say what’s your issue!
This is like a South Park episode. We have a complaint.
But
We want privacy! Don’t look at me!

This! Just go away with the innuendo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


I knew you couldn’t help yourself! You got an apology and a refund. What more do you want and how is the dcum a place to get it?
#perplexed #amused #boredbythislittleclique

Strange response. New poster to this thread, as I said. There is nothing wrong with wanting the school to be better administratively and to discussing issues on a public forum. That does not mean I have not also discussed my views with leaders at the school directly. I am also a major donor to the school and am not a member of any little clique. Sorry that I don’t fit into your narrative. There are many others like me as well.

Stop donating if you are that unhappy. Find a school that works better for you.

It is so strange that you think it works like this. Either "find a new school" or shut up and be happy? Stop donating why? I like the school and I also encourage them to do and be better. Which they know and admit that they can.

You must lead a very sad, mouse-like existence. Sorry for you.

I lead a very happy and content existence. Trying to make someone who disagrees with you look sad has just the opposite effect. I know this js how it works. Throwing a tantrum under the guise of "encouraging them to do better" is very transparent.

Who is throwing a tantrum? Not me, I promise you.

Tell me, where in the community do you fit in? How supportive of the school are you financially? What are you doing to support the campaign?

Wow. That says a lot about how community member$ are valued. You can't complain unless you contribute. Nice.

No, that’s not what was said or suggested. The point is that pp is trying to pigeonhole parents in a way that does not reflect reality. To pp, it is not possible for a parent to like the school and be supportive of it, and to also acknowledge where and how school could do a lot better than it does. To pp, any parent who finds fault in the school is a complainer who is “throwing a tantrum.” And the reality is very different.

Last time. What is your list of these areas and the fact base that demonstrated the school
could do better, and how?
You don’t respond, you are throwing a tantrum. It’s as simple as that. And really tedious.

There’s no point engaging in a detailed discussion with you on a public message board about specific facts. As you or others have said, DCUM is not the place to get into those details, they should be discussed with school leadership. As they have been. Without “throwing a tantrum.”

To deny that issues exist though is delusional. I understand that you can’t get the stars out of your eyes because your precious little one has the great fortune of attending the school of the Clintons, Bidens and Obamas. But people who see the school as it is aren’t complainers or throwing a tantrum just because you say they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That may be your individual experience. It’s not universal by any means. The attraction of an anonymous board is that I don’t know if I’m conflating more people into one, and I don’t care to find out, but I find it very hard to believe that there a multiple people with a nearly identical type of animus and odd expression style. My opinion is that this is not an issue and dcum is not the place.

I can assure you that my experience isn't an individual one. I also don't doubt that you (and others) have a different one. I have not aired some huge specific incident on DCUM, merely concurring two pretty broad brush characteristics.

Agreed. There are multiple people commenting on this thread about the school’s deficient leadership and communications. Some might have an “angry” tone, and others do not. Conflating them into one person is a form of delusion. By the time parents get to US, a large number of them see and acknowledge that the school is poorly run and is not all that it is cracked up to be. Many administrators also admit that the school could do much better.

I couldn’t disagree more. But stand to be corrected, with facts. The floor is yours.

If you have no facts, you are just a regular bi-weekly turd thrower OP.

What exactly do you disagree with? You want me to relate on a public message board the conversations parents have had over the years with Robbie, Min, Bryan and others about how the school falls short? You want me to relate all the things that Keith openly said last spring to parents about problems at the school and how others in the administration admitted them? You want me to tell you what some trustees have acknowledged about the school and its leadership? You disagree that parents at upper school potlucks regularly talk about how badly run the school is? And then they laugh it off and say something along the lines of “well let’s have fun tonight, our kids will be done with the school soon anyway”?

I’m not going to get into detail, but these things are known to parents in the community. Not complainers either, just parents who see things as they are. Again, please tell us where you fit in the community. You have never said.

No, why don’t you do an anonymous petition with your demands (again). 😂