Breaking up because there is a lack of physical attraction/chemistry

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and I totally get you, OP. I'm currently in the opposite situation: My boyfriend of 9 years has stopped complimenting me, stopped acknowledging when I've put in effort, never asks for pics anymore, even though I continue to bring it effort-wise. But, sadly, his declining interest kicks off a downward spiral that might be the death of this relationship. His compliments made me feel sexy, which inspired me to make the effort (on my appearance and in bed), and without them now, I feel defeatist and resentful, like why bother, he won't appreciate it. But the sex and chemistry was our glue. I've tried explaining this to him, to no avail.

(And to the people who will inevitably gloat about choosing their partner based on more than chemistry -- I had that in my previous, sexless marriage. No, thanks. I'd still prefer a series of 10-yr relationships that burn hot. I just don't know why he stopped "seeing" me.)

I think most men are serial monogamists or poly. They won't be that aroused in 10 years by the same women unless he's in he's in his 60s and literally there is no other woman to wait for.

[Anonymous]

I don't really have anything to add to the discussion here. Just wanted to pop in and post some unflattering, broad brush characterization of an entire gender based on my anecdotal observations.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a beautiful woman who is always on top of my game, and I date slightly chubby man who is very intellectual and makes me feel special. He is a amazing in bed, I don't even pay attention to his beer belly we are so compatible on pheromones level.

I love a beer belly. Not too big. I am not sure why I find it attractive. Perhaps it's non- threatening?

I objectively find a six pack nice and handsome, but sexually I don't get it at all.

Yes, I was never into model look in men. They all look bland to me, and I much rather enjoy walking on hills all dressed up to a "crazy professor" type. Yes, my BF is that type: he's not short but is bolding with beer belly. It makes me feel like I am so special when I am out with him, as if everyone is wondering if he has a big D. Yes, he does!

ha ha you ladies crack me up. I am also turned off by men really into their own appearances. An athlete who likes to workout, sure. Dude who gets a boner looking at his six pack, no thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a beautiful woman who is always on top of my game, and I date slightly chubby man who is very intellectual and makes me feel special. He is a amazing in bed, I don't even pay attention to his beer belly we are so compatible on pheromones level.

I love a beer belly. Not too big. I am not sure why I find it attractive. Perhaps it's non- threatening?

I objectively find a six pack nice and handsome, but sexually I don't get it at all.

Yes, I was never into model look in men. They all look bland to me, and I much rather enjoy walking on hills all dressed up to a "crazy professor" type. Yes, my BF is that type: he's not short but is bolding with beer belly. It makes me feel like I am so special when I am out with him, as if everyone is wondering if he has a big D. Yes, he does!

ha ha you ladies crack me up. I am also turned off by men really into their own appearances. An athlete who likes to workout, sure. Dude who gets a boner looking at his six pack, no thanks.

I dated a model once who was like this. Totally a turn off, even in my early 20s. Actually, I have always, always preferred a normal, bigger, heavier guy. Just way more attracted to that body type and being held by someone built that way. I’m very small and petite.